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[flower petals 1]

I got diagnosed with herpes hsv 2. And I'm shifting through how I feel about it and how I want to feel about it . I never thought something like this would happen to me. The guy who gave it to me says he's pretty sure he doesn't have it . But it couldn't be anyone else Because after having sex with him I had my first ob but I dismissed it as a yeast infection . He told Me after a year of having sex with me that he didn't like me like that.. way to rub salt into a wound . He told me I'm dramatic for thinking he liked me like that but I'm dramatic because all I ever wanted from him .. was him .. And all I got was herpes. I'm scared . I'm hurting . And this is the worse time to feel these emotions. I wonder if I'll ever be enough for anyone besides sex.. I never even had sex with anyone else unprotected but him or protected ..when the ob happened. I remember it . It was a year ago .. And I thought it was a yeast infection from using the wrong products. I'm so stupid . 

[Sillybrain]

I just want to give you a big hug and say it will be alright but I know that lost, hopeless feeling. It's like you're just existing. 

I am sorry this has happened to you and that people are such jerks. 

Apparently it gets easier. I want to know when.

i should count myself lucky as I have a wonderful bf who is helping me through this and so he should seeing as he is the reason I'm in this predicament lol.

xo

[blistering love]

You're not stupid.Alot of people initially think they have an ingrown hair, razor burn, jock rash, a cyst,pimple- the list goes on before they think of herpes! I know what cold sores looked like and when i looked down at myself it looked like an infected ingrown hair which i have been prone to before. Even doctors get it wrong by just viewing it.Stop beating yourself up over this.It's not your fault, he'll get his karma. Use this experience as a wake up call to never put your self worth and all your emotions on someone elses shoulders.People will use it against you,and you'll never be happy. Instead focus on you! Even if you get the perfect guy, there's no guarantee hes always going to be there, you must learn to enjoy your own company, and love yourself,that is the only protection any of us have in not getting completely damaged by another person. Best wishes, take care!

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”

― Albert Einstein

[Acesheart]

I got diagnosed with herpes hsv 2. And I'm shifting through how I feel about it and how I want to feel about it . I never thought something like this would happen to me. The guy who gave it to me says he's pretty sure he doesn't have it . But it couldn't be anyone else Because after having sex with him I had my first ob but I dismissed it as a yeast infection . He told Me after a year of having sex with me that he didn't like me like that.. way to rub salt into a wound . He told me I'm dramatic for thinking he liked me like that but I'm dramatic because all I ever wanted from him .. was him .. And all I got was herpes. I'm scared . I'm hurting . And this is the worse time to feel these emotions. I wonder if I'll ever be enough for anyone besides sex.. I never even had sex with anyone else unprotected but him or protected ..when the ob happened. I remember it . It was a year ago .. And I thought it was a yeast infection from using the wrong products. I'm so stupid . 

Hey flower welcome sweetheart  ! I got my ghsv2  from my partner first husband, so much for first loves. I married him , was in total love with him, would have given my life for his. He gave me this, denied it, laughed in my face when I confronted him and told me to "Get Over It" so with a good divorce attorney I did just that  . Now I am remarried and I got my happily ever after after that first ordeal. I have daughter too  .

How were you tested, may I ask? If this guy has never tested he could possibly have it too. If you had had any other type of sexy times like oral sex with another besides him, you could have gotten it that way as well. H1 is usually in Oral location, but it can and does transfer to the genital area when sexy times are given. Not all genital H is h2, it can be either such as h1 gone to genitals. My daughter told me oral sexy times isnt sex, many here have said that too, but it is sex, it just isn't vaginally compromising. Herpes can stay dormant in the body for decades, mine did 23 yrs straight, so if he was the only guy who has ever given you sex in any forme (oral or vaginal) than that is the ONLY way to know for certain it did in fact come from him. He seriously needs to test since he is prolly the guy who is passing to unsuspecting girls. But that is not for you to worry yourself over sweetgirl.

Just because he chooses to be an ignorant ass does not affect you. You came here to get support and education about herps and move on from him. He doesnt define who or what you can have. He doesnt make life choices or decisions about your life. Trust me when I say Karma will catch up to him for his actions and you will not have to bear that burden. Be grateful if he did, that is all he gave you. So many worst things then this.

Start by giving yourself some credit for the wonderful person you are, smart , intelligent and great hearted and drop him from your thoughts. He isnt worth your time, so therefore give him none. The next guy you meet may be your Mr.Right so love yourself not for what you have but for what you are and have to offer another  ! Take care honey, Hugs Aces 

[VVK]

...The guy who gave it to me says he's pretty sure he doesn't have it . ...

 

He must be pretty sure about a lot of things then.

 

I wonder if I'll ever be enough for anyone besides sex..

I think other posters have done a good job in their responses to your topic. I just want to add to this particular part of your post: you don't need to wonder, all you need to do is to focus on being the best person that you can be and learn to let the right people into your life. If you've developed a pattern of bad relationships, look at what the common denominator is that is shared between all the guys and what drew you to them in the first place. Break the cycle. Learn from your mistakes and get to know your dates better (screen them thoroughly) before you turn them into your sexual partners.

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