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Ok so I have HSV2 obviously why I'm on this site. I have a friend that I've known for a while a woman friend. At one point we got a little close well before my HSV2 diagnosis but nothing developed we decided our friendship was more valuelable then possibly losing a great friendship and we are strictly just friends. She's one of my best friends and one of two women I can literally tell anything too and trust it won't get to anyone else, won't pass judgement, may be hurt but still love me for me. As we tell each other about our lives and all the good and bad I have been feeling like telling her just to see her take on it  because we don't hold back anything that's bothering us. See what she says and how she feels about it. But I don't want to at the same time because I want to respect my partner who dosent trust anyone with this information. I understand my partners view as most don't want this public. But I'm torn between disclosing and confiding in one of my best friends and protecting my partner as well. I don't know how to handle it because she is someone that I can openly talk to about it and vent my rough days too. Also my partner dosent like talking about it at all anytime when we do she gets upset not mad but crys because she dosent want it like we all don't. She forgets she has it with me because we both have it and it dosent prevent us from anything so it just seems all normal when she's with me. But on the other hand feel like I need to talk to friends I trust about it I don't know why but I do. And then I have my ex who oddly is one of my best friends I also feel like talking to her about it too but I know shed be upset and cry too be sad for a while because she does care for me and I don't want to place that burden on her. I know she wouldn't tell anyone maybe her mom who is a nurse but no one else. I really don't know what to do but I feel like I need to talk to my close trusted friends about it, am I wrong? Should I keep my mouth shut? Or do I have a valid concern?

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You are entitled to do whatever it is that you need to do. You don't have to reveal that your girlfriend has HSV, just that you do. That way, you are not betraying your girlfriend's desire that her status is not made public.

I have told quite a few friends and most of them didn't care and never bring it up unless I make a joke about it. As herpes sufferers, we tend to blow things out of proportion, but when you start to tell people, you begin to realise that most people don't really care. And because they don't care, it makes you think about it less too. That's why I encourage people to tell their close friends and family

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I definitely agree that telling other people has made a difference and I personally told quite a few of my friends and no one thought any differently of me.  but I also think it might be depending on your age group as well.  I don't know if your in ur twenties how it might go down telling other people and you might wanna only  tell your very best friends but if this person is someone you're very close to and she's mature and you think that she will be supportive of you and then go for it.  

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