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I told him and then when I saw him again, of course things were weird. He still made jokes as did I and we discussed it a little more. We figured that we can discuss it more in depth when the time comes but all he knows is that he loves me so much and he just wants me to be happy, US to be happy and always wants to be with me. He's happy I told him, said I was very brave and that it's not my fault and something that I cannot change. When I gave him the letter that night, he didn't sleep at all, and we saw eachother the day after. I know it bothers him, but I know his love for me is stronger so that's why he's going to stay. I feel like things are different, not too bad but I can tell he has a lot on his mind about it. I told him that I don't want him to regret anything and I want him to be sure what he wants. He said he is sure. He gave me tons of hugs and kisses, held me the whole time, looked in my eyes and told me how much he loved me about 15 times. I just feel bad because I put a damper on our perfect love, and I don't want to make his life difficult, but I love him too much to let him go. Let me tell you this, the whole time I had this back in my head I felt like I couldn't open my heart all the way, but as soon as he accepted me I fell twice as much in love with him that second! I'm just a little worried about him and I want to make things easy for him, I can see in his eyes that it bothers him, and I can tell that he really took his time to think and decide if this is what he was willing to deal with. I just feel like I'll walking a thin ice for the time being, but I hope it can get better soon. :p

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congradulations! im glad you two are still together. my boyfriend and i went through the same thing and he chose to stay with me too. its like a big relief. we both agreed to stay open about all of it with eachother, that if he had questions i could answer them or we could find the answer. i know it bothers him sometimes and he doesn't tell me but we're working through it. i think as long as you stay open with one another it shouldn't be a problem. im really happy for you both! :) keep me posted

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not too long. about 2 or 3 months. it was definatly hard for both of us but we're getting through it. :) sometimes i forget i have it and i haven't had it that long at all!

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I feel the same, I forget I have it all the time. But I feel like with him I can't act like everything's normal, cause it's not. Is that bad? I've never dealt with this before, I'm not sure how to act. Did you guys ever do anything sexually yet?? If so, was that hard to do? Do you have any advice on like what should I do to make him more comfortable, what to expect, etc..? Thank you so much! It's so nice to talk to someone who is going through the same situation!!! :)

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Update

Just to give an update, it's only been a few days since I told my boyfriend, but I honestly think that it brought us closer together. Today was the first day we spent together after I told him Thurs. We had the best day together, couldn't get enough of eachother, kisses, hugs, everything! Today he even asked me if I want to be with him forever and if I would like to one day be his wife! He wasn't proposing but asking if I would like that one day and I said OF COURSE! He said the same :) We're taking things day by day but I can honestly say that he is the love of my life and thank god he accepts me and this stupid virus!

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