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Hello everyone:

I was diagnosed with Genital Herpes two weeks ago.  I finished my course of acyclovir and have now started on Valtrex.  I spend a lot of my free time doing research to find out what Herpes is and what to look for so I can know when I'm having an outbreak.  A couple weeks ago I was devastated, but I try not to let myself get too down.  I have a supportive boyfriend who is being very patient with me while I'm finding all this information out.  As we have found out, he is asymptomatic (lucky him!)

Just when I thought I finished my first outbreak, it seems like I am having another one again, it's a bit frustrating, and sometimes I feel as if I have no one to talk to. I live in a really tiny town of about 200, and the closest doctor is about 2 1/2 hours away from me.

I am hoping that this community will be a support to me.  It's already so comforting to know that there are others like me.  

 

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Hi @vyelake and welcome.

Did you find out whether you have HSV-1 or HSV-2 as genitally, there is a bit of a difference in outbreak frequency expectations. Perhaps taking antivirals will help for the next handful of months but after that there is little reason not to let your body do the work of addressing the virus.

You can't reinfect your boyfriend so life should be able to return to be exactly as it was pre infection. 

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You are not alone love, and one thing to always keep in mind is that those lucky folks who don't carry hsv-1 or hsv-2, they are actually in the minority of the population. Most people have herpes. Period. As for the symptoms, they vary, but there are ways to manage them so keep your head up and you'll tackle this. We all will and are and will continue to be stronger for it.

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3 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

Hi @vyelake and welcome.

Did you find out whether you have HSV-1 or HSV-2 as genitally, there is a bit of a difference in outbreak frequency expectations. Perhaps taking antivirals will help for the next handful of months but after that there is little reason not to let your body do the work of addressing the virus.

You can't reinfect your boyfriend so life should be able to return to be exactly as it was pre infection. 

Hi!

It is HSV-2.  I'm hoping for the anti-virals to suppress my outbreaks, I have read that if you have HSV-2, that outbreaks are more frequent.  To be honest, I am scared of outbreaks, that's why when my doctor told me about Valtrex, I didn't hesitate to get the prescription.  

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Did you have a swab test? Are you sure if it was a culture that it was properly typed? Does your boyfriend get oral cold sores and did you receive oral sex a few days before the outbreak?

These are a few questions to ask yourself to make sure you do know the type. Many people just get a culture that is positive for HSV and assumed to be 2 given genital location.

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2 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

Did you have a swab test? Are you sure if it was a culture that it was properly typed? Does your boyfriend get oral cold sores and did you receive oral sex a few days before the outbreak?

These are a few questions to ask yourself to make sure you do know the type. Many people just get a culture that is positive for HSV and assumed to be 2 given genital location.

I did have a swab test, two actually!  One in the emergency room when I thought I had a UTI and the doctor there said that it visually looked like herpes and that he would send a swab, and another when I went to see a doctor a few days after that.  I only heard from the doctor I most recently saw with my test results that they were HSV, and that she believed it to be HSV-2 (her words).  I had vaginal sex before the outbreak.  I just asked my boyfriend if he'd ever had a cold sore, and he said no (:rolleyes: although I'm not sure if I believe that!).

Perhaps it could be HSV-1.  Would I have to get tested again to know for sure?

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There are things that can trigger an outbreak including sex certain foods and stress so be mindful of these things e specially in the early stages.  The other thing is that's hormones as in your periods country girl an outbreak with these things to do with your appointment but you'll be best to look at what you were doing when you are getting an outbreak so if you can that determine what a cause may be

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