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Finally I have met the love of my life, I'm so happy, finally. 6 months down the line and He's amazing, treats me so good, I never thought I'd fall so deeply in love like this. I always noticed cold sores on my partners face but thought nothing of it, I was uneducated. I recently found a sore on my vagina, then yesterday another which is quite painful, I asked my partner to look at but he said he has no idea and thinks its a spot. I've been googling and I am 100% certain this is my first outbreak of herpes, I'm full of a cold and keep getting terrible pains inside what feels like my womb. I don't know much about the sti and also I haven't discussed this with my partner. How do I address this? He must of known he has the disease. When we first met he didn't have sex with my for months, I now am thinking this is due to him knowing and scared he would infect me. How do I address this to him? How bad is it that he would have willingly gave it to me and not told me? I love him so much.

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First of all you need to go and get your sore swabbed so that you can get diagnosed properly.  Did he perform oral sex on you when he had a cold sore after cold sore or did he get a cold sore after you have had oral sex

  If he has cold sores and has given you oral sex then it's likely to be genital HSV 1 and really in terms of your relationship it shouldn't affect that from a sexual perspective.  It is very possible that like a lot of other people he had no idea that cold sores can give someone genital herpes.  What you need to do is get tested first but also it's just a matter of saying to him that are you aware that cold sores are herpes and can cause genital herpes through oral sex.  Unless he has genital herpes as well he would not avoided having sex with you because just because he has cold sores.  And the reality is that you have kissed him many times and it's possible that you even have oral herpes yourself which 80% of the population have at any rate

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OK I will book an appointment and get my sore swabbed. I can't remember if he had the cold sore when he gave me oral sex this weekend, but my partner has suffered with them since before we met & myself I have never had a problem. He has a cold sore now 100%. Thanks for the advice that is a really good opening line for addressing the conversation.

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    • FirstTimeUser
      @WilsoInAuswould appreciate your thoughts as have seen you comment quite a bit before!
    • Marlena
      Good morning. My name is Marlena and I come from Poland. Sorry, my English is average. For two years I have been in a relationship with a man, for a year and a half I have been struggling with intimate problems. On average, my intimate condition is getting worse every month. Then I feel itching, redness, swelling around the entrance to the vagina, small blisters (not always). Most often it is only red and swollen, itches and then disappears. This state lasts 3-4 days. I come from a small town, doctors don't know what it is. They say it's 'skin irritation'. They prescribe moisturizing creams with lactic acid, probiotics. It doesn't help. I did a blood test for HSV on my own, which is very expensive in Poland, but it does not separate HSV1 from HSV2. The doctor, when he shows these results, says that it's not herpes, but irritation. I would like to add that in the past I suffered from herpes on the lips, then it was a 'scab'. There has never been a scab in an intimate area. Sometimes there are blisters that last 1-2 days, but not always. So what do high blood test results mean? I would like to add that in Poland people do not talk about the HSV virus. It's just that sometimes someone has it on their lips and that's it. Results translation: IgM HSV 1/2: questionable IgG HSV 1/2: result above the measuring range https://files.fm/f/4cpu7uee4  
    • FirstTimeUser
      This is my first time posting here. Im generally pretty anxious when it comes to anything to do with health conditions etc. For context I have had jock itch and fungal infections previously on my buttcrack. I have had 0 new sexual partners and I am not concerned about my girlfriend cheating at all. 4 days ago my balls began itching and red pretty much all over, as you can see some general flakeyness and what looks to be a lesion I noticed on Monday when I checked them out. My partner and I do get cold sores from time to time so the anxious part of me is concerned this could be herpes, but at the same time could be some sort of fungal infection. My doctor cant see me until tomorrow so I just have to worry until then. There is no pain and nothing on the penis or anywhere else, just general itchiness. Any ideas if this is herpes or not?  
    • Jeremy Spokein
      Yes, but every married person who I found out about that has this waited 6-8 months into the relationship to disclose it. But maybe you're right. If I had told her 6-7 months in, she'd still have Googled it and flipped out, and maybe it would have been harder then. I don't know. I don't see myself going through this level of pain and rejection so easily next time. I really don't. I'm taking the meds. I use protection. It's been almost a decade since I've had it so I'm not worried about shedding or passing it on so easily. British studies confirm that the first 2 years are the most contagious and we're passed that. I'm just over this. I've never been in so much emotional pain in my life.
    • Possiblehypercon11
      @WilsoInAus would really appreciate your input please. Kinda freaking out lol. 
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