Does he have herpes too?

[CaliDream18]

Just for some background, I was diagnosed with HSV-1 (in the genital area) about 2 years ago. I have never had an outbreak since my initial and horrific first outbreak. From what i read, many who have HSV-1 have a lower chance of outbreaks. Since then I have only had intercourse with 2 new guys. I have never been one to sleep around but it is one way we as adults express our feelings toward someone. That being said, I have recently started dating a guy the past two months. It was very new and unfortunately I let my body's wants over power what my mind was telling me. Yes, I know now it was wrong to have slept with him before discussing my herpes status and I am now having such a hard time preparing myself to tell him. I have a more important question... I do not know if he too has herpes, but oddly enough just a few days after we had intercourse I began a second outbreak. I am not sure if it is coincidence but is it possible for him to have herpes too and he also just never told me. The timing is just so odd for me to have my second outbreak ever, just days after intercourse. Please weigh in your opinions and refrain from judging the fact that I slept with him prior to explaining my situation..thanks in advance.  

Edited February 8, 2016 by CaliDream18

[KJS]

I have type one in the gentials as well. I have never had another ob either since I found out almost 3 years ago. I sympathize with you on the first ob. Holy cow it was painful. That is odd you had another ob after sex.... Was it like the first? I'm sorry to hear this. 

[piscbelieve]

It could of been the stress and guilt of not telling him that brought on the ob. Also from my experience and what others are saying on here is that sex can bring on the ob. You'll want to tell him. He'll never trust you if he gets an ob and is like wtf? Luckily he's a guy and they are less likely to catch it from us. My ex never told me until I was seven months prego and I tested positive! I never had any symptoms when I was with him. Then I thought well I guess I'm just a carrier and whatever the hell that means and got very busy with being a new mom. I left him and a year later guess what? I go to the dr and yes its herpes. Had to tell new guy and yes it sucked to no end. Still sucks!!! But if he really loves you and your meant to be he'll stick by you. You'll figure out how to manage and life will go on. But don't wait too long.

[Type1aus]

Hi there, I had the exactly problem as you. I had my first OB nearly 5 months ago and haven't had a second one yet until today. I started seeing something recently and we went out for drink. We only tried to have sex and his genital area touched mine once. Two days later I found my 2nd OB. I'm not exactly sure if it's OB yet but my gut feeling and guess it is. I'm worried that 1) if he has hsv2 that caused my OB. 2) the alcohol we drank together created the OB.