First sexual encounter after diagnosis

[Carver]

So I was positively diagnosed with HSV about 3 weeks ago, I don't know if it's 1 or 2 bc I have to wait until my body builds antibodies.  I'm certain this was my initial outbreak bc it lasted a little over 3 weeks, I became sick with flu like symptoms for the first 4 days of my outbreak  and I'm VERY aware of my body and sexual health. I'm certain I contracted it from the guy I'm currently seeing by receiving oral sex from him at the beginning of his HSV1 outbreak. My outbreak happened  4 days after we had a 5 day vacation together with lots of oral and normal sex involved and his cold sore popped up around the time my outbreak happened. I am now on daily suppression meds, and my outbreak is finally gone. We have NOT had sex since my symptoms started.   We are going on a trip in less than a week to see his family and will be together for about 5 days. Is it to soon to have sex?  As upset as I am about contracting  HSV he didn't give it to me on purpose and feels awful about it. He was so uneducated about what cold sores really were (I didn't know he got them until I was already exposed).  How worried should I be about giving it back to him genitally? 

Edited September 20, 2015 by Carver

[november13]

It's not impossible but it's rare to pass HSV1 genital to genital. On top of that, it's harder to pass from female to male than male to female. And since he already has antibodies, that's supposed to lessen the risk even more. AND you're taking daily suppressants, which reduces the risk another 50%. 

This is a great handout you can show him which shows the general risks: https://herpesopportunity.com/downloads/herpes-opportunity-disclosure-handout.pdf

You can't be 100% sure you won't pass it on to him, but it's really unlikely. The risk of passing it is a little higher during the first 6 months-a year since you're building antibodies, but don't worry about it too much. I had sex within the 1st six months and didn't pass it on...

[Carver]

Thank you! I appreciate it!

[Singlemomoftwo]

Hi November13, you had sex within the first 6mths? Damn and here I am thinking I should wait 12 mths (with an uninfected partner, that is when I don't get rejected). I am a woman with g-hsv 1 and I passed it on to a man - unknowingly ( I thought I had a UTI ) who now has g-hsv 1.

Wondering if we can pass it on to each other orally now (kissing, after giving each other oral) or if a woman 2mths into g-hsv 1 can pass it on to an uninfected man by kissing him on mouth and thus him ending up with o-HSV 1...?

[Scared12345]

I had sax immediately after my sores were gone, it was painful and 3 came back the next day!!!

[musumegirl]

I think its pretty slim transferring it as long as you don't have an OB. Especially because his hsv is active (ie: cold sores). However, it may be a good idea to see how your body handles its for a couple months.

Ghsv1 has been really mild for me. I haven't had an OB in 5 years pretty much. I "think" I might of had a single bump inc Oct 2014 but it was so mild I can't confirm. I still disclose because its still genital herpes. When I first got it I was so angry. Same situation as you. The guy I was seeing was uneducated on it (and apparently this had never happened before). But its gotten so much easier over time. Best of luck <3