Please help me , i feel like killing myself

[Arabica]

Hello everyone,

 

I just got my HSV2  IGG test results positive and IGM negative, I started crying and throw up , i still can't believe it , i had so many dreams and now i feel like my life stopped 

 

Please help me , please please

[phil UK 1972]

hi, sorry to hear you are going through a bad time but i understand how upsetting it is when you get your confirmation.  

Firstly, your dreams and life havent stopped...far from it.  You will take abit of time to get your head around things but believe me your life will get back to normal far quicker than you think.

I have had the virus for over 12 years now and i lead a totally normal life etc etc....

Honestly, theres far worse things out there you could have caught.

 

[Distraught1]

No man! DO NOT DO IT! I was diagnosed recently and still feel pretty bad about my situation but its gonna be ok. Hell man, my situation cost me my girlfriend of 7 years and who knows what else but I know it aint worth killing yourself over. This forum will help you like you wont believe. Lots of good people on here to help you get through the rough times. Just DONT freaking do it! SERIOUSLY! 

[Arabica]

2 minutes ago, phil UK 1972 said:

hi, sorry to hear you are going through a bad time but i understand how upsetting it is when you get your confirmation.  

Firstly, your dreams and life havent stopped...far from it.  You will take abit of time to get your head around things but believe me your life will get back to normal far quicker than you think.

I have had the virus for over 12 years now and i lead a totally normal life etc etc....

Honestly, theres far worse things out there you could have caught.

 

Thank  you very much , i just feel i have a big Rock on my chest , i can't tell anyone, i didn't eat for 3 days , what made it worst that the lab called me and told me everything was negative on my STD test , then they called back and told me they made a mistake and i have HSV2 IGG positive, i went to do the test because i had something called "Mollesecum contagiosum" but never thought i had herepes 

 

Now my whole life is destroyed, i want to get married and i want children, i feel like my life is taken away from me , I'm very successful in my life & in my career but now all i think about is leaving everything and just sleep home or worst ending my life ... i don't know where to go or who should i talk to ...

[Arabica]

4 minutes ago, Distraught1 said:

No man! DO NOT DO IT! I was diagnosed recently and still feel pretty bad about my situation but its gonna be ok. Hell man, my situation cost me my girlfriend of 7 years and who knows what else but I know it aint worth killing yourself over. This forum will help you like you wont believe. Lots of good people on here to help you get through the rough times. Just DONT freaking do it! SERIOUSLY! 

Me too , i was planning to get married to my girlfriend, i couldn't tell her and i don't think i could , i will just leave her because even if she agree on to stay with me i don't want to infect her , i just can't live witb this fact , i keep on telling myself it's a wrong lab result and i will get another lab test next week

[phil UK 1972]

if you are unsure have another test.

What makes you think you have herpes? what symptoms have you had? You say you have a girlfriend....How do you know she hasnt passed it to you in the first place? 

 

[Distraught1]

I hate to ask but are you sure she didnt pass it to you? I cheated on my girlfriend and had to tell her the whole truth and it sucked. Im still having a hard time with it but like I said before there are a lot of good people on here to help you through it. One of the first things that the dr told me was that its not the end of the world and that lots of people have it. So do t go off the deep end and do anything foolish that you will regret later. I did feel like I had to tell my girlfriend right away was so she could get tested as quickly as possible. She ended up being negative thank god. 

[Arabica]

8 minutes ago, phil UK 1972 said:

if you are unsure have another test.

What makes you think you have herpes? what symptoms have you had? You say you have a girlfriend....How do you know she hasnt passed it to you in the first place? 

 

I just never had the symptoms of the outbreak, and i already have IGG positive  ( IGG means my body already developed immunity to the Hsv2 virus )

 

I went to the dermatologist 3 months back and he said it's not herpes , but the test results came positive...

