It’s official I have herpes 1 and 2

[Snoopirac]

I feel like a hypocrite because here I am preaching to others that “herpes does not define you,” “you are not herpes, you have herpes.” Yet, I don’t practice what I preach.  It truly is easier said than done. I know the facts, but it’s still challenging for me, and I’m sure for many others.

My first herpes test was negative.  I had only waited one week after exposure to get tested, so I knew the result was most likely not accurate.  Many studies suggest waiting at least 4 to 6 weeks before getting tested for herpes after exposure.  This is because your body has to build enough antibodies for the blood test to detect it.  I was happy with the negative result, and I was terrified to get retested.  But deep down I knew it had to be done, so I finally got the courage to do it, and despite all the knowledge I had acquired on this virus, getting a positive result broke me down.  I cried like they had just told me I only have a few months to live.  I had to go back on my antidepressant meds because I couldn't handle the news. I was in denial, and still, am struggling with the fact that I have herpes.  Before then I had hope, but after hearing that I had both HSV1 and 2, it was as if my life was over, hopeless, I lost a bit of faith and went through a severe depression.  It was as if I had learned nothing and everything I had written meant nothing.  I was back to square one.  I feel like I'm going through the five stages of death.  First, there is denial, and till this day I still cannot believe I have it.  Before getting my results, I bargained with God.  After my results, I was beyond angry at the man who gave it to me and at myself for letting it happen.  I was severely depressed, I slept for days, wouldn’t shower or eat.  But I am working on acceptance and learning to love myself.  I never really loved myself before herpes, so I have asked myself, how will I learn to do that now?  I will have to find a way; I know it’s possible.   

I am petrified of getting my first outbreak, so far I am asymptomatic, but I know that can change any day now. I’m trying to find a way to accept what has happened to me, so that when or if I get my first outbreak, I will have a positive or calm reaction to it.  I am doing what I must to help me cope with this new diagnosis (i.e., antidepressant meds).  It’s okay to seek professional help, it was the best thing I could have done for myself.  So It is official now; I have the herpes simplex virus (HSV) 1 and 2, as well as low-risk HPV.

Please don't hesitate to comment and leave words of encouragement.  We are all here to learn, we are in this together.  God bless!!!!

Beingstdconscious.com

Edited December 16, 2016 by Snoopirac

[Snoopirac]

I couldn't help but think, why do I feel like I'm going through the 5 stages of death? I think I know the answer now. I'm currently mourning and grieving for my sex life. I feel that my sex life is over. But deep down I know it's not, what I do know for sure is that it will never be the same. But is that necessarily the end of the world? Only time will tell. I feel I am now better educated on safe sex practices (it's not too little too late) and that's the right approach to keeping not only myself safe, but potential sexual partners as well.

[LilyMae]

You have to process what has and is happening to you and with you in your own way. Grief is a very reasonable response to change and perceived loss. Be compassionate with yourself about your situation and your process. By compassionate I don't mean lay down and give up, I mean when you find yourself having a reaction that makes you uncomfortable or feels like it's unexpected or inappropriate, try to feel compassion for the you that's having that reaction. And maybe for the reaction too. Just try too acknowledge it and say "Oh. There you are. That thought. That's you, right now. It's okay. You're okay." 

If you are so far asymptomatic, you may be one of the 80% of people with hsv who never have symptoms. Of that's the case, I'm betting that in the long run the changes hsv makes in your life will be very minimal. You'll have to tell people you want to share part of yourself with something mildly embarrassing. Getting up the nerve to do that and figuring out who you trust with something personal will suck the first couple times but then it will just become a little nerve wracking and you'll learn to deal with it in a way that may actually make you more attractive as a human being to the person you're telling. Otherwise, it's nobody's business unless you decide it is.

Don't waste any time bring scared of how you'll deal with an outbreak if you ever have one. Trust yourself that you are smart and competent and tough and even if it's bad you'll get through it. And know that you can come here and get all the advice you need to deal with it.

You are going to be okay. Your life is going to be okay. It's going to be beautiful and full and amazing and hard just like it was before you were diagnosed with hsv.

Sending hugs to you. 

[Lostgirl4]

I feel the exact same way!!

 

[HguyMNL]

Im still being positive about this, especially in my country they never give any importance in HSV awareness. 

[lauralo1001]

Hey! I have HSV 1 and have recently been diagnosed with low risk HPV (genital warts). I'd really like to know your experience with HPV as I haven't been able to speak to many coinfected with herpes. Have you fully cleared symptoms now? If so have they reoccurred? These 2 diagnoses are the LAST thing I wanted in the world and I don't think there will be a time where my mind won't drift off into the abyss of sadness but it's reassuring (and unfortunate) that I'm not alone in all this

[Vagonzales04]

On 12/16/2016 at 4:03 PM, Snoopirac said:

I feel like a hypocrite because here I am preaching to others that “herpes does not define you,” “you are not herpes, you have herpes.” Yet, I don’t practice what I preach.  It truly is easier said than done. I know the facts, but it’s still challenging for me, and I’m sure for many others.

