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Snjt

Hello all,

I was diagnosed in late May/ June of this year. I would like to know when will I be able to have sex again? My doctor said no sex for 4 months. Its been over 4 months but i think I should wait longer. Is oral sex an option? I have been taking my anti virals without skipping a beat and my outbreaks have become less freguent and less severe. I can also always know when I am going to have an outbreak. Anyone else gets a tingling sensation in the middle of their back like almost on your spine? I don't have the crawling sensation on my genitalsite any more though. I'm still new to this disease and still learning how to live with myself and it taking over my body like a parasite. I want to be normal and have sex but this is holding me back. I don't sleep around but I do have someone who I've been staying away from because of this. idk how to break it to them. Any positive advice or suggestions will be appreciated, thanks 

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WilsoInAus

What was the outcome of your tests? I remember your pictures and they were most unlikely to be herpes lesions and swabbed negative, but that is independent of your herpes status.

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Snjt

I was positive for hsv1 and hsv2. the photo I had posted was of my child's skin which turn out to be just a viral infection, not of my lesions 

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WilsoInAus

Of that's right, thanks for that update, big relief for you and your child. A scare to be sure, and a learning that HSV-2 is not at all readily spread to a child. Lots of people get chewed up with this highly remote outcome if a possibility at all.

Was your diagnosis through a blood test? What were the actual results of the tests?

The reason to explore this is to check the potential for a long term infection which I suspect is the case?

As such, by taking daily antivirals very consistently and using condoms you are probably at the lowest possible infection chance already, no need to wait any longer for sex.

 

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Snjt

The diagnosis was a blood test and it is more long term. My doctor stated  we may be able to put the virus to 'sleep' so it'll  be dormant. But of course I know that will just be temporarily. it's a relief that I don't have to wait any longer for sex but what about oral? can I give and receive oral sex? what would be the chances of me giving it to my partner orally? I am also going through a small ob now. it's not recommended to have sex during outbreaks, is that correct? Should I wait at least a week before doing so? 

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Lisajd

No avoid sex with an ob.  Are you still having obs on meds?   If you have oral hsv1 there is a risk to pass it genitally.  Your body will naturally suppress the virus as will meds.  But you have to bear in mind viral.shedding as well. The first year you are more contagious if a recent infection.   You need to disclose to this guy and let him decide. There is a risk

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