 

Me and my girlfriend are long distance and i was with another girl 4 months ago , just a month after our encounter i got the 4 bumps on my pubic 

 

Since then i had so many separate bumps with pus inside , they don't look like herpes at all but i got so annoyed with the them and removed them all , they came back after sometime worst ... there was no pain or itch ... nothing just nothing but those bumps

 

Just recently i feel a little bit of tingling on my thighs 

 

I try to convince myself it's not herpes , but i cant , i wish it's not , whats your symptoms guys ? Is it similar  ?

[phil UK 1972]

im not convinced you have herpes but of course im not a doctor..i would go to a centre that specialises in sexual health and tell them your concerns.  You will be able to get a proper diagnosis.

I cannot speak for everyone but it didnt take me a month to catch herpes after having sex with someone carrying the virus.  If you have been infected the virus normally makes you very ill after a few days (flu, fever, sweats)...the herpes ulcers are also painful and you wouldnt be able to remove them like you are describing...

the tingling on your thighs could well be anxiety due to stress/worrying about your condition.  The brain is very clever in making you think you have illnesses that you dont have.

Like i said....go to a proper clinic, get a test and then see.

 

Edited January 10, 2017 by phil UK 1972

[Distraught1]

I had one big bump and two little ones during my first and only outbreak so far. I had to wait over a week to get into the dermatologist and he told me just by a visual that it was herpes. I havent had a blood test or a swab test yet so I still have no idea yet on if its hsv1 or hsv2. 

[TheAlchemist]

Believe me guys u can still have a normal life with this. I am in a happy relationship after havibg conversation and feel i have the problem managed and with simple treatment i have no outbreaks. Essentially you are not your Herpes! It's just a life situation you will deal with. No need to dwell on negative projections of the future, just take each moment as it comes.

[Arabica]

4 hours ago, phil UK 1972 said:

im not convinced you have herpes but of course im not a doctor..i would go to a centre that specialises in sexual health and tell them your concerns.  You will be able to get a proper diagnosis.

I cannot speak for everyone but it didnt take me a month to catch herpes after having sex with someone carrying the virus.  If you have been infected the virus normally makes you very ill after a few days (flu, fever, sweats)...the herpes ulcers are also painful and you wouldnt be able to remove them like you are describing...

the tingling on your thighs could well be anxiety due to stress/worrying about your condition.  The brain is very clever in making you think you have illnesses that you dont have.

Like i said....go to a proper clinic, get a test and then see.

 

What should i do , I'm becoming so weak i didn't eat and today i fell down on my face , please help me , i don't know what to do with my life anymore , where should i go , who should i talk to , where i live it's a big shame if they discovered what i have , what I'm gonna tell my parents and my friends? What i gonna tell the love of my life ? What should i do ! Please guys i beg you to help me

[phil UK 1972]

Do you not have sexual health clinics in the UAE? You need to ask for an appointment with someone who specialises in sexual health.  They can give you a certain answer.

I dont think its necessary to tell your parents or friends....what benefit would anyone get by telling them? Remember you are NOT going to die because of this!

Like i said, re: your girlfriend.....we dont know you have herpes even, and we dont know if she was the one who gave you herpes (if you have herpes)...So maybe she should be the one giving you the talk?

This forum is good for advice but unfortunately until you have a black and white result, its hard to give you any more advice than alot of us have given you...

[Arabica]

6 minutes ago, phil UK 1972 said:

Do you not have sexual health clinics in the UAE? You need to ask for an appointment with someone who specialises in sexual health.  They can give you a certain answer.

I dont think its necessary to tell your parents or friends....what benefit would anyone get by telling them? Remember you are NOT going to die because of this!

Like i said, re: your girlfriend.....we dont know you have herpes even, and we dont know if she was the one who gave you herpes (if you have herpes)...So maybe she should be the one giving you the talk?

This forum is good for advice but unfortunately until you have a black and white result, its hard to give you any more advice than alot of us have given you...

