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So, my partner gave me herpes. We've both been tested and the results are in. So my question is, how does this change our sex life? Since, he gave it to me I can assume that we have the same strand or whatever, so sleeping together without protection shouldn't be an issue right? Also, how does this affect oral sex? can I give him or sex and vice versa or do we risk transmitting the infection to our mouths? I have a pretty good sex life, I'm not looking forward to that going up in smoke. I'd really appreciate any advice or answers you all could give me. thanks so much.

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If you got hsv from your partner then you have the identical same virus. This is not to say that your experience will be identical because your immune system is unique.

If your partner and you have been participating in oral sex all along and your partner had the same habits with his previous partner don't be surprised if you both are infected both orally and genitally and that you only get obvious ob's in one location. Logically if he had genital herpes ob's and you had genital contact you could have been infected genitally but lets just say that at the same date you also gave him oral sex and kissed him the virus could be moved around to all locations. If he previously had cold sores and you kissed him and performed oral sex on him he could have his coldsores transmitted to his genitals because you were infected orally and then it could be transmitted to you genitally the same way.

You obviously would not want to have sex during ob's because this could further infect each other in new areas but if you have examined the risks and are okay with this part of your relationship it should not change your sex life very much.

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