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2 random encounters in March. A steady boyfriend from April till now and I have hsv 2. Everything says initial outbreak will happen 2-10 days after infected. Nope. 8 months these little virus bastards hung out. Monday I noticed something ain't right- got to the dr on Wednesday who started me in valtrex 2x a day for 10 days. My bf hasn't gotten tested yet but just "knows" he doesn't have it. Hell- this time last week I KNEW I didn't have it. 

I called the 2 other guys to ask. 1 informed me he may but he doesn't think so. Which is guy talk for yea. 

My boyfriend. Older guy. European. Totally laid back and supportive AF. Really just says. Ok. I'll get tested and we will figure it out from there. 

Hardest part of this. Other than feeling like my identity has shifted forever ( oh and the whole messsss going on down there)... is fear. Fear that only hours of research and education will bring. I have sooooo many questions. I don't want subjective opinions and articles online. I'd like real people. So. As I lay here while the baking soda I have applied to my bits and pieces makes me want to scream louder than childbirth... is there anyone out there who has enough experience to help a young terrified single mother with a boyfriend and the stupidest questions imaginable??

 

xoxo, 

the fearful

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BoatyMcBoatface

Did you get a blood test?  You could have gotten it from your be just now. It sounds like no one has any confirmation at this point.

 

Did you have bumps or primary outbreak symptoms?

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