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I have gotten a (one coldsore) at a time since I was a little girl. My mom and brothers also had the same problem. Then on a recurrent outbreak my entire mouth turned into a huge swollen mess. From then on I have to fight off outbreaks nearly every day with Zovirax oitment and Valtrex. When I end up with a full blown outbreak it is a huge awful mess. I got cruelly teased in school. It made me feel dirty and I never did anything to warrant feeling like that.

I'm 30, married, and have one child. I rarely kiss my husband due to this problem and I've never kissed my own child for fear of getting them sick. I'm always in fear of losing my job for having to miss work and therefore losing our family home. This problem is severly depressing.

I live a healthy lifestyle for the most part. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I try to eat as healthy as possible. I do have a lot of stress though which is a setback I know.

How can I get through this so I'm not so depressed all the time. I just want to be healthy. I want to be able to kiss my husband and child and feel worthy. This problem has made me feel like I'm no good. It makes me feel like if God won't cure me then there's little hope for me living a happy life.

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have you tried Dynamiclear at all? I used it back when it was called choraphor and am using it again now for this latest outbreak as it worked great back then! Fair enough its clearly only staved off the virus for just over a year, but in the year that I had no outbreaks I've done so much! I'd give it a go if you havent, its expensive, but it works for me and has done for friends when they get coldsores :)

Whatever you do, please dont let it get you too down, after all, as you said, its not your fault you have it and you are clearly a very caring person who deserves to smile :) We sometimes have to sacrifice some things to protect others, and by doing so you are being thoughtful and kind, so do not feel down about it, be proud that you are responsible and thoughtful enough to do so :) many people would not be so thoughtful!

chin up and smile bbz :D

JJ x

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Hi Frustrated123,

I understand your pain. Don't be depressed about the situation but it is very hard to do. I got my first cold sore at age 14 and it spreaded rapidly over my face. It wasn't until I got older and out of college when I found out what triggers mine. You should research what you are eating alot of and see if that is one of the triggering foods. I was drinking about 3 glasses of orange juice a day and no water. Theres more but I wont bore you to death.

Do you go out in the sun alot? That makes me break out and the next day my lips are swollen...later that day i have little tiny bumps on my lips. I've found that Ice helps the swelling.. You may want to look at what others say about the treatments that have worked for them. I just finished reviewing and i took some notes.

I get them everytime i got to amusement parks such as sixflags etc.

I get Abreva and apply at the first tingle and place ice on the tingle spot for about 30 mins or as long as I can bear.. Additionally, if i see little bumps. I make sure pour Hydrogen Peroxide any time I can think of it. I also use Carmex but i limit the amount as it does not seem to help dry them out. I use a little so that my lips will not split from the dryness. Alcohol works well also... This will shorten your outbreaks and when you do not see any signs for about 3 days or so then it is ok to kiss your family.

I hope this helps.. Keep your head up.. I know the feeling. It gets better after you've had a few outbreaks in the beginning and they come fewer as time passes.;)

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Thanks for your kind words. It seems I have tried so many things. It gets very overwhelming trying to figure out what causes the outbreaks. I just wish there was a way to get rid of this for good.

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I have gotten a (one coldsore) at a time since I was a little girl. My mom and brothers also had the same problem. Then on a recurrent outbreak my entire mouth turned into a huge swollen mess. From then on I have to fight off outbreaks nearly every day with Zovirax oitment and Valtrex. When I end up with a full blown outbreak it is a huge awful mess. I got cruelly teased in school. It made me feel dirty and I never did anything to warrant feeling like that.

I'm 30, married, and have one child. I rarely kiss my husband due to this problem and I've never kissed my own child for fear of getting them sick. I'm always in fear of losing my job for having to miss work and therefore losing our family home. This problem is severly depressing.

I live a healthy lifestyle for the most part. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I try to eat as healthy as possible. I do have a lot of stress though which is a setback I know.

How can I get through this so I'm not so depressed all the time. I just want to be healthy. I want to be able to kiss my husband and child and feel worthy. This problem has made me feel like I'm no good. It makes me feel like if God won't cure me then there's little hope for me living a happy life.

:(

I'm assuming that you have hsv1? Have you tryed lysine supplements? They are supposed to help also if your having such bad outbreaks you may need to go higher on valtrax some people take 500mg you can go up to 1000mg I believe. Your doctor should be helping you keep this in track. Try to calm down getting upset tends to make the outbreaks worse.

Once all your blisters pass I would wait "only me" about a week or 2 after you think they are totally gone just to be safe then you can kiss away again.

"hugs" I hope everything gets better.

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It is absolutely crappy when you first hear that dreaded diagnosis. It is very common to get depressed and have horrid thoughts about the future.

Right now don't spend much time thinking about telling people and having kids. Concentrate on getting better and finding an inner calm. Baby yourself, treat yourself with kindness and do what ever you can to make yourself feel better physically. Drink lots of water, take epsom salts baths and wear loose comfy clothes.

You will be able to have a family. Someone special will come along and adore you. Don't hurt yourself thinking this isn't true. Time is on your side and your dreams will come true - this virus won't stop you.

This outbreak is temporary. It is awful but it will go away.

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