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Hi all,

I am newly diagnosed with HSV 2. My partner and I had been waiting for the test results for a few days, so he's well aware that the possibility is there. Now that the doctor had confirmed that it's HSV 2, I'm struggling with how to tell my partner.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to tell a loved one/partner that your test results came back positive? Any specific information I should be telling him (stats, facts, etc.)? 

I'm still trying to wrap my head around all of this, so I'm not really sure how to even start the conversation. 

Any and all suggestions are much appreciated!

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This depends greatly on whether this is likely to be your primary outbreak or you suspect you have had it for years?

Is this your first known outbreak and did it involve multiple lesions? Was it the swab that was positive and correctly typed or was it an IgG blood test? The outcomes here will narrow down your view on whether this is a first outbreak.

If that is the case that this is the first outbreak and other signs are compatible with a recent infection then your partner is the source. I feel the discussion is then one of "herpes has been confirmed, it seems very likely that this is my first outbreak from a recent infection, that means that you very likely have the virus and that's actually a big plus to carry the same type as it can now disappear from our thinking within our loving relationship that can continue in every was as before".

It may then be a good idea to suggest that he confirm everything with IgG testing to proceed along the lines you desire in the relationship.

How does this sound?

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