My first herpes test was negative.  I had only waited one week after exposure to get tested, so I knew the result was most likely not accurate.  Many studies suggest waiting at least 4 to 6 weeks before getting tested for herpes after exposure.  This is because your body has to build enough antibodies for the blood test to detect it.  I was happy with the negative result, and I was terrified to get retested.  But deep down I knew it had to be done, so I finally got the courage to do it, and despite all the knowledge I had acquired on this virus, getting a positive result broke me down.  I cried like they had just told me I only have a few months to live.  I had to go back on my antidepressant meds because I couldn't handle the news. I was in denial, and still, am struggling with the fact that I have herpes.  Before then I had hope, but after hearing that I had both HSV1 and 2, it was as if my life was over, hopeless, I lost a bit of faith and went through a severe depression.  It was as if I had learned nothing and everything I had written meant nothing.  I was back to square one.  I feel like I'm going through the five stages of death.  First, there is denial, and till this day I still cannot believe I have it.  Before getting my results, I bargained with God.  After my results, I was beyond angry at the man who gave it to me and at myself for letting it happen.  I was severely depressed, I slept for days, wouldn’t shower or eat.  But I am working on acceptance and learning to love myself.  I never really loved myself before herpes, so I have asked myself, how will I learn to do that now?  I will have to find a way; I know it’s possible.   

I am petrified of getting my first outbreak, so far I am asymptomatic, but I know that can change any day now. I’m trying to find a way to accept what has happened to me, so that when or if I get my first outbreak, I will have a positive or calm reaction to it.  I am doing what I must to help me cope with this new diagnosis (i.e., antidepressant meds).  It’s okay to seek professional help, it was the best thing I could have done for myself.  So It is official now; I have the herpes simplex virus (HSV) 1 and 2, as well as low-risk HPV.

Please don't hesitate to comment and leave words of encouragement.  We are all here to learn, we are in this together.  God bless!!!!

Beingstdconscious.com

Hello I have just being diagnosed and like yourself the first test is negative and then I got sick with Siptis in the hospital is when I found out I have Herpes in my cervics . I hate myself I just got out of a 9 year relationship with my children's dad to dating 8 months with Herpes I'm so ashamed. I don't have any hope at this point I'm a single mom of three beauties and all I can think of is how I failed as a mom . I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life but I can't face the truth . I'm days out of the hospital and all I can think of is how alone I feel my new partner is still awaiting to be tested and I don't want to lose the only thing I have left . Help please with some resources I don't know if I'm coming or going 

[Snoopirac]

4 hours ago, Vagonzales04 said:

Hello I have just being diagnosed and like yourself the first test is negative and then I got sick with Siptis in the hospital is when I found out I have Herpes in my cervics . I hate myself I just got out of a 9 year relationship with my children's dad to dating 8 months with Herpes I'm so ashamed. I don't have any hope at this point I'm a single mom of three beauties and all I can think of is how I failed as a mom . I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life but I can't face the truth . I'm days out of the hospital and all I can think of is how alone I feel my new partner is still awaiting to be tested and I don't want to lose the only thing I have left . Help please with some resources I don't know if I'm coming or going 

 

 

 

Hi,

 

If he loves you, he will stay. If not then you will know he was not the right one for you, and he didn't love you, to begin with, so his lost. You didn't trick him or lie to him; you simply didn't know.  So you did nothing wrong there.  I'm still struggling with this myself; I know I don't practice what I preach because it is hard.  I feel the same way you do, ashamed, will I be alone forever? I want to be alone forever because I can't face the embarrassment of disclosing my dirty little secret to someone else. What I have learned however is that its normal to feel like this, and I am hopeful that with time, it will get better.  Time heals all wounds. You've been hurt before I'm sure, and you got over it.  Well, this is no different. The good news is that herpes is manageable, it's not a death sentence.  You just need to take the time to process what has happened.  For me it's not so much the disease that bothers me, it's the stigma associated with it.  The way many others see me now is as dirty, (I'm not saying everyone), so its easy for me to feel like I am dirty. I know I just need to learn not to let what others think affect me too much, I would suggest you do the same Luv.  You will need to learn to love yourself again, and it will happen  Because you are still the same person you were before, all that's changed now is your sex life. And I know that's an important part of life, but it is what it is,  "ish" happens.  But when you are ready, you will learn to deal with it and manage it.  You will also protect yourself better in the future as well as your partner.  Keep hoping for the best, don't let it bring you down to much Luv.  good luck!! and Hope I helped at least a little.

 Rae

Beingstdconscious.com

Edited December 20, 2016 by Snoopirac

[Snoopirac]

"Hey! I have HSV 1 and have recently been diagnosed with low risk HPV (genital warts). I'd really like to know your experience with HPV as I haven't been able to speak to many coinfected with herpes. Have you fully cleared symptoms now? If so have they reoccurred? These 2 diagnoses are the LAST thing I wanted in the world and I don't think there will be a time where my mind won't drift off into the abyss of sadness but it's reassuring (and unfortunate) that I'm not alone in all this"

 

To answer your question, I've had to have a pap every six months to a year to make sure the cells have not changed into cancer.  It is pretty scary, especially since I don't have children yet.  The good news is low risk as opposed to high risk has a lower chance of turning into cancer, and if your immune system is strong enough, it can get rid of it.  With herpes in the mix, I'm not sure how this will all turnout, I'm assuming the same.  Good luck!

Rae

Beingstdconscious.com

[Snoopirac]

thank you so much lilyMae

Rae

Beingstdconscious.com