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About 3 months ago, I had unprotected anal sex with my girlfriend for the first time. The next day I was bicycling and noticed a slight discomfort on my penis, something I dismissed as friction from clothes. The next morning (a day and a half after the intercourse) I discovered 3 little pimples/spots on the shaft of my penis right under the head. They were very small and white in the center. They were slightly uncomfortable and sore, but not really painful. At the same time, I noticed that I was having to frequently urinate. And when I would urinate, it would take me a while to begin. I would not have to urinate much. And then when I was done, it often times felt that I still had to go. The urination was never painful, but it did feel on a couple of times like I did have a slight discharge (there was no light and I couldn't see what came out). I was working on a construction project far from home and civilization, so it wasn't until almost 4 days after intercourse that I got to see my physician. He took one look and said that it looked like herpes. He took a swab inside the urethra of my penis, and one swab of the "lesions," as he described them. He thought that the "lesions" were already dried up too much to get enough of a sample to grow an accurate culture for diagnosis. He prescribed Famvir for, which I took for a week. The "lesions" disappeared in 3 or 4 days and left no marks. The culture was grown and it came back negative, which I was happy about, but worried that there wasn't enough of a sample to be absolutely certain. The lab technician said that if there hadn't been enough of a sample to grow a culture, it would have been sent back to my physician's office notifying them that nothing could be grown. The next time I saw my physician I asked him about the culture. He said that it was possible that there hadn't been enough to accurately diagnose HSV 2 and that I would have to wait for another outbreak to take a sample from an open sore. Great!

The urination problem lasted for another 2 weeks or a month (I can't remember). I have had none of the original symptoms again, other than a recurring fungal infection which I have been dealing with for probably 10 years (3 or 4 infections per year). My genital area and anus have been noticeably more sensitive lately, though. The fungal infections last longer and I have a lot more chafing in my crotch if I walk too much at one time. The area around my anus is red, but it could be from the fungal infection.

I told my girlfriend of my problem, and she was freaked out. She went to her physician and explained the situation. She was told that it almost definitely was not HSV 2, for either of us, because she didn't have any symptoms (nor had she never had any symptoms) and that the symptoms are usually very painful for females. She has not had any tests.

We had been dating for about 2 months and had had unprotected vaginal intercourse probably 10 times, with no problems. I have only had 2 other sexual partners before this, and have never experienced anything that I would consider an STD. My girlfriend has had 3 sexual partners and has never had any symptoms. It just seems coincidental that this happened right after anal intercourse and not after vaginal intercourse. Could this have been a bacterial infection of some sort?

I finally saw a different physician about 11 days ago and told her of my concern. She had me sent to the lab for a blood test. I am waiting for the results, although from what I read, that will only confirm if I have HSV 1 or HSV 2, but not one or the other. I can't recall ever having a cold sore (just zits and pimples).

Please help with any info you may have or any similar experiences and what the results were. This is emotionally and mentally draining and is really causing a lot of stress for me personally.

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Hi shooter,

When I had my first outbreak, my test result came out negative. And it was false negative. If you wait too long after the outbreak appears, the lesion culture test will give you a false negative result, very possibly..

But... the instant I read your first paragraph, I thought it might be bladder infection, too... Your description (when urinate) sounded like very much bladder infection. Plus I think it's easy to get a colon bacillus when you do anal sex with no protection......

Some people have no symptom even they have HSV virus, and even in that case, the virus can be shed and they can give the virus to someone else.

I think that your girlfriend should have blood test, too. That's only fair... and it will serve for the future of you guys' relationship...

Best wishes..


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Thanks for the encouragement. I haven't received the results of my blood test yet, but I have wondered why I didn't have any symptoms after vaginal intercourse (just after anal sex the one and only time). But it does help to talk about it with others going through the same thing.


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Sure. <smile>

And most of times, you get better idea about what's really happening to you when you talk to people who have the same experience.

Well I guess you've gotta wait for the test result, but... I think anal sex gives you more risk of getting sick ( not only STD). Probably because... that's not really a hole that our body is made for intercourse.. maybe... :o

Best wishes..


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