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Assalaam Alaikum Brothers and Sisters,

I just just signed up and thought this is worth a try in helping me InshaAllah  I am hoping this website will help me in my search. I reverted last year to Islam. Alhamdulillah. However, I am living with hsv2 after contracting it from an ex who never told me. I am very embarrassed by this virus and I prefer to marry someone who has the same situation InshaAllah.  I believe it's easier for me. It decreases the chances of me being rejected, I believe. I am Black. 31yrs young hehe :)  Never married. Have no kids. Living in Toronto, Canada. My ideal match would be male (28-35yro) who also resides in Canada.  I'm not sure if there's a forum already on this subject. My apologies in advance.

 

Allah Hafiz. 

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Hello, welcome to the website.  I see you have already found the "Keeping the Faith" section of this website.  I believe there is a post from someone there who had started his own Muslim herpes support website.

There is also a great support group in Toronto www.torontoherpes.com  I know several people who have gone to their meetings and they highly recommend the group to newbies.

There are also secret groups on Facebook if you want to try there.  You won't find these groups by searching for them because they are secret.  I can help you get in the main group called Swirls which has over 4,800 Herpsters in it.  Swirls has a list of all the other groups and if you find another one you want to join you just message the admin of that group and they will add you.

Don't be embarrassed by having this virus.  90% of all adults have it in one form or another.  If you have ever had mono, chicken pox or a cold sore you already had herpes.  Do you have any pets?  Most vertebrate animals can also get a virus called herpes.  Not the exact same kind as us but still a virus called herpes.  Dogs, cats, horses and even penguins can get herpes.  I swear there is a beluga whale here at the Georgia Aquarium that gets cold sores :)

There are hundreds of other viruses that humans can get.  This one is very common and mostly harmless.

Good luck!

JB

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1 hour ago, JBnATL said:

Hello, welcome to the website.  I see you have already found the "Keeping the Faith" section of this website.  I believe there is a post from someone there who had started his own Muslim herpes support website.

There is also a great support group in Toronto www.torontoherpes.com  I know several people who have gone to their meetings and they highly recommend the group to newbies.

There are also secret groups on Facebook if you want to try there.  You won't find these groups by searching for them because they are secret.  I can help you get in the main group called Swirls which has over 4,800 Herpsters in it.  Swirls has a list of all the other groups and if you find another one you want to join you just message the admin of that group and they will add you.

Don't be embarrassed by having this virus.  90% of all adults have it in one form or another.  If you have ever had mono, chicken pox or a cold sore you already had herpes.  Do you have any pets?  Most vertebrate animals can also get a virus called herpes.  Not the exact same kind as us but still a virus called herpes.  Dogs, cats, horses and even penguins can get herpes.  I swear there is a beluga whale here at the Georgia Aquarium that gets cold sores :)

There are hundreds of other viruses that humans can get.  This one is very common and mostly harmless.

Good luck!

JB

Wow thank you JB. I really feel a little better.  God bless you. I wasn't sure if I was duplicating post as I had created one before and I didn't see it visible on the forums so I created another one. Oops :( lol. I'm not really familiar with the site. As for Facebook, I'm kind of scared to join groups as my family members don't know I have this disease and they usually Nosey on my page. I think they can see when I join groups/pages lol. I will try finding the other post you mentioned that was on here. Let me know if you come across any other sites. Thank you very much for your reply. Be safe :)

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The Facebook groups are secret and your friends won't see that you have joined them and if you post in the group it does not show up on your timeline.  Most people take the extra step though of creating a 2nd profile.  They use their real first name and the name of their city as their last.  

There are dozens of groups, most based on geography.  These are not support groups, just fun groups to meet other Herpsters.  There

Let me know if you want to join Swirls and I will get you in.  From there you can find the other groups.

JB

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On February 6, 2016 at 0:46 PM, JBnATL said:

The Facebook groups are secret and your friends won't see that you have joined them and if you post in the group it does not show up on your timeline.  Most people take the extra step though of creating a 2nd profile.  They use their real first name and the name of their city as their last.  

There are dozens of groups, most based on geography.  These are not support groups, just fun groups to meet other Herpsters.  There

Let me know if you want to join Swirls and I will get you in.  From there you can find the other groups.

JB

Thank you JB. I made another page. It's Nia Ali. Please add me to the group :). Thanks again. God bless

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