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AychEsVee

Weird question, for those of you who feel you've gotten over the hump of having herpes, who don't let it get you down, how long did it take for you to arrive at that point? Do you still have crappy days or is it mostly under control?

 

I feel like herpes brings with it so many negative emotions, that it can be difficult to deal with. And how you receive depends on so many other factors like where you live, who you know, your immune system, etc. So I'm sorta curious about people's experience with the disease and their backgrounds.

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LillianPanos

I was devastated in the beginning.  But I have been thru much. So i try to jus put one foot in front of the other and keep trucking on the road called life with ups and downs thay was at about 2-3 months. Now at 7 mos I still get a little down. But then try to count my blessings and remind myself people I lost to other severe diseases would have loved to have this disease than the ones that killed them...

1 hour ago, AychEsVee said:

Weird question, for those of you who feel you've gotten over the hump of having herpes, who don't let it get you down, how long did it take for you to arrive at that point? Do you still have crappy days or is it mostly under control?

 

I feel like herpes brings with it so many negative emotions, that it can be difficult to deal with. And how you receive depends on so many other factors like where you live, who you know, your immune system, etc. So I'm sorta curious about people's experience with the disease and their backgrounds.

 

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Lisajd

I was pretty upset at the start because of the people that were involved at the time but after I learnt a lot about hsv2 and telling quite a few people I realise that it wasn't the end of the world and to me I guess I just think there are worse things that it could be and there are worse of people in the world and that's how I go about my life anyway.  I admit I am lucky I don't have any outbreaks even though I am only a year and a half in and I've had acceptance from most men and I think that's what makes a difference.  I do however realise that there are more important things in life don't worry about having herpes and I think you need to consider what worries you the most about it and then deal with it as best you can

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crazypuglady

For me it was also learning and reading about people who have worse conditions than herpes, as well as learning a whole lot about the condition. As bad as it seems reading people's experiences with HIV and cancer really make herpes seem like nothing and put it in perspective. We really are so lucky compared to those poor people.

 

I have also really prioritized my job over dating and relationships (its the easy way out I know, but it really worked for me), and I have achieved a lot which has made me value myself when before I saw myself as disgusting.

 

Hope this helps!

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Free73

Felt rubbish initially but probably 4-5 months after i was diagnosed i just told myself to snap out of it. I told my family and about 8 friends and they thought it wasnt a big deal. 

For me personally it has forced positive changes which i probably would not have made without the diagnosis. It has forced me to focus on other aspects of my life as i previously had an unhealthy pre-occupation with sex, women and the pursuit of both. It has also forced me to value myself more highly and forced me to deal with all the various negative self beliefs, insecurities and fears i had

Herpes doesnt cause the negative feelings and emotions, it just brings out all of the existing insecurities and negative self beliefs you have about yourself. Anyone who says otherwise is not being honest with themselves IMO

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