Newly diagnosed! Want to die

[Type1aus]

Diagnosed as hsv type 1. Fear about disappointing parents and boyfriend leaving. Want to die every single day!

[lostrose]

Greetings, I have ghsv1, I promise you that it is not at all as bad as it seems, when i first told my mom she disappointed  but then she has also been supportive, your parents love you and want the best for you at so at the end of the day they will get over it. Herpes does not have control over your life, YOU DO. I've had this for 5 years I promise you will start to live again, and find love, even great sex. Please don't let the gray cloud leave you in a deep depression because you are going to get passed this and be happy again. this is all from someone who felt thee same way you did when i first found out.  

[Type1aus]

Thank you Lostrose. My parents are never strong enough to handle all these. Since I'm the only child, I take on a lot expectation from them so I'm so concerned about their reaction when they found out... Plus the fact my boyfriend doesn't admit my hsv1 was due to his oral cold sore.

[Acesheart]

11 hours ago, Type1aus said:

Thank you Lostrose. My parents are never strong enough to handle all these. Since I'm the only child, I take on a lot expectation from them so I'm so concerned about their reaction when they found out... Plus the fact my boyfriend doesn't admit my hsv1 was due to his oral cold sore.

Hey Type1, welcome honey. I am a Mother of one college aged daughter and I understand your scared sweetheart, but having Ghsv 1 is less problematic then Ghsv 2, and its harder for females to transfer this type, also being it's type 1 you may never get frequent outbreaks as those of us with Ghsv 2.

My daughter is bisexual and she is terrified of her father finding out. She confided in me since she's my only child, we have an amazing mother daughter confidentiality bond and we say "what daddy doesn't know won't hurt us, lol. Are you close with mother? You would be surprised at how much we, mom's, want our children to confide in us. We want y'all to trust us , we would move heaven and earth to protect you, our babies, and talking to us eases our hearts and minds and allows us to help you in any way shape or form. Remember only having that one child means your mother would probably want to know your hurting, your in need of love and support and she most probably would be grateful you chose her to confide in. I'd kill for my daughter and I paved the path between she and I, she knows she can tell me anything. She was was convinced of this when I disclosed to her I have Ghsv 2 and that I was married before and that I'm a  member of this site, family community, she expressed how proud she was of me and I  of her for knowing we can tell each other anything. She ask sexy questions and I give her correct information. Her friends have always talked to me openly. If you cannot talk to your mother, you can always talk here or to me.

I lost a child, a son, several years ago and I'm no longer able to conceive. Please don't ever think that leaving this earth before God's choosing is an option. I speak from the heart in saying my daughter is all I live for and if I lost her my heart would never recover. Being a mom we want what our babies want to be happy, to feel complete and to be healthy. If this bf will NOT show you the respect or support you deserve, than he isn't worthy of your time or your heart. I'm here if I can help. Let me give you a big motherly hug sweetheart. Hugs Aces xo 

[JBnATL]

On 11/13/2015, 8:01:44, Type1aus said:

Diagnosed as hsv type 1. Fear about disappointing parents and boyfriend leaving. Want to die every single day!

Please realize what you have is only a virus, a very common, mostly harmless virus.  Nothing more.  Realistically your parents probably have hsv1 too.  90% of all adults have it.  You probably have a dozen other viruses in your body right now too.  There isn't a human alive that doesnt have a virus in their body.  Be thankful your boyfriend didn't give you the flu.  That virus kills 30,000 people a year so next to that this is nothing.

Did you ever have chicken pox?  If so, then you already had herpes.  Chicken pox is caused by the herpes zoster virus, while not exactly the same as herpes simplex they both cause sores and stay with you for life.  

Do you have any pets?  Did you know most other vertebrate animals can get a virus called herpes?  Not exactly the same kind as human herpes but still a virus called herpes.  Dogs, cats, horses and even penguins can get herpes.  I swear there is a beluga whale here at the Georgia Aquarium that gets cold sores

Learn all you can about what you have and you should realize it isn't that big of a deal.  Millions of people have herpes and live completely normal lives.  I have had this virus for a very long time and it hasn't stopped me from living a great life.

Good luck!

JB

[Type1aus]

4 hours ago, Acesheart said:

Hey Type1, welcome honey. I am a Mother of one college aged daughter and I understand your scared sweetheart, but having Ghsv 1 is less problematic then Ghsv 2, and its harder for females to transfer this type, also being it's type 1 you may never get frequent outbreaks as those of us with Ghsv 2.

