Exposure time

[Markninja]

I have been having sex with a women for 5months..2 wks ago I get flu like symptoms and break out..go to doc..he says I got herpes .gives me valtrex...I tell the women she swears she only had sex with me...she had no break out...if we been having rough sex 5months .wouldn't I already have herpes unless she just got it???

[Disc0rdant]

She could have hsv1 or 2.  I would ask her to test with you.  I would get a blood test right away so you have a baseline.  Just me...

[Disc0rdant]

Even if she wont blood test, you should.

[BoatyMcBoatface]

She could have had it before you met her and not known...or she did know and didn't tell you.

[bitsnpieces]

I am no expert, and this may not help you to read, but I have not been sexually active in over 6 years and my first outbreak was almost two years ago. It seems the virus' ability to lay dormant means pinpointing the exposure can be difficult. I was only ever with my ex, but he was sleeping around. In the time we were together he never presented with symptoms. To my knowledge, he still doesn't. So when did I get this?  When did he? Those are things I will probably never know. I try not to dwell on it. The important thing now is to take care of your health and do everything you can to prevent spreading the virus. If your girlfriend tests negative, do what you can to keep her that way.  

[BoatyMcBoatface]

16 hours ago, bitsnpieces said:

I am no expert, and this may not help you to read, but I have not been sexually active in over 6 years and my first outbreak was almost two years ago. It seems the virus' ability to lay dormant means pinpointing the exposure can be difficult. I was only ever with my ex, but he was sleeping around. In the time we were together he never presented with symptoms. To my knowledge, he still doesn't. So when did I get this?  When did he? Those are things I will probably never know. I try not to dwell on it. The important thing now is to take care of your health and do everything you can to prevent spreading the virus. If your girlfriend tests negative, do what you can to keep her that way.  

Did your first outbreak include the flu symptoms that usually come with a primary outbreak ?

It couldn't lie dormant than produce primary outbreak symptoms could it?

Edited December 23, 2016 by BoatyMcBoatface

[Nervous 2016]

5 hours ago, BoatyMcBoatface said:

Did your first outbreak include the flu symptoms that come with a primary outbreak like the flu?

It couldn't lie dormant than produce primary outbreak symptoms could it?

 I was just diagnosed last week. I never had primary outbreak symptoms. My doctor told me it varies with every person and i could have had it for years with no symptoms. They actually didn't think mine was herpes because the lesion was so small and wasn't a blister or ulcer it looked like i scratched myself. She only swabbed me because it was my second unexplained"cut".

[Mackie82]

30 minutes ago, Nervous 2016 said:

 I was just diagnosed last week. I never had primary outbreak symptoms. My doctor told me it varies with every person and i could have had it for years with no symptoms. They actually didn't think mine was herpes because the lesion was so small and wasn't a blister or ulcer it looked like i scratched myself. She only swabbed me because it was my second unexplained"cut".

I contracted the H in 2007 and the lovely girl told me after a month or so from our relation so honestly I didn't know anything about and told her ignore it I don't care and I did the test after few months and came back positive I never showed any symptoms till Jan 2016 imagine and still no blisters or lesion only hell of burning sensation and itching which lasted for few months till now and nothing is helping this valtrex and acyclovir are sh!t and do nothing as well lyrica for the nerve pain does noting. Anyway herpes does not kill you . Stress will definitely kill you and I could die anytime due to heart attack or stroke let's see since I don't care anymore 

[bitsnpieces]

20 hours ago, BoatyMcBoatface said:

Did your first outbreak include the flu symptoms that usually come with a primary outbreak ?

It couldn't lie dormant than produce primary outbreak symptoms could it?

Honestly, I had several outbreaks before I finally had one looked at. My outbreak sites are not genital or oral. I thought they were strange spider bites. It wasn't until they came back several times (always in the same places--those are some very specific spiders! ) and I began to see a pattern, that I decided to do research and then ultimately go seek medical help. I don't recall flu like symptoms on the first outbreak but on subsequent ones I have had that, along with depression. My initial outbreaks were all just the swelling, itching, pain cycle of the lesions, as much as I recall. It is hard for me to remember since it was maybe close to two years ago. It has also taken several tests to finally have one show a positive result. 

[bitsnpieces]

15 hours ago, Mackie82 said:

I contracted the H in 2007 and the lovely girl told me after a month or so from our relation so honestly I didn't know anything about and told her ignore it I don't care and I did the test after few months and came back positive I never showed any symptoms till Jan 2016 imagine and still no blisters or lesion only hell of burning sensation and itching which lasted for few months till now and nothing is helping this valtrex and acyclovir are sh!t and do nothing as well lyrica for the nerve pain does noting. Anyway herpes does not kill you . Stress will definitely kill you and I could die anytime due to heart attack or stroke let's see since I don't care anymore 

Have you tried tea tree oil? I am not sure if it works if your pain has been prolonged, but it is worth a try since nothing else seems to give you relief. I used it at the beginning of an outbreak and then never even had the lesions erupt. The initial nerve pain that I feel as an outbreak starts went away too. It's just a suggestion. Do your own research, but it is an option.

[Mackie82]

1 hour ago, bitsnpieces said:

Have you tried tea tree oil? I am not sure if it works if your pain has been prolonged, but it is worth a try since nothing else seems to give you relief. I used it at the beginning of an outbreak and then never even had the lesions erupt. The initial nerve pain that I feel as an outbreak starts went away too. It's just a suggestion. Do your own research, but it is an option.

