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I am a 36 yr old male who has lived with genital H for 6 yrs now. I have been seeing this wonderful woman that is a nurse for about a month now & I told her 5 days ago that I had H and she is still talking to me but I don't know if she will stay around much longer. She is really worried about getting it herself, if or when we ever get intimate. I was wondering if she could get H from my saliva if I perform oral sex on her. I do not recall ever in my life having a cold sore. I have had less than 10 genital outbreaks since diagnosed with H.

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If you only have genital herpes, then, no, you won't pass it on to her in your saliva during oral sex. It's spread through physical contact with the infection site. Hope things work out for you.

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If you use protection and your on meds or vitamins the chances become much lower. Being positive for 6 years the chances of you passing it are slimmer. asymptomatic shedding is more likely since at 6 years you tend to shed more then you would actully get a outbreak.

Sex isn't a big issue in a long term relationship if you choose to persue that most people that only want short term or sex based relationships won't accept herpes cause it forces them to change lifestyle if they get it. However most people that sleep around with 10 or more partners in a lifetime have a risk of picking up a variety of std's most are far worse then herpes.

If your nurse friend can't accept it she can't. She has to love you for who you are and not what you have. Its not the end of the world there are plenty of woman out there that would accept it and plenty of men that would accept it as well for woman.

If you need to talk more the forums are always here and there are full of caring loving people that will gladly help you.

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Lady Friend Still?

Hi,

I'm trying not to judge here, but I haven't come across a nurse that is "wishy washy" over a dis-ease. If anything, your lady friend ought to be quite familiar with the do's and don't's about herpes.

If she runs out the door, per se, then she's not the woman for you. There is someone for everyone. Don't panic and don't have fear about a partner. You will find "the LoVe of Your Life."

Have FAITH!

(by the way, are you two still talking?)

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Hi,

I'm trying not to judge here, but I haven't come across a nurse that is "wishy washy" over a dis-ease. If anything, your lady friend ought to be quite familiar with the do's and don't's about herpes.

If she runs out the door, per se, then she's not the woman for you. There is someone for everyone. Don't panic and don't have fear about a partner. You will find "the LoVe of Your Life."

Have FAITH!

(by the way, are you two still talking?)

Awake your truely awesome my friend.

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Hugs Back at Ya!

I think I have strong enough faith that I'm not even searching for my next partner.

When we are ready, at the right time and place, we will meet up and we will know...just k n o w, that we were meant to be.

Until then, I have a great time being single! ha ha!!

Awake67

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???

I am really shocked...with the fact that being a nurse you know about diseases and know how to protect yourself from them. I am a medical assistant and I have GH. I have studied, learned, and have seen all types of cases and understand the risks involved. I do not understand why on earth people treat others as a statistic, why they are not educated about the disease....it urks me. Herpes is not at all what "society" thinks it is. hopefully she will educated herself about the disease. Not only that she is probably exposed to worse on the job and has a higher probablity catching something worse...than being exposed to herpes. If proper precautions are taken the risk is decreased alot. Herpes is everywhere that is what others do not understand that do not have the disease. Even my grandmother has been exposed at one point in her life...no one is safe from it. If she doesnt accept you...trust me someone will definately accept you!! Keep the faith and good things come to those who wait....;)

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Thank You

You are very sweet Starphyse. Your Lady-friend is lucky to have a support system like you in the home. Thank you also for supporting others here on this site.

Whatever will be, will be.

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You are very sweet Starphyse. Your Lady-friend is lucky to have a support system like you in the home. Thank you also for supporting others here on this site.

Whatever will be, will be.

Awww thank you all I have to do now is get her into my bed and im set. She is such a angel I could hug on her all day. Other stuff too but as always romance and love first.

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