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Recently diagnosed and telling the guy who I've been seeing

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 I’ve been seeing this this guy for about three weeks, I’ve slept with him twice, since I slept with him last Thursday I had the morning after pill and started my period like on the Tuesday heavy and I started taking the mini pill. Then I noticed a painful lump and other little red marks surrounding it, I went to the doctors the next day and she misdiagnosed me and gave me antibiotics and said it looked like ingrown hairs from shaving that had caused an infection. Then I noticed some little red marks on my vulva and the pain didn’t get better at all with the antibiotics so I went to the GUM the day after and she said that it looked like herpes and she’s given me herpes Aciclovir to take for five days and an anaesthetic to apply to the sores to make it easier to wee, I'll get the official results from the STI/STD texts in 10 working days. 

So I've got a few things that I'm not sure about. 

I've stopped taking the mini pill (progesterone only) because I've read that it can mess with your hormones and trigger outbreaks, but also I've read that your periods themselves can trigger outbreaks, so has anyone got any advice on how they regulate their hormones and decrease the chance of an outbreak when on your period?

Is it more likely that the STD was contracted by him or that it has laid dormant for a while? 

He's going away next week, and he won't be back until around March next year so he really wants to see me, and obviously will want to have sex, which will make the timing of telling him so bad.

I've been canceling on him, but I don't know what to say to him/when is the right time. I don't even know if we're going to keep seeing each other when he comes back.  

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I like to always have facts before I speak on important matters. I waited until I got my results to talk to the one who gave it to me. I wanted to make sure I knew what was going before I look silly and am wrong but since he's leaving and will be for a while maybe it be best to have a conversation maybe he knew or would like to know 

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I'm sorry you're going through this. You should see how your body reacts when having your period. Some people get outbreaks done don't but the biggest thing is to stay healthy. You can do supplements like vitamin C too. I was kind of in the same situation you were and didn't tell the guy I wasn't feeling well. I think it is best to wait for your results but you could always bring up to him that you're having some issues, even say you think it might be a yeast infection and see how he reacts. Did he have any sores? Hope you feel better. 

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