I have tired the pure tea tree oil for nerve pain but does nothing to me i nevere had visible sores/ blister it's just continued nerve pain in my groin area back and the right leg the only part is not feeling the nerve pain is my left leg and this is for few months now I don't mind few outbreak every year but the nerve burning is killing me. I will be visiting a very good center in Tel Aviv on Sunday so I hope they can do something for me this is the last hope otherwise I am done from this life. Thanks 

[Mackie82]

On 12/19/2016 at 4:04 AM, Markninja said:

I have been having sex with a women for 5months..2 wks ago I get flu like symptoms and break out..go to doc..he says I got herpes .gives me valtrex...I tell the women she swears she only had sex with me...she had no break out...if we been having rough sex 5months .wouldn't I already have herpes unless she just got it???

I have not show any symptons for more than 9 years and i have the diagnosed after almost 4 months of the exposure till  mid of this year I started out breaking every months and non stop nerve pain, so she/ you could have it for years without any symptons and if she saying that she had sed with you only that means she was a virgin! Anyway blaiming and pointing on each other won't help just live with it till the big pharma allowed the cure i believe the cure is there already but for the big pharma this is big lose since they are selling the medicine for almost 1 billion people combined HSV1/HSV2 

[Felix12]

Everyone is different. I had symptoms within HOURS of contracting it. I had sex and woke up with two small wet ulcers that were excruciating to touch. I though I was bit by something. Within the day, my lymph nodes were badly swollen and my legs felt like 100 pounds each. I just remember I was in a store and had to stop because I couldn't move. I thought my legs were paralyzed. 

[Mackie82]

8 minutes ago, Felix12 said:

Everyone is different. I had symptoms within HOURS of contracting it. I had sex and woke up with two small wet ulcers that were excruciating to touch. I though I was bit by something. Within the day, my lymph nodes were badly swollen and my legs felt like 100 pounds each. I just remember I was in a store and had to stop because I couldn't move. I thought my legs were paralyzed. 

And how do you feel now ! My major problem is the nerve pain in my right leg and back all the time no visible sores/ blister just itching sometimes and as I have mentioned previously it took more than 9 for this to happen. I don't mind few outbreaks /year it's the nerve pain which is killing me and interfing in my life and daily activities which I don't do anymore 

[Felix12]

43 minutes ago, Mackie82 said:

And how do you feel now ! My major problem is the nerve pain in my right leg and back all the time no visible sores/ blister just itching sometimes and as I have mentioned previously it took more than 9 for this to happen. I don't mind few outbreaks /year it's the nerve pain which is killing me and interfing in my life and daily activities which I don't do anymore 

About one small outbreak every 5 weeks or so (sucks) and tailbone pressure/pain/crawling sensation almost constantly hate this symptom. Thigh nerve sensations come and go too. Oh and lower back itchiness at times. Basically most days I can "feel" the virus..ugh. The only peace of mind I have is that that the virus is fairly predictable. In other words, I know the syptoms that I will have, unlike other diseases that progress.

[Mackie82]

5 minutes ago, Felix12 said:

About one small outbreak every 5 weeks or so (sucks) and tailbone pressure/pain/crawling sensation almost constantly hate this symptom. Thigh nerve sensations come and go too. Oh and lower back itchiness at times. Basically most days I can "feel" the virus..ugh. The only peace of mind I have is that that the virus is fairly predictable. In other words, I know the syptoms that I will have, unlike other diseases that progress.

The major trigger for the virus is stress specially for men, as I habe previously mentioned no outbreak in 9 years and I knew that I have herpes for all of these years but due to hell of stress I ended up with the most horrible nerve pain, I would anything to eliminate or at least reduce the pain nothing is working so far on Sunday I am having appointment with the specialist and hoping for solution. Let's see 

[Felix12]

2 hours ago, Mackie82 said:

The major trigger for the virus is stress specially for men, as I habe previously mentioned no outbreak in 9 years and I knew that I have herpes for all of these years but due to hell of stress I ended up with the most horrible nerve pain, I would anything to eliminate or at least reduce the pain nothing is working so far on Sunday I am having appointment with the specialist and hoping for solution. Let's see 

Absolutely. I have noticed that the more I think about herpes, the more outbreaks I get. Who knows what drives this creepy virus. Taking an a low dose asprin may help with your nerve pain, because it will reduce inflammation. Herpes often tricks the immune system by causing mild inflammation, which distracts immune cells and allows the virus to run along the nerves. Reducing inflammation will help allow immune cells to keep the virus in check.

[bitsnpieces]

Something else to try is tumeric (or may also be called curcumin when it is a capsule). I have not tried it personally for any symptoms, but my mom uses it regularly for pain and inflammation (from multiple traumas). It's natural and has really worked well for her. I hope you get relief and your appointment goes well Sunday!

[Mackie82]

7 hours ago, bitsnpieces said:

Something else to try is tumeric (or may also be called curcumin when it is a capsule). I have not tried it personally for any symptoms, but my mom uses it regularly for pain and inflammation (from multiple traumas). It's natural and has really worked well for her. I hope you get relief and your appointment goes well Sunday!

Thank you very much , but I have tried the curcimin which is the highest concentrated of the turmeric with no luck  also I have tried the ginger pills all the supplements I have tried with no luck I wish the pain to go I don't mind H anymore . The nerve pain is killing me. Thank you very much for you kind advise 

[Mackie82]

9 hours ago, Felix12 said:

Absolutely. I have noticed that the more I think about herpes, the more outbreaks I get. Who knows what drives this creepy virus. Taking an a low dose asprin may help with your nerve pain, because it will reduce inflammation. Herpes often tricks the immune system by causing mild inflammation, which distracts immune cells and allows the virus to run along the nerves. Reducing inflammation will help allow immune cells to keep the virus in check.

I don't understand how does the immune system work for me I don't get flu or any other sickness for years sometimes 5 years or more but the virus i can feel it in my body and the meds is not working anymore really frustrated from the nerve pain