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Hello,

About 2 maybe 3 weeks ago I felt what i thoughtw as hair bumps around my vagina. They looked like cuts. .I went to see my OBGYN this week when I noticed the cuts turned into painful and itchy bumps around my vagina. She immediately asked me had i been tested for herpes before. I told her a month ago i was tested and everything came out negative.  She asked me if they checked my blood and i told her not at that visit., but in the past it was.  Apparently you get more accurate results when you get blood test.  She asked me about my partner and i told her my bf and i have been together for almost a year and i haven't been with anyone else. She said she was going to test me for HSV-2 and that this looked like an initial OB and that its possible this was recently contracted. I immediately started to cry.  I turn 27 in 2 weeks and I have never had an STD before now. 

She had to test a bump from my outbreak and I must say that is the most painful thing I've ever experienced!!!! They then took my blood and said they were going to check for antibodies.  

I then realized i had to tell my BF and i needed answers to a lot of questions.  We talked  and cried together. he said be hasn't been with anyone else and I do believe him. He has never done anything to make me question my trust for him, or to make me think he was unfaithful.    He said he hasnt been tested for anything since a few months before we met. That led me to think that he possibly contracted it and didn't know. 

Im just confused as to how this could have happened to me out of the blue.  I have read so much on how HSV-2 can be transmitted and how some people do not get initial outbreaks so they don't know they have it. I feel like i got it from him and he said he feels responsible. 

He is making an appt worth his doctor to get tested and i am waiting for my blood work to come back next week.  I feel like that will say a lot. My doctor said the antibodies will tell if it was recently transmitted or not. 

My bf and i are trying to work through this tough time. He is very supportive and says he is here for me no matter what.  I  have ny ups and downs.  I cry a lot and im sometimes depressed. I am still having my OB today and the itching and pain is better than it was yesterday. Is there anything you all suggest to speed up the OB process? 

I will keep posting and keep you all updated on what's going on.

thanks for reading.  

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Hey Mpj welcome sweety. Have you asked the boyfriend if he has EVER gotten fever blisters or cold sores? The herpes simplex virus can lay dormant for decades and just suddenly appear in an outbreak. Cold sores are h1, this can be transferred to the genitals when oral sex is received by a partner with cold sores. Just because the outbreak is genital does NOT mean you have type h2. If you've EVER had sexy times or oral pleasures with anyone , it's possible you could have gotten it then. If you have family members who have cold sores, you could have been exposed at childhood. Many people get as children but just never remember having sores, this is why I asked about the boyfriend, he could have it Orally but just never have properly tested with HERPESELECT IGG BLOOD TEST to determine if he carries the virus. Please let us know what type of blood test you get and that test should show numerical values, numbers for each type h1 and h2, BOTH types can and do switch places, h1 can be genital and Very Rarely does h2 go to oral locations, it doesn't survive well in the oral location, it prefers it's home location of the genitals. Keep us posted honey. Hugs Aces xo 

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Hello Aces. Thank you for responding! 

According to my bf he hasn't had any issues down below. He's not sure if he was tested with the Herpes Select IGG bloodtest. But im insisting he get tested. He agreed, however, i don't see any sense of urgency behind it. I went to the doctor on Thursday,  it's Tuesday and he still has yet to even look up any doctors. 

On another note,  the itching had been unbearable tonight.  Seems to itch now more than before. It's 2am amd its so hard to sleep! I tried the hydrpgen perpxide, the ACV not working. .. tea tree oil had helped a little. ... but its still itching! !! Could that be is trying to heal??? Probably not huh. ..::wishful thinking::

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Yes, itching is a sign of healing. Get some Epsom Salts for the bath waters add about a cup to warm water and soak. After the bath apply some baby diaper rash cream, Desitin has 40% Zinc Oxide, this helps also with itching and healing. Desitin comes in purple tube and BOTH Epsom Salts and Desitin can be purchased at any pharmacy or chemist. Hope this helps sweety. Hugs Aces xo 

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You are a life saver thank you. I woll be picking Destin up today. Have you heard of Super Lysine Plus by Quantum? I was told that is supposed to work well.  

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Have you heard of Super Lysine Plus by Quantum? I was told that is supposed to work well.  

I like that product.  I don't use it every day but I think it's a good supplement especially in the beginning.   The thing about hsv is that it's lifelong and you might as well try out and experiment with these different remedies.  Some may work better than others.  Plus, Super Lysine Plus is like $8 for 60 pills.  It's just good to have in the medicine cabinet, if you ask me.

