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Here's the story as simple as I can make it. My man and I currently live together(2 months). Been seein' and doin' each other for 10 months. We met thru mutual friends. My girlfriend (at the time) was doin' him first(twice).

We had a threesome, although the girlfriend and I did nothing with each other(I didn't like her that much, in that way) He and I fell madly in love. We only involved her 2 more times(third time she backed out??) 10 months since then, we've been crazy in love. One night I was giving him a BJ, I was pretty rough with my hands this time and I wear a sterling silver ring on each finger, He said they might have roughed him up a bit cause it kinda hurt. Next day I was at it again, In the heat of the moment, no one said "ouch" if neccessary. Afterwards, he immediately says it looks like I rubbed a sore on him.(one) Then it was forgotten. We had great sex one day after that. No problem. Three days later I wonder why we haven't been doin anything(we do something everyday) He says he's got more sores. They never had fluid in them or anything. They look like a mosquito bite looks when it is healing with a scab. I thought maybe he had a reaction to the rings. STRANGE...??

Since, I've noticed alot of itching goin on with me. I'm clean shaven and never wear underwear. I've been itching anywhere I may sweat down there. Could it be yeast or fungus or what. No coloration or spots on me anywhere, just my skin will whelp right where my nail scratched.

He says his sores hurt when his clothes rub him, just like any open wound would. They looked scabbed over from the first site of them. The appeared over a durarion of three days before they stopped appearing. Now there are some that look healed and some that look new and some that are in between. Is it common for a Herpes outbreak to show different stages? Also the reason we pointed that out so fast is that we heard that the girl we hung with in the beginning was married to a guy recently that has Herpes. This rumor has us shakin up. Although, it is only a rumor at this time.

My concern is that I'm not convinced it is Herpes. It just doesn't look like any of the pix on the many websites. But I can't think of any other possibilities.

I scratch mosquito bites till they form scabs and go away. That is what they look like to me(the scabbing phase only), can this be describing anything familiar?

We've been to our Dr.s and are waiting for blood test(yet not for Herpes, they said it would be pointless for me since I have no outbreak, and for him because they look almost healed, yet they only just arrived out of nowhere. I'm talking 3 days after the occurance, we went to Dr.s).

I can't take the abstinance, it's driving us crazy. I really need to know what else to look into. Maybe the Dr.s missed something. I'd like to know something to bring to their attention on the next visit in case they say that it's not Herpes.

We both have contact dermitis, we're allergic to the stuff in fake jewelry, I can wear silver, but could it be that he had a reaction to my rings? The "outbreak" started out the same way my skin does when I break out from jewelry. He said he itched a bit at first. Although, the jewelry makes me itch like a madwoman. ???? Please help.

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I too have sensitive skin. Anything can irritate my skin. I can't even wear any silver jewelry ( on my finger, neck,..), cuz it causes dermatitis...


Well I can't really tell from your description....

But from my experience, doctors do make a wrong diagnosis. But since the sore is healed already, you can't have the culture test.

If you still doubt it, I think you should wait 12 weeks from the time you think you were exposed to the virus ( then antibodies can develop), and have the blood test for herpes.

Please take care...


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Thank you for your response. It's been months since the time when the exposure would have occured(10). But the problem only now arose. And I wasn't very clear about the amount of sores, they came up a few at a time but they are where ever my rings were touching him.(they didn't form clusters like that of herpes) It's been another week since then and they are dissappearing, I gave him some manual relief yesturday while avoiding the spots, and with rings off, now one single new spot appeared at the bottom half of him where I was while trying to avoid the top half(where the spots are from before). Just can't win for losing. We're gonna avoid any fun until they are all completely gone. If it continues to pop up from after doing this again, would that be a sign of Herpes?

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It is possible that you get sores continuously if it's herpes, but.... I can't really tell from what you wrote.. At this point, I guess you just have to wait for the result. If it comes back all negative, then, consider having herpes blood test in 12 weeks from the day he might be exposed...

And, I think you should avoid any contact or even protected sex till they are completely gone, and you guys clear the doubts away. Because there are some STDs (including herpes) which can be transmitted even when you wear condom...

Please take care...


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