My daughter is bisexual and she is terrified of her father finding out. She confided in me since she's my only child, we have an amazing mother daughter confidentiality bond and we say "what daddy doesn't know won't hurt us, lol. Are you close with mother? You would be surprised at how much we, mom's, want our children to confide in us. We want y'all to trust us , we would move heaven and earth to protect you, our babies, and talking to us eases our hearts and minds and allows us to help you in any way shape or form. Remember only having that one child means your mother would probably want to know your hurting, your in need of love and support and she most probably would be grateful you chose her to confide in. I'd kill for my daughter and I paved the path between she and I, she knows she can tell me anything. She was was convinced of this when I disclosed to her I have Ghsv 2 and that I was married before and that I'm a  member of this site, family community, she expressed how proud she was of me and I  of her for knowing we can tell each other anything. She ask sexy questions and I give her correct information. Her friends have always talked to me openly. If you cannot talk to your mother, you can always talk here or to me.

I lost a child, a son, several years ago and I'm no longer able to conceive. Please don't ever think that leaving this earth before God's choosing is an option. I speak from the heart in saying my daughter is all I live for and if I lost her my heart would never recover. Being a mom we want what our babies want to be happy, to feel complete and to be healthy. If this bf will NOT show you the respect or support you deserve, than he isn't worthy of your time or your heart. I'm here if I can help. Let me give you a big motherly hug sweetheart. Hugs Aces xo 

Thank you Ace. Your comments make me feel really warm and positive. My parents are very conservative and I'm sure they cannot take the fact. However comparing to losing me completely I'm sure they want me alive and around. I feel so sorry and guilty to hurt my parents in that way but contracting ghsv1 is not what I want, nor my boyfriend realise his cold sore can cause the problem! I have been crying and feeling hopeless. Luckily I still have my boyfriend. But if one day he leaves, I will lose complete hope as nobody will accept me with hsv1...then I will completely lose hope for entire life...

[Type1aus]

5 hours ago, JBnATL said:

Please realize what you have is only a virus, a very common, mostly harmless virus.  Nothing more.  Realistically your parents probably have hsv1 too.  90% of all adults have it.  You probably have a dozen other viruses in your body right now too.  There isn't a human alive that doesnt have a virus in their body.  Be thankful your boyfriend didn't give you the flu.  That virus kills 30,000 people a year so next to that this is nothing.

Did you ever have chicken pox?  If so, then you already had herpes.  Chicken pox is caused by the herpes zoster virus, while not exactly the same as herpes simplex they both cause sores and stay with you for life.  

Do you have any pets?  Did you know most other vertebrate animals can get a virus called herpes?  Not exactly the same kind as human herpes but still a virus called herpes.  Dogs, cats, horses and even penguins can get herpes.  I swear there is a beluga whale here at the Georgia Aquarium that gets cold sores

Learn all you can about what you have and you should realize it isn't that big of a deal.  Millions of people have herpes and live completely normal lives.  I have had this virus for a very long time and it hasn't stopped me from living a great life.

Good luck!

JB

Thanks JB. I read you comments thoroughly and agree what you are saying. However adjusting myself is not an easy task. Plus this kind of virus/disease is not accepted in my culture. Or maybe yes but not before marriage. This is my main concern and worry hence feeling hopeless.

[Free73]

Hi Type1,

I'm a fellow Australian, so you are not alone. We are all going through this together.

Just consider your language when you post here. I understand how you feel, we all do, but when we make comments like 'I want to die', we have to think about what this is doing to other people on here who read those comments. Even if we are feeling desperate, we need to be careful about the language we use, because it makes us all much sadder when we read comments about death and suicide. Let's think about each other as much as we think about ourselves.

We are all going through this together. Sending you a hug.

[Terrell]

On November 14, 2015 at 9:02:50 PM, JBnATL said:

Please realize what you have is only a virus, a very common, mostly harmless virus.  Nothing more.  Realistically your parents probably have hsv1 too.  90% of all adults have it.  You probably have a dozen other viruses in your body right now too.  There isn't a human alive that doesnt have a virus in their body.  Be thankful your boyfriend didn't give you the flu.  That virus kills 30,000 people a year so next to that this is nothing.

Did you ever have chicken pox?  If so, then you already had herpes.  Chicken pox is caused by the herpes zoster virus, while not exactly the same as herpes simplex they both cause sores and stay with you for life.  

Do you have any pets?  Did you know most other vertebrate animals can get a virus called herpes?  Not exactly the same kind as human herpes but still a virus called herpes.  Dogs, cats, horses and even penguins can get herpes.  I swear there is a beluga whale here at the Georgia Aquarium that gets cold sores

Learn all you can about what you have and you should realize it isn't that big of a deal.  Millions of people have herpes and live completely normal lives.  I have had this virus for a very long time and it hasn't stopped me from living a great life.

Good luck!

JB

JB my only fear is transmission I used daily antivirals and condoms with shorts but my wife didn't want me wearing condoms and boxer shorts so I lose her why I didn't know we were together  over14 years then I informed her of my culture for HSV 2 and she changed she had hsv1 for years I didnt

Edited November 21, 2015 by Terrell