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Ok. I do plan on getting some.  I trird some Desitin last night. It worked well. I also noticed my menstrual trying to come on.. as if i didnt have enough issues going on down there.. ugh! I'm saying goodbye to tampons and hello to pads (which i hate! ) could this potentially make my OB worse?  It seems to be clearing up. :: Fingers crossed::

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Ok. I do plan on getting some.  I trird some Desitin last night. It worked well. I also noticed my menstrual trying to come on.. as if i didnt have enough issues going on down there.. ugh! I'm saying goodbye to tampons and hello to pads (which i hate! ) could this potentially make my OB worse?  It seems to be clearing up. :: Fingers crossed::

Well for some ladies the mens cycles can seem to make the ob linger, but for me it just seems to be more messy down there. The Lysine wasn't around 30 yrs ago and I've only tried it on 2nd ob. This last outbreak I  am using Acyclovir cream but this medication is way too expensive . It cost me $107.00 and I really just used it so my outbreak wouldn't spread, it didn't, still in anus area but it's lingering longer than I'd hoped it would. Try that lysine cream if it works then use it. The Lysine pills made my stomach ulcers worse so I stopped them. Try several things, remedies to see what works best for your body since all our individual bodies are unique to us. Hugs Aces xo 

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Hello Aces! 

My test results came back. My culture sample treated positive for HSV2 but my blood work was still negative. The doctor said that it is a very new infection. They want me to get tested again in 2 months. 

Even though i knew it was a new infection,  hearing the results made me emotional all over again.  My bf is making an appt this week to get tested. We are trying to work through this.  It's been very hard. 

 

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Hey sweetgirl, yes if it's a new infections the blood test won't detect the antibodies since the body hasn't had time to build any. If it's new and you've only been with the boyfriend, it's a hundred percent that he is the source of your herpes. Meaning you both probability have same strain and you two have each other for support and without a visible outbreak making love should be easy. You cannot give him what he already has and the chances of this ghsv 2 going to oral locations are Rare. This h2 prefers the genitals dark area location it calls home. Working through this together shouldn't be difficult at all. My Ghsv 2 stayed dormant for 23years after my initial outbreak. My husband of 26 years is still negative for herpes. It is possible the boyfriend had this form very first sexy times experience and just never had  a recognizable outbreak. Talk things through, don't play the blame game and LOVE each other. Life's too short to waste. Keep me posted sweetheart. Hugs Aces xo 

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@Mpj1307 was there oral sex involved in the week leading into your symptoms appearing?

Please check whether the culture has been correctly typed for HSV-1 and HSV-2. Some doctors just assume HSV-2 given the genital location.

Your boyfriend's results will interesting.

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On 11/2/2015, 4:09:58, WilsoInAus said:

@Mpj1307 was there oral sex involved in the week leading into your symptoms appearing?

Please check whether the culture has been correctly typed for HSV-1 and HSV-2. Some doctors just assume HSV-2 given the genital location.

Your boyfriend's results will interesting.

Yes, i was tested for both. Hsv2 was positive. . 

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On 11/2/2015, 6:31:01, Acesheart said:

Hey sweetgirl, yes if it's a new infections the blood test won't detect the antibodies since the body hasn't had time to build any. If it's new and you've only been with the boyfriend, it's a hundred percent that he is the source of your herpes. Meaning you both probability have same strain and you two have each other for support and without a visible outbreak making love should be easy. You cannot give him what he already has and the chances of this ghsv 2 going to oral locations are Rare. This h2 prefers the genitals dark area location it calls home. Working through this together shouldn't be difficult at all. My Ghsv 2 stayed dormant for 23years after my initial outbreak. My husband of 26 years is still negative for herpes. It is possible the boyfriend had this form very first sexy times experience and just never had  a recognizable outbreak. Talk things through, don't play the blame game and LOVE each other. Life's too short to waste. Keep me posted sweetheart. Hugs Aces xo 

I totally agree. I can't lie, at first i was angry... im still dealing with it but i was so angry at him.  I just wasnt sure what to believe.. had he cheated,  did he have it before getting with me, did he know about it. . So much stuff. But we are working through it. He has been supportive ..

Im now just wondering will the itching ever stop.. its sometimes so unbearable!  My skin on my bottom looks like it's peeling... and its so sensitive and itchy.  Ill be glad when this initial outbreak is completely over with. 

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Yes sweetypie the itches/prodrome symptoms will decrease. Using the remedies you've learned about here will assist this healing process. Taking care of you and doing your best to keep stress out will help in a huge way too. I take vitamin b 12 complex sublingual liquid for anxiety and stresses. It also supports good nerves health and relieves stresses and gives much needed energy. You can get the sublingual liquid at any pharmacy or get the pills. If using liquid use one dropperfull under the tongue 1500mcg twice a day. If taking the pills take two a day. This should also add to your regime for healing. I'm happy you two are communicating it's most important in any relationship. Hugs Aces xo 

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