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How i got herpes (from manipulative ex girlfriend)

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I was in a relationship. The girl had herpes type 2 on her lips and she had told me. She was a manipulative person and my first girlfriend so i tended to do as she said. We were close to breaking up, and she had herpes on her lips (only on one side). She told me to kiss her. I didnt do it, but then she said stuff like "dont you love me", etc. So i kissed her one the side where she didn't have blisters. I know it is my fault in the end, and this has been a though lesson for me. I think it was a few days later when i had the first outbreak. When i told her i now had herpes she told me in an exciting way "then you'll have something to remember me always". Just wanted to share the story to someone, as i'm not talking to anyone about my herpes. Also, im thinking about this a lot.

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WilsoInAus

This is not how you get herpes type 2. What have you been diagnosed with and how?

It is more likely you have had HSV-1 since childhood.

I'm sure we can help you a lot with your thinking.

 

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rolf

Yes, i posted in another forum as well and was told it most likely is hsv-1. But i never had these burning sensations going on before the instance with this girl.

 

I havent been to the doctor since I just assumed it was the same thing she has, and all she did was use a cream when she had it. The burning sensation lasts for about two weeks. And my lips get really flaky, but i don't get the same blisters as she had. I've had this for 2 years now, with various frequency. I'd say i get them about 4 times a year. Sun seems to trigger it, and also lack of sleep.

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WilsoInAus

What you are describing doesn't sound like herpes. But these dry lip episodes tend to encourage an outbreak for those with oral hsv-1.

There is zero reason to susoect that hsv-2 is in any way involved.

Coukd she have infected you? Maybe, but probably not.

you can get a test if you choose, but there isn't much it will do for you, nor anything you need to do.

What do you fear about having oral HSV-1?

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rolf

Yes, i will test. Not fear really, it's just this burning sensation that bothers me. My lip does not have blisters, so if it's herpes then its not a typical case. My lips have this white-yellowish skin (?) on my lips that keeps coming. Also, my lower lip seem a little swollen, and the red on the lip goes over the limit of the lips.

Thing is, my lips never had this burning sensation before, which is why i was sure it was herpes. Anyways, I will go to the doctor with this to make sure.

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WilsoInAus

Gotcha, ok. I dont feel the mouth issues are related to herpes. This is unrelated to whether you have herpes or not.

i doctor is required here to help return your mouth to normal.

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K_Sock
27 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

What you are describing doesn't sound like herpes. But these dry lip episodes tend to encourage an outbreak for those with oral hsv-1.

How would dry lips encourage an outbreak? 

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What do you fear about having oral HSV-1?

Encephalitis, viral meningitis, ocular herpes, alzheimers, pain (same ol' outbreaks story and hsv-1 reactivates the most..), embarrassment (can't hide an outbreak...and still loads of stigma) and either getting/passing a genital hsv-1 infection to ones partner by nibbling (am i doing it wrong?) on their fun bits...and vice-versa after they get ohsv-1 from you via snogging...

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WilsoInAus

The tcell structure in the skin is disrupted.

it seems once again that you've missed the point of the website. Your scaremongering is immature. You know full well that you are more likely to be injured even killed by a falling coconut that those adverse outcomes occurring over herpes.

What is wrong with having cold sores or transmitting herpes? It is simply human and it's comments like yours that demonise a natural part of life. You also know that you can't be infected twice pragmatically, so stop inferring otherwise.

You also are excluding the possibility  that having herpes may reduce the incidence of various diseases including immune disorders.

All in all, there is nothing to practically fear from herpes, that's why we are here! To tell people their fears are misplaced. 

If something is to feared, look out for falling coconuts! There is much more death and misery caused by coconuts than herpes. 

Worse still, there is no correlation between having herpes and avoiding a falling coconut!

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