Thank you phil , unfortunately in UAE there is one clinic, but I'm gonna visit them tomorrow, do you know which test is most recommended? Or should i just do the IGG , IGM test again ? What's funny is that i had the bumps on my groin when i had the test and i still had IGM negative! That what made it more unclear to me because igm should be be + whenever the virus is active , and you said it should be painful, well i had bit of discomfort when i had friction of jeans with the bumps but not pain , never 

 

I wish i come back negative, thank you so much phil , until then i will still have this rock on my chest i just wishi can take ot away to breathe! 

[phil UK 1972]

i had a swab years and years ago when the OB was first active.......if you are having your first outbreak at the moment, it should be easy for them to do the test.

regarding bumps on your groin....i dont believe this to be herpes related.

i know its upsetting but just try and relax and like i said, you havent been diagnosed with a terminal cancer....there are so many many more bad things you could have got (and remember you might not even have Herpes)

stay strong and get some advice tomorrow....good luck

[Theblues]

1 hour ago, Majzoub said:

What should i do , I'm becoming so weak i didn't eat and today i fell down on my face , please help me , i don't know what to do with my life anymore , where should i go , who should i talk to , where i live it's a big shame if they discovered what i have , what I'm gonna tell my parents and my friends? What i gonna tell the love of my life ? What should i do ! Please guys i beg you to help me

Perhaps you could go and talk with a psychologist or trained therapist. It will allow you to express all your concerns and fears in a totally confidential setting. I've been to one a few times to deal with my herpetic neuralgia and it was great just to have someone anonymous to speak freely too. 

[phil UK 1972]

talking and getting things out definitely helps...try not to bottle things up.

you will get through this, promise

[justanothersufferer]

1 hour ago, Majzoub said:

Thank you phil , unfortunately in UAE there is one clinic, but I'm gonna visit them tomorrow, do you know which test is most recommended? Or should i just do the IGG , IGM test again ? What's funny is that i had the bumps on my groin when i had the test and i still had IGM negative! That what made it more unclear to me because igm should be be + whenever the virus is active , and you said it should be painful, well i had bit of discomfort when i had friction of jeans with the bumps but not pain , never 

 

I wish i come back negative, thank you so much phil , until then i will still have this rock on my chest i just wishi can take ot away to breathe! 

Herpes definitely affects everyone differently. Like you I have been extremely successful, amazing career, I was an athlete in my past and still take things very seriously. In the blink of an eye I was pretty much in constant pain for 3 months, I felt like killing myself to when I found out my diagnosis. I've always limited my sexual partners being 33 and only had slept with 5 people in total ever. Turns out my girlfriend whom I had been having sex with daily for a year and a half was positive, she never had a blister or an outbreak and my past STD tests apparently didn't test for Herpes which my doctor never told me. So technically I don't know it was my girlfriend, but I wasn't sleeping with anyone else. Fast forward 6 months from diagnosis I couldn't believe I had similar thoughts of suicide as yourself. However, you get past it, the symptoms generally go away, and its easier to deal with, moreover antiviral medication made me feel like I don't have the virus at all. 

2 years now with herpes and all I can tell you is what you'll likely be telling others on this forum as time goes on. It's not that bad, there are people you can have a relationship with, life isn't over, you just have a virus you have to consider when making relationship decisions.

Trust us, it gets better, just deal with the symptoms day to day till things ease up and your perspective will change along the way for the better

[Arabica]

11 minutes ago, justanothersufferer said:

Herpes definitely affects everyone differently. Like you I have been extremely successful, amazing career, I was an athlete in my past and still take things very seriously. In the blink of an eye I was pretty much in constant pain for 3 months, I felt like killing myself to when I found out my diagnosis. I've always limited my sexual partners being 33 and only had slept with 5 people in total ever. Turns out my girlfriend whom I had been having sex with daily for a year and a half was positive, she never had a blister or an outbreak and my past STD tests apparently didn't test for Herpes which my doctor never told me. So technically I don't know it was my girlfriend, but I wasn't sleeping with anyone else. Fast forward 6 months from diagnosis I couldn't believe I had similar thoughts of suicide as yourself. However, you get past it, the symptoms generally go away, and its easier to deal with, moreover antiviral medication made me feel like I don't have the virus at all. 

