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Dragonfly07

I contracted HSV2 about 3 months ago. Ironically I met an amazing guy not too long after and I couldn't be happier with how things are going. We have been intimate but I don't feel like I can't completely be myself because I'm not sure what we can do and what we cant. He doesn't have HSV so I fear that I will give it to him. I know there will always be a risk for him no matter if we use protection or not. I just feel that I could be more confident with that part of our relationship and not hold back as much if I knew exactly what our boundaries were in terms of protecting him. Any suggestions???? :) 

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JBnATL

Hi there, welcome to the website.  You have come to the best place for support about this virus.  

Here are a couple of links that talk about transmission risks, read them and you will feel better.

https://herpesopportunity.com/downloads/herpes-opportunity-disclosure-handout.pdf

https://hsvblog.org/herpes-simplex-virus-101/

I have met many married people here over the years who have been married decades and never passed it to their spouse.  Personally I have had it a long time and have been intimate with a dozen women and almost all of that sex was unprotected and I never spread it either.  

If you just acquired this virus that is when you are most at risk of spreading it so take antivirals and refrain from sex if you have any symptoms and you should be ok.

Good luck!

JB

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Dragonfly07

Thank you for your response. So there is hope that I could have unprotected sex one day? I feel like I would be too afraid to. Thank you for the links, they are helpful. :) 

 

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WilsoInAus

Yes for sure, most people with HSV-2 do have unprotected sex. I have unprotected sex with my partner a few times a week! You will become more comfortable over time, give it a little patience.

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