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Recently I had been dating a guy who has HSV-1 - occasional cold sores .. etc. I wasnt informed of this till last night when we broke up.. We spent this long weekend together , first time sleeping together- tons of kissing. 

 

My mouth has been burning, im terrified I've accepted the fact that this is probably my new reality, that theres nothing i can do but wait to know 100% that life and dating as i know it are basically over. Excuse me if i offend anyone but im so confused, and so scared that maybe this is worse then i thought. Ive gone google crazy and read everything i can on my current symptoms and signs but it would be nice if i could actually discuss what im feeling. Last night (almost 20 hours ago ) my whole mouth was burning, itchy and irritated, this morning i woke up to a nice red patch by my lower lip.. Basically coming to the conclusion that this is infact my first "cold sore" now From statistics i've read cold sores are pretty normal many people have HSV-1 and even HSV-2.. i was super happy to find such a large community which is making me feel less and less alone should this be one of that hardest things ill have to deal with.. Being 19 i feel like my lifes just started , but i feel like its all ending at the same time from one stupid relationship with a dishonest person. My biggest concern was that from back and forth kissing all weekend , to oral sex, and interocurse.. is it a huge possibility to also have Genital herpes as well from contracting his HSV-1 ... he has no clear signs of it, no cold sores present - ( from my research thus far im aware that its not necessary to have signs to still spread the virus.. ) But what are the chances? I feel like im feeling symptoms all over , orally and gential as well .. is it all in my head? Or should i really start looking at my life as being.. different. Im so scared, its hard enough dating , not being skinny, pretty, well educated, but throwing herpes into the mix i feel like ill never find me "person" I want to find someone to give all my love to, to settle down and have kids and the white picket fence life.. Did i just limit my chances of that ? Im so scared... Again im sorry if i offend anyone , but I just never thought this could happen to me..

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Hi, thats what i felt from the first time i knew that i have this kind of worm inside my body, dnt be negative just make yourself positive always dont get into stress. We have a community support about this virus all of us can get thru this. Read other posts it can make you feel better. I promise

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Your definitely NOT alone! I'm 19 aswell & i know exactly how your feeling. But it does get easier, trust me. First you should consider medical help to see what they tell you & what they would recommend you do. OR you can browse through all the forums here & find your answers. As for cold sores i've never experienced. But genital herpes? I have! If you feel like its itching or you see anything abnormal, apply coconut oil, ive been told it kills the virus right when it starts on the skin. Or you can try Desitin ointment, its diaper rash. My last outbreak was painful & terrible i applied that & within a matter of 4 days everything was clearing up down there. Not to mention i was also on Valtrex. 

This is a great place to have your questions answered & to get advice. You wont regret it. I felt like ending my life & i felt like i had ruined my life aswell. But as i learned more about the virus i felt more at ease & everyones advice made me feel so much more secure about having herpes. Its not the end! Dont let this define you! You are still the amazing, beautiful person you always were! 

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Your definitely NOT alone! I'm 19 aswell & i know exactly how your feeling. But it does get easier, trust me. First you should consider medical help to see what they tell you & what they would recommend you do. OR you can browse through all the forums here & find your answers. As for cold sores i've never experienced. But genital herpes? I have! If you feel like its itching or you see anything abnormal, apply coconut oil, ive been told it kills the virus right when it starts on the skin. Or you can try Desitin ointment, its diaper rash. My last outbreak was painful & terrible i applied that & within a matter of 4 days everything was clearing up down there. Not to mention i was also on Valtrex. 

This is a great place to have your questions answered & to get advice. You wont regret it. I felt like ending my life & i felt like i had ruined my life aswell. But as i learned more about the virus i felt more at ease & everyones advice made me feel so much more secure about having herpes. Its not the end! Dont let this define you! You are still the amazing, beautiful person you always were! 

Thank you.. I do feel like its burning and itchy down there. i'm confused. Maybe its just from frequent sex? Sorry tmi. Or is it really herpes? Its really uncomfortable, and all around my lips is burning as well. I'm terrified really.. All I've ever wanted was to find someone and settle down with them.. Im doing so well for 19! I have an amazing job, a brand new car.. after getting over years of depression and anxiety and hospitalization for other issues i was finally at a point in my life where my issues where just the past.. i feel like its all coming back because of this. its terrying, i do just want to die.. im so embarassed.. and i feel so alone.. Thank you for replying.

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If it is burning & itching i think u should take a look w/ a mirror & if u see any sores or lesions u should definitely act out on it now. the sooner u take care of the outbreak the less time it'll take to heal. Frequent sex can actually cause a outbreak thats how my second one came about, not enough lubrication & also friction. The worst! U should really take a look. Theres actually a search engine here u can type in anything u wanna know about the oral cus im not too sure about that but many have remedies or medicines they use to get rid of the cold sores in their mouth u can check it out 

Trust me i totally understand you!! I suffer from depression & anxiety. & im taking it day by day & when i found out about herpes i felt like my life was over, especially that im soo young. & u cant die people need u here & u have so much more living to do . Your not alone, 90% of adults have herpes. & it doesnt only come from sex so no need to feel embarassed about it 

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It would look kinda like an open blister, shiny at the top. Thats a sore. As for a lesion it might be white, slimy, look like a cut. Im trying to describe as best i can. Because my last outbreak i had both. Sorry if its not much help. As for to calm the itching, burning & anything in between u can try an epsom salt bath. Putting a cold compressant. Or coconut oil, i really recomment the desitin ointment maximum strength. It helped me w/ everythingggg. 

But as i said before u can just search around in the forums & look for answers or other remedies that might be useful 

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