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hi everyone, I've just been diagnosed a few days ago and I am completely upset. I really, really want to die right now and I feel like all I have to live for is my 1yr old.

I've been in a crappy relationship for 5 years, then as soon as I decide to try someone new I found out I have genital herpes. I dont know if it came from my boyfrien or the new guy and Im waiting for both of their test results.

I feel so alone in the world right now, and im in serios need of someone to tell me its okay. Please write back, anyone & everyone.:confused::cry:

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I'm so sorry you're going through this, after what you've already been through. Please just remember to keep your head up! Like you said, you have your 1 year old (I have a 3 year old), and they need you more than you need to be depressed! I know it's hard now, but things will get better with time, and eventually this won't be something you get so depressed about.

Best of luck!

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don't give up. Its hard now and its an emotional rollarcoaster but you have so much to live for! remeber that 1 in 4 have it...thats like knowing 8 people and 2 of them most likely have H. So just remember youre NOT alone. We are all here for you...weather it be for venting, asking questions, ,or just talking. I keep the philosophy that everything happens for a reason. If anything, getting H has made me a stronger person and it makes me wonder what life is going to throw at me next because i know i can handle it. I was in your boat when i was first diagnosed but i promise it gets better. You have people on here who are going through the same thing and we completly understand. We all share something in common. I know its hard, but please don't give up. It DOES get better. Im here for you if you need anything, a friend, a support buddy, someone to vent to, anything. :) Keep that chin up!!! HUGS

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I know exactly how you feel! I was diagnosed 6 weeks ago and feel like my world has fallen apart (I have been married for a year we have been together 3 years). My husband had no symptoms except for a tiny crop of what he thought was sweat pimples when he was recently tired and run down. I didn't even think twice about it when he mentioned it. How can you be happily married and then get a STD!!!

I have had 6 weeks of non stop outbreaks (I think this is because we have had a lot of stress on top of this also which hasn't helped). I am going back to my doctor cos I have only had treatment for the initial outbreak. I feel I will never have sex with my husband again at the moment so where does that leave us?

I thought I had had my fair share of crap in life. I had breast cancer (both sides) had surgery,chemo and radiotherapy 9 years ago and now I have been blessed with this!!

All I can say is you are not alone and your little 1 year old needs their mum to be strong. I find I get pretty depressed when I get the initial outbreak and it is so sore but even after 6 weeks I think I am coping a bit better with each outbreak. When I was diagnosed I was so paranoid people were looking at me in the street thinking I was dirty! I know how you feel.

Try and keep your chin up and give that baby a big hug!!

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thankyou

You guys really made me feel better to know that I am not alone.Its hard for anyone to relate to you when they dont know what your going through, and it just helps to know that it will get better. Theres is a downside though, Im beginning to think I got it from the second guy and that he gave it to me on purpose. Hes just way to cool about it and even seemed like he was almost happy about it. Hes also still trying to be with me, which makes me think that hes trying to trap me in a relationship with him. Is it crazy to think that? I mean he was already trying to move to fast from the beginning.

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Its Ok To Cry

Please dont be so down. everyone is right on target with what they are telling you. YOU OR YOUR SPOUSE COULD HAVE HAD THIS FOR YEARS AND YEARS AND JUST NEVER HAD AN OUTBREAK... i WAS TOLD BY MY OBGYN THAT i COULD HAVE GOTTEN IT FROM BEING A SEXUALLY MOLESTED TEENAGER AND IT JUST NOW IS REARING ITS UGLY HEAD AND i AM ALMOST 50. WHEN I WAS FIRST DIAGNOSED I WAS SO DEPRESSED AND ON THAT PERVERBIAL EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER. I PROMISE YOU THAT IT WILL GET BETTER AND YOU WILL STOP THINKING ABOUT IT EVERY 5 MINUTES AND YOU WILL STOP CHECKING EVERY TIME YOU GO TO THE RESTROOM AND YOU WILL BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR BODY AGAIN. REMEMBER YOU HAVE NOT CHANGED JUST YOUR WAY OF THINKING HAS FOR NOW. YOU ARE THE SAME BEAUTIFUL PERSON YOU WERE BEFORE THE DIAGNOSIS. CHIN UP , HEAD HELD HIGH AND LOVE THOSE BABIES AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. NOTHING CAN TAKE THAT AWAY FROM YOU, NOT EVEN HERPES

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