A week ago had sex with someone who has hpv2

[Broken-hearted]

It happend to me too, to have a stand night out and being lied about his sexual health.

ive been shocked when he admited that he lied and that I could be infected as well and live with herpes hpv 2 for the rest of my life..... It's the last pain that I don't think i m going to be strong enough to live with .

PLEASE,

what chances are out there for me not to contact the virus ?! 

Are there any..?! Can I still hope I could have being getting away ?! 

He wasn't having a outbreak when we had unprotected sex .

 

Help pleaseeeeee

 

[WilsoInAus]

A single episode would carry about a 1 in 1,000 risk. How long ago was the encounter?

[Acesheart]

It happend to me too, to have a stand night out and being lied about his sexual health.

ive been shocked when he admited that he lied and that I could be infected as well and live with herpes hpv 2 for the rest of my life..... It's the last pain that I don't think i m going to be strong enough to live with .

PLEASE,

what chances are out there for me not to contact the virus ?! 

Are there any..?! Can I still hope I could have being getting away ?! 

He wasn't having a outbreak when we had unprotected sex .

 

Help pleaseeeeee

 

Hey Broken-Hearted, I have genital HSV2 and I'm married to a non h man for over 25years. We do everything every other married couple in the world does, we have oral pleasures as well and these past few years he still test negative. Just because someone has herpes doesn't mean they will absolutely pass it on. Did that partner definitely have it, was he EVER properly tested? Some people get misdiagnosed and just assume they have it. http://thehairpin.com/2013/11/how-i-found-out-i-didnt-have-the-herpes-id-been-living-with-for-four-years/ please read this article...

May I ask have you properly tested with an HERPESELECT IGG BLOOD TEST? 

I have lived with Ghsv 2for almost 30 yrs, I remarried after I was infected. We have a daughter, built a home and live and love every minute of our life together and NOT once has my herpes ever stopped us from achieving our dreams. Get tested sweetypie, this guy could have anything, something way more serious. Get checked and never be afraid to ask anyone about their testing for sexual health. Today is a different generation, we must be vigilant when it comes to protecting our bodies. Take care sweetypie. Hugs Aces 

[Scared12345]

I have had 2 partners unprotected and I have not passed it! 

[Scared12345]

You are most contagious on ur first year 

[Broken-hearted]

A single episode would carry about a 1 in 1,000 risk. How long ago was the encounter?

thank you for your reply. 

9 days ago. 

 

[Broken-hearted]

Hey Broken-Hearted, I have genital HSV2 and I'm married to a non h man for over 25years. We do everything every other married couple in the world does, we have oral pleasures as well and these past few years he still test negative. Just because someone has herpes doesn't mean they will absolutely pass it on. Did that partner definitely have it, was he EVER properly tested? Some people get misdiagnosed and just assume they have it. http://thehairpin.com/2013/11/how-i-found-out-i-didnt-have-the-herpes-id-been-living-with-for-four-years/ please read this article...

May I ask have you properly tested with an HERPESELECT IGG BLOOD TEST? 

I have lived with Ghsv 2for almost 30 yrs, I remarried after I was infected. We have a daughter, built a home and live and love every minute of our life together and NOT once has my herpes ever stopped us from achieving our dreams. Get tested sweetypie, this guy could have anything, something way more serious. Get checked and never be afraid to ask anyone about their testing for sexual health. Today is a different generation, we must be vigilant when it comes to protecting our bodies. Take care sweetypie. Hugs Aces 

hello there.

congratulations for a happy life, wonderful, I'm sure you deserve it. 

i can't be thank full enough for you replied to my question, you're an angel right now 

i shall give you more details about my experience:!

first thing first , he lied about his sexual health , and admited only the following day  ( why would someone do this  disappointing ) 

HE got diagnost with the virus 12 years ago, and his last outbreak was 4 months ago. .... We really like each other, but even so , there's a battle in my heart of doing the right thing .... We are still dating and making love like crazy  Using condoms.

i do want to get tested , just in case I'm not going to marry him and need to know where I stay with my sexual health. 

How long is recommended to wait before doing a blood test please?! Last unprotected contact has been on the 7th of September . 

I have been to a few sexual health clinics to discuss this matter, but I ended up being more confused than before, they all have different opinions .

Please , I'd appreciate yours tooz

Thank you .

[Acesheart]

Hey Broken-Hearted, honey I'd suggest 3weeks after you and he first had sexy times should be sufficient. Some people's bodies take anywhere from 2-22 days to take an IGG BLOOD TEST. I want to ask you this first, absolutely No disrespect meaning here okay, have you ever properly tested before? How sure are you that you've never been exposed to either type h1 or h2 ? I'm only asking because so many people have it especially h1 from childhood and they never even know it. They usually get it from older family members who don't know they have herpes or that it can be passed to others in the family. It is also possible to get herpes with a condom. Many don't realize this. It's possible to have it for decades and never have had an outbreak.  Most doctor's will never test for simple cold sores, ever unless you are having them frequently. This can be a tricky virus but it can be controlled with medication (for suppressive therapy ) and by keeping your diet and body's immune system in good working. 

