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I got HSV 2. Now I'm thinking about the future.


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Hello everyone. Thanks for having me here.

I am a 35 year old male from Philippines.

Before I got this infection, I already have para-psoriasis as a kid. So when I tested positive for HSV 2, I said to myself sarcastically 'Wow! Another case with no cure... yey!'. I am not really sure which partner I got this from. All I can say is that they probably want no part of it. As a matter of fact, my most recent girlfriend left me even though we only have been together for a few weeks. Well, good bye to her too.

I can say the most scariest part for me is to have myself tested and waiting for the results. I remember the night before my first test for Syphilis, Hepatitis, and HIV, I was having cold chills running down my veins. Me and my best friend were up all night talking to each other with her trying to calm me down. Fortunately/Unfortunately, I tested negative in all those 3. Then the doctor recommended a dermatologist who also specializes in STD/STI. He suggested to have me test for HSV 1 and 2. Afterwards, here I am.

Just had another outbreak last weekend, about a month ago after my previous one. Got my prescription and currently have my alarm set to 4 hours after each take of Zovirax. I haven't told anyone, not my parents nor my best friend. I figured it's better that they don't know considering how my mother reacted when I first told my parents that I'll be having myself tested for Syphilis, Hepatitis, and HIV. I did tell them that I tested negative for the 3. Never told them about the Herpes test.

As for the future, I'm not really sure. All I can say is that this event kinda woke me up to reality. I have set myself to enjoy the rest of my life to the fullest. The only conflict I have in my mind is whether there's still hope for me of finding a partner who will accept me as I am. I still don't want to grow old and die alone. But this is such a burden to carry.

That's all for now, I guess.

Cheers! ^_^

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Hi Anegelo, i'm sorry you find yourself here.

As for the future, none of us know what that will hold for us. The only thing we can do is continue to live and continue to put ourselves out there with honesty and be true to ourselves.

One thing is for sure, if you stop dating and trying to meet people through fear, then you will be guaranteed to not to meet anyone.

It took me about 4 to 5 months to reach acceptance and since then life has largely gone back to normal. I haven't met anyone yet, but I have been dating and meeting women. Having HSV2 adds an unwanted complication to dating and meeting people but I guess we have to have faith in ourselves and people in general.

take care

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Thanks. Right now I just wanted someone to talk to. I also try not focus on what's wrong with me and just divert my attention on the other good things that I can do.

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  • 2 weeks later...

Im 26 male from philippines

Just got herpes from a one night stand last november 27, 2016. Im still devastated. I can believe i got this. And i was diagnosed clinically depressed yesterday. Starting my antidepressant today, I feel like no ones gonna love me because i have this disease. HELP!

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