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Im seventeen years old, and i just found out i had herpes yesterday... the docter took one look and said thats almost certainly what it was. I tried to talk to my ex boyfriend about it who gave it to me and he called my a bullshiter, a drama starter, and a dirty hoe. I found out that he'd been cheating on me with three other people at once when i was with him. He moved to another province a week or two ago and doesn't believe that he gave me the virus. Im so scared.. this is all way too new to me. I did everything i could to prevent something like this from happening. Ive always been very clean, and i refuse to have unprotected sex. When i got with him, i made him and myself get tested to be safe and we were both clean which is why i guess he doesn't believe me. The funny part it this kid is sixteen years old. Ive been talking to my other ex who lives a fair distance away as well and his reaction was not nearly the same. Hes twenty six. He told me that "people, well the special ones, will understand and still love you for who you are. It doesn't make or break you."  He still believes in me and loves me despite my horrible decisions. He even stated that he wouldn't be surprised if he had it because of the statistics of it, which he shared with me, and that he should get himself tested as well as a precaution. Hes been very supportive. What makes what happened with my first ex so ridiculous is that he raped and tried to kill me in february, while stupid high on a mixture of prescription medications he'd been fed by a "friend" of ours. It took me a long time to learn how to forgive him for that and understand that he hadn't been in the right mind, but i learned a really hard lesson here: when people show you who they really are, you must believe them, because it might be the only time they dont lie to you and manipulate you.

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blistering love

hey, welcome, dont worry about your current bf, guys dont mature till they're 33, so emotionally hes a toddler. As for your ex bf, did you report him for the rape? This must be so hard for you, to go through a rape and then have this diagnosed. You'll get through it, but i think you should really speak to someone about this, a counselor, a friend, parent,relative.Good on you for taking the first step :) stay strong.

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