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Okay, so I've kinda know about the hsv2 since July, but, it wasn't confirmed. Well today I got a very obvious out break.. looks like one at least. Idk, I got swabbed today, and I'm sure I'll be getting the 'hey youv won HSV2' call within a few days. But, I've been kinda seeing this guy, for about 3 weeks, we haven't had sex, but we've fooled around. (He's fingered me and I've gave him head) he's going through divorce and custody courts so our relationship is NOTHING like I have ever had, and before whatever this is I haven't been serious about anyone since I started thinking I had hsv2, because I am affraid of giving someone the 'gift' and I'm so nervous to disclose. This guy and I haven't actually been on a date, cause of me. I like more layed back things and he really wants to take me out. I am thinking about letting him take me out on Friday so we can talk and really get to know one another.. but, I feel like I'm ready to tell him. I'm too nervous that if I wait to long, I am going to get in a sticky spot or he's going to leave and I'm going to be very very very heart broken. Any advice?? I am nervous he'll leave, or WORST tell me that it's okay then be nervous after we have sex.. or say it's okay and decided later that it's not.. idk i just want to stop thinking about it and get it over with!

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