Please do let me know how it goes. Also planned parenthood will BLOOD test you if you tell them you were exposed to herpes by this partner.

You asked WHY would anyone be intimate with you and NOT tell you upfront? Only he can answer this. My best guess would be he feels something deep for , maybe he was afraid you would run away, maybe he was afraid of never holding you sweetly in his arms? It's still no excuse, but only he can answer this sweetypie. We all want to be accepted, NOT judged, I would bet the person he got it from didn't Disclose to him either. Many don't, my first husband didn't.

If you two are still together, this shows how much you care and it should show him how much you trust him. Talk to him. Maybe y'all get tested together.

Another point is if he does have the virus for that long, he's well past the first few contagious years. He can take suppression Valtrex or its generic Valacyclovir for daily therapies which will less the outbreaks and lessen the chances of transmission, also it heals the outbreaks much quicker. I took Valtrex for 25 yrs straight, two yrs before I married and 23 after we married. I got off them my husband was ecstatic! He never wanted me on them and I've only had 3 outbreaks ever. This 3rd outbreak is from all these current surgeries I'm having and stresses they are causing me mentally. This is what I'm dealing with now so I'm taking Valacyclovir now.

Talk with him about these medications. Maybe you two are meant to be together, nothing is stronger than LOVE, herpes doesn't even come close to the importance of being with that right partner, sexually and spiritually.   HUGS Aces 

[Broken-hearted]

Hi Aces! The guy I was discussing before and I have continued to see each other and he has purchased valaciclovir however he hasn't done any research and before he starts taking it we wanted to find out some further information. I know he has taken aciclovir in the past when he has had an outbreak, but this has only been a short course to help him through the outbreak. He wants to take valaciclovir for a prolonged period to try and help manage/minimise his condition having read online that it can help. You mentioned taking it for a long period of time so I wanted to know if there ever any side effects or longer term health risks that need to be considered before he starts taking it? Appreciate any help or advice x

[Acesheart]

Hi Aces! The guy I was discussing before and I have continued to see each other and he has purchased valaciclovir however he hasn't done any research and before he starts taking it we wanted to find out some further information. I know he has taken aciclovir in the past when he has had an outbreak, but this has only been a short course to help him through the outbreak. He wants to take valaciclovir for a prolonged period to try and help manage/minimise his condition having read online that it can help. You mentioned taking it for a long period of time so I wanted to know if there ever any side effects or longer term health risks that need to be considered before he starts taking it? Appreciate any help or advice x

Hey sweetypie, I didn't have any side effects from this daily suppression therapies. I got , and still do, yearly blood test to monitor my organs functions mainly kidneys and liver , I'm an organ and blood donor  ! You said he purchased this antiviral, didn't he see a medical professional? That doctor should have made a health plan with him to test for organ functions. My many physicians said that is routine when you are given long term medications. This Valacyclovir is generic for Valtrex, it stays in body longer which is why it is usually taken one pill (500 mg a day) for daily suppression therapy. It contains acyclovir. It last longer in the body than just taking a 400mg of acyclovir. It's usually given by doctor's when you are in relationships and having regular sexy times with your partner. I was married and chose to continue taking it for 25 yrs, first few years (10of them) I used acyclovir since Valtrex & Valacyclovir were NOT invented when I got diagnosed. See I'm showing my age, internet wasn't invented either. Lol... He really should be monitored if he plans on using daily therapies. It's important. Hugs Aces 

[everywhereigo]

This is going to sound a little bad, so spare the judgment please. A few months ago I had sex with a married man. He and his wife have an open relationship so she was fine

with me getting together with her husband. I just got a text from him saying that his wife has just turned up with hpv. I'm not sure if I gave it to him and he spread it to her or if he has

inadvertently spread it to me. In either case it sucks because we all have hsv anyway. So broken-hearted, I know where you're coming from. One std is bad enough, but two? Try explaining that on your next date.  I've decided to be celibate anyway. Life.

[dingodyno]

quick question, if you have genital HPV and have had sex twice with CONDOMS, with a partner you just met and that dosent have anything, would it be possible still for her to get the HPV vaccines? or would it be to late already, since i heard Condoms only protect the penis from spreading HPV but that they can still get from other parts of your genitals that are infected as well, any help would be greatly appreciated 

[Broken-hearted]

Hey sweetypie, I didn't have any side effects from this daily suppression therapies. I got , and still do, yearly blood test to monitor my organs functions mainly kidneys and liver , I'm an organ and blood donor  ! You said he purchased this antiviral, didn't he see a medical professional? That doctor should have made a health plan with him to test for organ functions. My many physicians said that is routine when you are given long term medications. This Valacyclovir is generic for Valtrex, it stays in body longer which is why it is usually taken one pill (500 mg a day) for daily suppression therapy. It contains acyclovir. It last longer in the body than just taking a 400mg of acyclovir. It's usually given by doctor's when you are in relationships and having regular sexy times with your partner. I was married and chose to continue taking it for 25 yrs, first few years (10of them) I used acyclovir since Valtrex & Valacyclovir were NOT invented when I got diagnosed. See I'm showing my age, internet wasn't invented either. Lol... He really should be monitored if he plans on using daily therapies. It's important. Hugs Aces 

hello Aces,

how are you? Has autumn brough you good beginnings?

