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Hi, I have been away from this site for quite some time. I met someone new who I really like - we talked online only for 3 months before we met; today was our 3rd date and I can see where it is heading so I disclosed today via email (because I am profoundly hearing impaired, people sometimes misunderstand what I am saying so email is easier). Now I am worried that it might have been too early to disclose, I don't know. before I disclosed I was worried that if I let it go too far and then tell him, and he dumps me then the hurt would be much bigger; by disclosing today now I am worried that he might dump me so no relief there (as of now he has been reacting ok). I just can't be dishonest and not say anything. So far, I have never been rejected for having herpes. This guy though means a lot to me, I really like him - it took me 7 years to finally find someone who feels right for me.

On top of everything - herpes, decreasing hearing, Meniere's, bilateral vestibulopathy, I was also diagnosed with breast cancer 6 months ago, am cancer free now, it was caught in time - when it rains, it pours - as usual.

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Hi windsong, welcome back. Unfortunately, there is no magic answer and every person and relationship is different. If you felt it was the right time, then it was. He may need some time to process this and educate himself. In any event, I do know how hard it is to keep putting yourself out there, but it is the only way to find love. I wish you the best, sweetie. Keep us posted and let us know how it goes.

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Well sounds like your fear has got the best of you. It's so much easier to not take a leap of faith and through that faith we have the indescribable feeling of learning to trust. You obviously have your doubts and I'm sure he has his baggage all so. F$&@ it give it a shot that's why they call it love.

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