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I'm in a relationship and got herpes last Friday, Today is my last day taking pills. there are still some sores there, but it's definitely going.

do i have to wait until the sores are totally gone to have sex again (without condoms) with my boyfriend?

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MsLucy Platinum Support Member

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Have you read any of the information on this site, or checked out any other sites with info on herpes? No, you can't have sex with your bf while you still have symptoms. And after the symptoms are completely gone, even using condoms is not a quarantee that he won't contract it, because a condom covers a limited area, and herpes is passed by direct contact with the infected area. Occasionally, even when there is no obvious sign of an ob, shedding can occur, which will render you contagious.

You sound very naive about the virus and how it's passed along. My advise (for your sake and your bf's) is for you to do your homework and learn more about what you're dealing with. It's the only way you and your bf will be able to make informed, responsible decisions about your future sexual activity.

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your arrogance is outstanding...

I have read a lot about herpes, I am fully aware of how contagious herpes is, and for your information, my boyfriend already has the virus, although we as a couple have not had any recurrent outbreaks from it, or any problems with it until now. I got it the first time many, many years ago and this is my second outbreak. therefore I find my question quite ligitimate in the circumstances as I haven't stumbled across this information in any of the MANY websites I have looked at.

This is supposed to be a supportive forum and I find myself furiously tapping out this reply to you. this is my first experience with joining a forum and I'm sure this is not how they are intended to go.

My advice (for your sake and any other poor person who is subject to your rudeness) is learn to be perhaps a little less opinionated...

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I had my first OB a month ago and waited 3 weeks until my husband and I had sex again. I just wanted to make sure I was healed completely before doing anything -- I'm still very new to HSV and OBs so I'm not much help -- sorry! :)

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You might have wanted to mention your bf had it as well in your original post. There's a bit less worry transferring it to someone who has it already. It might have been helpful for you to have given more information about your particular circumstance. If you and your bf both have it, what is your question? Are you wondering when you're physically able to have sex? Obviously the answer to that is, if you both have the same strand of HSV genitally, whenever it doesn't hurt.

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Waynetta, my response wasn't meant to be arrogant. Like Catiesmom said, had you included a bit more info in your post, my response would have been different, however, what you wrote (more importantly, what you didn't write) made it sound as if you were guessing. I was trying to get your attention.

I apologize for upsetting you. In the future, though, I would ask you to fill in the blanks, and not leave that up to the reader. That will help you get a much more accurate response, as well.

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