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Just told guy im seeing that i have herpes...

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So i found out yesterday and immediately went to his house to tell him. I wanted to make it very factual and informative versus over emotional...which i felt inside. His response was...well if it was anyone else i would feel differently, but since its you it will be okay. I thought that response was sweet. Yet his actions said otherwise. He slept on futon across from bed where i slept. Wtf. I feel contaminated, unwanted and dirty. To make my situation worse there are two sources from which i got infected and he is one possibility. The other man i called and told right away and he sounded panicked over phone. However other man i told in person as he is current SO. I need some help with my timeframe as to which man it came from. I know its not soooo important yet it would be hurtful to know that SO may have known about it and not told me two months ago. My first breakout was nov.26th, one week after i was w SO. And i was with other guy nov.15. Any clues as to which is more likely the source? Im scared as hell to make initial contact as far as text my SO as im trying to give him time to process this. Is this right to do? Being as he could be the one who knowingly gave to me...ugh...would appreciate any feedback. 

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