First OB

[Wldflwr]

I am having my first OB and just received confirmation that it is HSV1. My boyfriend had a mild outbreak (his first as well) at the same time. So we are assuming he has the same--he doesn't want to get tested. 

I am about to start the antivirals and am going to stay on them because I don't think I can handle another OB. 

My question is--I am very nervous about haVing sex again. How do you get over that?  We had an awesome sex life before this and it's now been a week since we have had sex. 

[WilsoInAus]

What test result came back positive for you?

[Wldflwr]

Swab from docs office,  blood test was negative for both. She said I was positive for Type 1. 

Edited March 1, 2016 by Wldflwr

[WilsoInAus]

Did you receive oral sex in the few days before the outbreak for you occurred?

[Wldflwr]

I'm sure I probaby did--we had sex quite often the days leading up the our first OB and oral sex is something that we did often. 

[WilsoInAus]

Your guy should test right now. I bet his blood will show HSV-1 antibodies and that he has an oral infection. His penis issues seem a bit of a mystery though. Wish they were swabbed.

[Wldflwr]

The sores in his penis stayed very small and we're gone within the week--at this point you can only see were there were 3 of them. 

If he performed oral sex on me and kissed me, then I performed oral sex on him would he not get sores on his penis?  Or if he touched me and then his penis would he not get sores?

I want him to get tested because I think he should know and I don't want to worry about infecting him if he doesn't have it. 

But my blood test was negative and so logically it would seem that I got it from him as I didn't have the antibodies. 

[WilsoInAus]

You've got it... you're good at this stuff!

The sores, where were they and were they distinctive round spots? How close together? Were there little blisters inside?

Once you have an established oral infection, males cannot get a genital infection of HSV-1, this is why an immediate blood test is critical. If positive for IgG antibodies, it is essentially proof he hasn't got genital HSV-1. Although it seems a coincidence for him to have some unrelated penile sores as you become infected with HSV-1 genitally, it is actually the most plausible explanation.

I say this because there are only two other valid explanations:

1. He actually does know he has genital HSV-1 and had a serious outbreak potentially years ago from receiving oral sex and he's had sex with you whilst having this outbreak to infect you (this is pretty unlikely actually)

2. He has just been infected in the days before his sores appeared from receiving oral sex from someone with oral HSV-1!!! (a bit more unlikely as you'd get more than three tiny sores upon a primary infection).

[Wldflwr]

I want to be sure I understand  you--I can't give him genital hsv1?  

But my blood test came back negative for antibodies so doc said it was a new infection. So he would have had to infect me--he's never had an outbreak before--he was freaking out when he found the lesions on his penis. 

I have more than 3 lesions (started with 1--but had several more while waiting for test results--doc wouldn't give me meds until y he results came back)  

My first sore was in the perineum area between leg and vagina (kind of in the fold)  since the first one I have some on the vulva. Of course everything I have read is the females outbreaks are worse. We had bouhit tea tree oil with 24 hours of his OB while we were trying to f igure it out  and I think that helped him. Of cost I used oft as well,  but as a girl it is harder to keep everything dry to heal faster ( especially when I have to wear panty hose for work)

[WilsoInAus]

There is pretty much no doubt you have been just infected. It came from your boyfriend. It is not possible to give it back to him in another location!

It remains an open question as to whether your partner has genital or oral HSV-1, this is why swabbing and a blood test are critical for him. In summary, the three possibilities are:

1. He has oral HSV-1 and infected you, the genital sores are unrelated to HSV.

2. He has had genital HSV-1 for a while and infected you with a pending outbreak happening, his sores would come first in this instance.

3. He cheated recently and became infected.

No need to keep the sores dry. A cream is OK to help healing, a layer of silicon is best.