There are not enough words in the world to thank you for sharing everything you know or experienced about this virus with ,, us" ( the guy and I are in a relationship , or at least our minds aren't busy with anyone else for the moment). ...will be a month on thursday. My first one so ,, intense" in my Last 8 years ( i ve recentele turned 31, But i havent Been Lucky at love Chapture ) .

I still need to educate myself about how careful we must be when we make love , there's this thing in my head which sometimes make me say that I'm not sure if I'm still with him because of being afraid of being infected and left alone , or because I really like him. Ohhhh dearrrr.... This life it's so miserable for some of us.. It's so much more complicated, he is married, not divorced because of money reason...has a 8 y daughter .... And I'm ,, limited" in dreaming a future with us..... 

here am I, tonight, alone in my flat, having a moment of reflection, listening some classical music and having simptomes like the cystitis one, being sore down there ....:-(( very sore when passing urine. All started with a severe headache last night...had it for the whole night.... I felt very weak today , I literally didn't moved out of my bed just to have food and went back in....shivers and soreness has started this afternoon. 

I used to feel the same when I had UTI-s ..... 

 It's how a first break simptomes start?! 

what do you think ?? 

Thks in advance 

[Acesheart]

Hey Broken-Hearted , sweety I'm puzzled as to his excuses for NOT being divorced. That's a red flag honey. If someone wants to be with you and shows his love to you he would get that divorce. By him NOT getting his divorce means he is as we say "having cake (wife) and eatting it too (dating you) ! My ex husband was married and my giver, I'm sure he told many lies to get women to lie down with him. It's a road to disaster for you sweetypie. He has a wife, a child and what do you get out of this situation? Don't play sloppy seconds to his wife! If he wanted to be with you he would be exclusively with you and his daughter would still see her father so whatever bullocks he is feeding you is suspect.

My husband and I make love, have oral pleasures just as any committed couple would, we don't protect him from me that's NOT even in our vocabulary. He doesn't fear me or the virus, that's ridiculous. If you want to give yourself to a man who quite possibly is still giving himself to other, please make sure YOU use protection because those females may NOT know what STD or illness they have and this sweetheart puts you at greater risk for something serious. Herpes isn't that serious and it won't kill you or prevent you from having children. Many things out there go undetected because ladies and men don't get regular proper testing for so many things. Oh and get some vitamin b 12 complex use 1500mcg , it's a sublingual liquid so two dropperfulls a day, or pills use two pills 500mg a day. Get some Epsom Salts for the bathe waters use about a half cup and add to bathe, soak the lower part of your body. After bathe gently dry and apply Zinc cream, Desitin Baby diaper rash cream (in Purple tube contains 40%) apply after the area is dried and go commando, No panties, let that area get some air and by morning you are sure to feel better  ! 

Please protect yourself!!! I know you have deserve way More respect from any man YOU choose to share your heart and body with.  From where I sit he is living large for a married man and you sweetypie are being disrespected and under appreciated for the beautiful person you are. Don't EVER settle for being second in your life, you deserve to be number one  ! Hugs Aces xo 

[Broken-hearted]

Hello Agnes. 

I like your new profile pic.

I miss sharing with you my inner thoughts,

about relationship and this experience with this married guy.  The advice I had from you it made me truly think through all this situation.  I have no one really to speak with but I still

knew it's wrong ... in the back of my mind I thought he will be with me and he will divorce whenever he feels,out of love for me. 

i have clear proofs he isn't living or staying with his ex lady , only married on the papers.

One day I opened the subject..... As I feel I'm putting blockages for a future relationship just because subcounstently  I know he can't be mine. 

Since, we both are muuuuchhhh more distant to each other. I honestly, as you said, I deserve a better man... Plus i started seeing things which I don't like about him ...

moreover, I am aware that I have a problem dealing with men, I simply look for things that I don't like just so I can move on. .....

its sooooooo sadddddd

I am going to leave this one alone,

to do whatever he prefers....and I pray to God to be not infected. I still don't know...maybe thats why I have still accepted to see him , being scared that I am going to be in something like this alone. 

Now, with the biggest risc, I must move on...... I CANT DATE A MARRIED MAN.

 

thank you sooooo muchhhhhh ,I have no words to express how pleased I am I came across you.

Anytime you want to talk, you have a friend.

thank you