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Hello there, just keen to see if there are any Aussies on this... But low at the minute just been told I have been infected :( would love to chat to people close by or in general 

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From Sydney here.......hang in there. Just give yourself time to let everything soak in. It will be a surreal feeling for a while, but that desperation and hopelessness you feel now will subside over time. For me, that took around 6-8 weeks. The biggest challenge is no doubt around future relationships.

If you are in NSW you can access counselling from the sexual health clinics at the public hospitals

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Thank you Free73. It's nice knowing that I'm not alone. I'm hopeful that this dark cloud will eventually go away I'm just scared. Like you say it is hard. Im just thinking arghhhh what about the future and meeting someone who will be ok with this. I'm just praying for a cure in more ways than one. Thanks for you're support. Appreciate people taking time out to listen :-)

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Adelaide here. There are a couple... but the ones I know don't come so often now. I know I don't anyway.

As with everyone, "it gets better".. but no one likes hearing that :)

 

Peace

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If you haven't already done so, I recommend you consider telling close family and friends. It helped me a lot to feel like I wasn't keeping a dark secret. I told my parents, brother and three close friends. All have been very supportive and it's great that I can talk to them if I feel low or depressed.

I also joke about it and take the piss from time to time........laughing at something like this helps take the power away from it. You won't be ready to do that yet, but down the track it may help.

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On 7 January 2016 at 0:32 AM, Free73 said:

If you haven't already done so, I recommend you consider telling close family and friends. It helped me a lot to feel like I wasn't keeping a dark secret. I told my parents, brother and three close friends. All have been very supportive and it's great that I can talk to them if I feel low or depressed.

I also joke about it and take the piss from time to time........laughing at something like this helps take the power away from it. You won't be ready to do that yet, but down the track it may help.

Yea maybe your right, I just don't know how i would get the words out. It's good that your more comfortable with it now. I think because it's so fresh it's harder. Like hearing the news I felt like I'd been shot! It's awesome that you have a good support group around you like friends and family etc and that you can make light of the situation. It Def helps talking to people when depressed so thank you :-)

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1 hour ago, williamsondiamondmine said:

Hey, let chat, maybe i could be off help.. williamsondiamondmine@gmail.com

Hey, sure we can chat. Where are you from? Help would be awesome.... Cure would be even better :-)

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They're working on trial vaccines but not much luck. To me, health wise, herpes has had little effect on me. I had my initial outbreak in July last year (all of 3 lesions and it hurt to pee for a few days) The man flu I got was hell!! Since then I've had no problems. I haven't Changed my diet or anything. Rather than finding a cure, they need to remove the revolting stigma attached to herpes. No one bats an eye lid about cold sores! Why is (essentially the same thing) stigmatised cause it's spread via sex??

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Should see the reaction men make when they see unopened tampons. I had a bf who said it was disgusting that women had bowel movements- said there too "ladylike" to do so.The stigma comes from scared little boys.

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@blistering love I'm a guy, FYI. I don't know what you mean by "scared little boys" but the two non-positive girls I've disclosed to ran for the hills. One was 24, the other 25. The stigma roots back from the stupid fear campaign from the 70's when the pharmaceutical companies were trying to hock Zovirax! Until then, no one cared about cold sores or herpes. Just the word "herpes" sounds dirty. Why can't it just be called "Genital cold sores"? Until getting diagnosed myself, I knew a little about cold sores and thought nothing of them. Herpes however, back then, I thought was as bad as HIV. Again! No education or public knowledge. Ignorance is bliss, huh? :(

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sorry, was a bit of a generalization. The men i disclosed to was 25- 30, i guess age doesn't change maturity. Yeah, it wasn't mentioned in nursing manuals till the 70's. Same here, i was only informed on HIV due to all the movies ive watched.I haven't seen one movie or book referencing to herpes. I wish someone would make a movie about it.

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What they need to do is educate people. Every STD was mentioned in sex ed in school except herpes (I'm 30 btw). Close people I've confided in didn't know herpes and cold sores are the same thing (just different types of HSV). No one knew an STD screen DID NOT check for HSV unless you specifically ask for it. People don't know jack about viral shedding -which is a major contributor to HSV being spread. (Especially type I to the genitals from oral sex.) A lot of people get cold sores as kids, their bodies suppress the virus and they don't get breakouts. However, they shed around their lips and "go down" on their partner and potentially put them at risk of type I.

You are right though. A movie or something needs to be made. I cried and almost drank myself to death after being diagnosed. Where did I turn for info??? F**king Google! Worst thing I could have done.... :/

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They sure do.I went to a christian all girl school, we didn't learn anything about STD'S. They just expect most of us to wait till marriage, which failed, as a lot of girls ended up pregnant.i hate how the doctors just make me feel like im being over dramatic when i talk about it.I was always scared about HIV and getting knocked up.Yeah, i didn't know anything about herpes.I feel so stupid for not researching it.Me too, well i didnt drink i just gained weight, and tried to top myself. Me too, google can be so scary, just type in pimples into google images and it comes up with the scariest, worst cases.Imagine what someone types in for herpes. It's a bloody disgrace, but what can we do about it, only one or two people out of millions actually own up to it and publically announce it. The rest of us just to turn to these websites, and suffer in silence. 

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Hi from WA…..!!! 

There used to be quite a few of us around these parts. 

You may have seen it already but check out the Living Sphere website for local info - its a super friendly page with really friendly Aussies. They also organise meet ups every so often if you fancy getting out and mingling with fellow herpsters.

And of course you are feeling low - we've all been there before so can certainly sympathise with the shock and fear. This is a great place to ask questions or let out how you are feeling. I know it was a godsend for me for the first year. 


I'm on the other side of things now…. and since my diagnosis 6 years ago where i thought I'd never find anyone, I've met and married a wonderful chap who still remains H free and we now have two kids! So there is light at the end of the tunnel. 

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17 hours ago, MissHope said:

Hi from WA…..!!! 

There used to be quite a few of us around these parts. 

You may have seen it already but check out the Living Sphere website for local info - its a super friendly page with really friendly Aussies. They also organise meet ups every so often if you fancy getting out and mingling with fellow herpsters.

And of course you are feeling low - we've all been there before so can certainly sympathise with the shock and fear. This is a great place to ask questions or let out how you are feeling. I know it was a godsend for me for the first year. 


I'm on the other side of things now…. and since my diagnosis 6 years ago where i thought I'd never find anyone, I've met and married a wonderful chap who still remains H free and we now have two kids! So there is light at the end of the tunnel. 

Hi @MissHope Always good to read a nice happy ending. For now, I'm concentrating on me... Not trying to "find" someone. If a nice girl comes along, time will tell. 

May I ask, what is the living sphere website?

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