Recently diagnosed hsv2 having sex after initial outbreak

[Overthinking]

Ok, I am recently diagnosed with hsv2. I have a pretty good idea who I got it from and exactly when. The symptoms literally started 2 days after intercorse. So I initially thought it was a yeast infection. Went to doctor to get meds. No one mentioned herpes even though my doctor did a full Pap smear. The pain and irritation continued and I thought I had a uti so I called and they prescribed me meds for that but irritation continued (I'm almost a week in at this point.) So the next day I go to another obgyn and she sees the sores and takes swabs and diagnosis me within a week! I have been devastated and literally depressed! Bc I have been single for 3 years and am desperately looking for a relationship and love and this seems to set me back. However once the sores were gone I felt better. Now there is another guy I have been having protected sex with for a few months (not the same guy that I think affected me) and I decided to have sex with him last night since the sores were gone and have been for almost a week (6 days). I did not disclose to him that I have been recently diagnosed bc I am so ashamed and scared of his reaction. We had sex with a condom and it hurt at first (he is very large) but then I eased into it and I felt better not so uncomfortable like I've been feeling.

 

ok I'm worried that I could possibly still be contagious and have passed this on to him! I am so scarred and idk what I would do if I did . Btw as soon as I went to doctor and she took swabs she put me on meds for 7days. The sores were not gone completely once I finished meds. Idk just please tell me how long I should wait after primary outbreak to have sex with a condom again?

 

also how likely is it to give the virus to someone if ur still possibly contagious/shedding if you are using a condom.

 

oh and dies showering right after do anything or is that just a myth?

 

also when it comes disclosing I am nervous that if I tell someone especially that I've previously had sex with and they go and get tested they will blame even if I was not the person who gave it to them.

[Kabali04]

Hi,

Don't have unprotected sex during sores. Take antivirals that will help. If you follow above steps chances of transmission is very low as women passing to men is half chance the other way. 

Good luck.!!! 

[PurpleandGray]

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I to have been single for a long time and had this happen to me! It dies feel like a huge setback but I'm keeping the faith for right now.

Great advice Kabali04. I had one more question to add to your post, what about the sores on your thighs? I don't have any sores on my genitals or mouth but do have a few lesions on my thighs. Is there any way at all to protect furture partners from these lesions? I'm worried about even cuddling with someone  

[Kabali04]

Hi purple and gray...

The virus is present in the liquid oozing out of the blisters.. so no matter which part of body you have it, avoid exposing it to your partner. Not even touch it with hand. Cuddling in absence of sores should not be a problem. 

When u have no sores and you take anti viral you are good to go without even condom. 

In a given yr transmission rate from women to man is only 4 percent only. Without condom and also anti viral and main no sores... 

All the best.. no stress!!! 

[PurpleandGray]

Thank you Kabali for the helpful reply! 

[Blahdittilyblah]

On 12/11/2016 at 5:12 AM, Kabali04 said:

Hi purple and gray...

The virus is present in the liquid oozing out of the blisters.. so no matter which part of body you have it, avoid exposing it to your partner. Not even touch it with hand. Cuddling in absence of sores should not be a problem. 

When u have no sores and you take anti viral you are good to go without even condom. 

In a given yr transmission rate from women to man is only 4 percent only. Without condom and also anti viral and main no sores... 

All the best.. no stress!!! 

This information is incorrect. The virus is present most when sores are present. The virus is also present time to time with no noticeable symptoms. It's called asymptomatic shedding. Just because sores or blisters are not present does not mean you can't transmit the virus to someone else. As far as it being easier for a woman to get it from a man rather then a man get it from w woman in my opinion it's 50/50 either way. I'm a man and I got it after having sex with my partner after 3 encounters so that's is definently a higher percentage the 4 as for cuddling since it's on your thigh wear pajamas that cover and cuddle away.