How do I keep moving??

[TSV1212]

I've been going absolutely bonkers, just can't stop thinking about the mess I've made for myself. I've been dealing with this for over a month and just want to scream and cry but I can't, even when I try. How did everyone get through the initial shock and move forward?

[JBnATL]

What helped me the most was learning about what I had. I realized that medically this is not that big of a deal. The flu virus kills 30,000 people a year so next to that this is nothing. 90% of all adults have this virus in one form or another and almost all live normal lives.

What helped me overcome the stigma was meeting others who had it. Seeing other, normal, people who had it was very reassuring. Then over the years as I dated more and more women and found that none of them really cared about it I was able to realize it really isn't a big deal.

Where do you live? There are a lot of support groups out there. Also there are dozens of secret Herpster Facebook groups too and most of them are based on geography. So chances are there is a group near you.

I hope you get to feeling better soon!

JB

[Scared12345]

I went to counselling and I did lots of research to learn about H. I kept it to myself therefore had no one to talk to. I drove myself crazy because I thought everything was an OB. Still causes lots of anxiety. Like that's what I thought about having sex yesterday unprotected!

[TSV1212]

Thank you both so much. Yes, I have done nothing but research and read everything I can on the subject. I've lost 20 pounds in the last month because of my constant worrying. I know it doesn't help but I don't know how to snap myself out of it. Plus, I'm getting ready to move across the country so I'm so stressed.

[Scared12345]

Try to find something to help you relax. I take my dog for a walk at the park I find it relaxing. I am going through lots of emotional stress with my Ex and I am afraid of triggering an OB. Just started sleeping with someone unprotected and that's all I think about what if I passed it. Same with my ex

[TSV1212]

I should get my results tomorrow but I already know that I am positive. I was having itching down there this morning so grabbed my mirror and I can see a few bumps in there. This isn't the way it appeared the first time so I guess the OB can be different every time. Relax, I don't remember what it is like to not have a care in the world but I will try. Thank you for responding, it's nice to know that you are there and understand what I am going through.

[Scared12345]

Pop 3 lysine and take anti virals right away.

[TSV1212]

I did take the lysine but since I haven't been officially diagnosed, I don't have antivirals. My blood test should be in tomorrow. What meds are you on and have they helped you?

[Scared12345]

I don't get frequent out breaks so I am probably not the right person to ask. I don't even know if I had a 2nd OB. I was diagnosed through vision. You kill the virus faster when treated Right away. Eat some garlic, put garlic on the sore , lemon, raw honey. These all have anti viral properties. I used to be on valtrex for first 8 months or so. I didn't have an OB but o was dating someone and didn't want to transmit it. They got more expensive so I went natural. I take 500mg of olive leaf extract, eat 1 to 2 tsp of garlic, use raw honey in my coffee instead of sugar, 1500mg of lysine and vitamin b complex helps body deal with stress snd fatigue. I also put lemon in my water for vit c and anti viral properties it has .

[ladywarrior_777]

I just recently got diagnosed and was in utter shock. I've ALWAYS been a faithful girl who has only been with a man in committed to. So me giving this to my boyfriend made my heart sink! Him and I originally thought my OB was me having an allergic reaction to something, but to my surprise it was this nightmare. The only thing that really pulled me through is my boyfriend believe it or not. Instead of him being royally pissed and leaving me he did the opposite, I gave him herpes and he still wants to be with me no matter what WHICH WAS A COMPLETE SHOCK but he knows my heart and who I am so he knows I would've never cheated.

Another thing too is being on here, going through all the different posts on this forum and it really really made hints not as big of a deal. It really isn't as horrible as society makes it out to be EXCEPT FOR THE NASTY PRIMARY OB. I gave my worry to God and left it at that. Time doesn't heal all wounds, it's what you do with the time and I'm not gonna spend it crying about it when I can't change it. I just have to accept it and do what I can to keep it under control. Honestly it's really not going to be that bad as long as we keep our immune system under wraps. We will survive and if there's a bad day there's places like this forum to help.

It could be worse..... You could have HIV think positive! I know I'm trying!!

[Scared12345]

Thus great to here. Much easier when You both have it

[BT2015]

I was diagnosed a few weeks ago.. I was trying to convince myself that it was nothing and that it would go away in time but as days went on the pain and the outbreak got worse.. I was so scared to tell anyone.. especially my boyfriend.. We have been together for 5 years and have been talking of marriage and having children.. When I finally told him something was wrong he went with me to the doctor and gave me support.. I was shocked. I was so scared he would leave me. I felt disgusting and unattractive.. I never once cheated on him and I didn't want him to think of me as this disease tainted girl.. when I got my diagnosis I broke down in the doctors office.. I couldn't believe I had this disease.. All I could think about was my children.. when I have children will they have this too.. it broke my heart.. when I told my boyfriend the results I expected  anger or disappointment  but I got the opposite.. He simply told me in sickness and in health. I can honestly say he and God are what is getting me through this..

[Sanguine108]

First two months were the hardest for me.  Getting herpes is like falling from Grace.  You just have to pick yourself up and realize what you need to do lift your soul back on and upward.   Let go of the past, take care of your wounds, talk with friends who understand... honestly, if the other person doesn't have herpes then they will not at all understand.  I went to an acupuncturist and that helped tremendously during my first 2 months.  To give me energy, clear out the eminent issues and give me some space to figure this out with some ease.  We dilly-dallied with some herbal formulas (he wasn't the best herbalist to empathize with herpes), I ended up figuring out the herbs on my own.  I stabilized but I would get these sores that wouldn't heal.   So I took St.John's Wort.  Oh my God, life changer.   If you're not on any antidepressants or had brain surgery then consider SJW.

I'm just going to post some links for you to mull over.

http://herpesawareness.org/herbal-remedies.html

http://www.nutritionalwellness.com/archives/2009/august/08_phytotherapy.php

SJW regenerates nerves, it's super anti-hsv/antiviral. It's an immune tonic... It's so much.  HSV is a nerve affliction. So you must mend and strengthen the nerves to get above this.