2 years now with herpes and all I can tell you is what you'll likely be telling others on this forum as time goes on. It's not that bad, there are people you can have a relationship with, life isn't over, you just have a virus you have to consider when making relationship decisions.

Trust us, it gets better, just deal with the symptoms day to day till things ease up and your perspective will change along the way for the better

Do you think i will ever get married? And have children ? How is your life now aftwmer 2 years ? I didn't take any medicine because i didn't have any pain , only few bumps that went away now , i don't care if i have it for life , i just don't want to pass it !

 

Just a question, which hsv type you have ? And which test you made to discover that ? 

 

Thanks alot

[Arabica]

1 hour ago, Theblues said:

Perhaps you could go and talk with a psychologist or trained therapist. It will allow you to express all your concerns and fears in a totally confidential setting. I've been to one a few times to deal with my herpetic neuralgia and it was great just to have someone anonymous to speak freely too. 

I talked to a counselor and this made everything bit easier, i hope i get this rock off my chest and feel better soon , i just hope so , please guys pray for me and wish me goodluck , i truly need it

[immeas]

Heyy, I understand how you're feeling at this stage, I was there a year ago and had the dark time when my blood test came back positive for hsv2. It's normal to think the way like your chance of chasing dreams has been totally taken away but I have to tell you that it's not true. And yes, you can still get married and have children. At least my mom has both hsv 1 and 2 and now I'm here, typing, healthily.

Although the people at where you live put it in a difficult situation for your to cope with it. But there're many people in this site will listen to you and help you to get though this. Also, you must to know that there're many places in this world think that it's not a big deal like where I live. Don't give up your chance of finding it out. We're living in a big world and you got to see more about it. 

[Seeker1960]

32 minutes ago, Majzoub said:

I talked to a counselor and this made everything bit easier, i hope i get this rock off my chest and feel better soon , i just hope so , please guys pray for me and wish me goodluck , i truly need it

You are going to be fine. You can take meds suppress the virus and use condoms that will help protect you partner. There are a few people here who have never passed it on after years with same person. You are going to get married and have kids. Do worry about that. 

The good news is there should be some better treatments coming up in the next couple of year. There may even be a Therapeutic vaccine next year.

So don't worry this are looking up. Take care of your health and get some rest. In time things will get better. 

Edited January 10, 2017 by Seeker1960

[LilyMae]

3 hours ago, Majzoub said:

What should i do , I'm becoming so weak i didn't eat and today i fell down on my face , please help me , i don't know what to do with my life anymore , where should i go , who should i talk to , where i live it's a big shame if they discovered what i have , what I'm gonna tell my parents and my friends? What i gonna tell the love of my life ? What should i do ! Please guys i beg you to help me

Hi @Majzoub. I am so sorry this is happening to you. The first snd most important thing is you are going to be okay. You are going to be okay. I've had it 21 years and never passed it on. Over the next year you and your body will get really good at dealing with the virus. You can still get married and have a beautiful, wonderful, loving and happy family. You'll find someone who is just right for you. You'll trust them to be a kind and compassionate person and you'll be able to share one small, slightly embarrassing thing about yourself. Then together you'll go on to face the things life has for you. Babies. Kids. Job changes. Loosing people you love more than air. All those things that make up a long amazing life. You'll look back and this will seem like a small thing. But right now. Right here it sucks. This is the worst of it though. 

EAT SOMETHING. Even if it's only a few bites. And listen to some guided meditations to give your brain and body a few minutes to rest.

Hug hug hug. You are going to be okay. Please feel free to message me if you need an ear or have any questions.

[Atrapasueños]

People who say that herpes is not a problem, that you can live a normal life is a lie or have no symptoms or have a good job or have money or are attractive but if you do not bother them outside were not here or thinking about healing ,

And about this post should be a blood test just like machdub the dermatologist and the infectologists had told me that in a visual review was not herpes

La gente que dice que el herpes no es un problema, que se puede vivir una vida normal es mentira o no tienen sintomas o tienen un buen trabajo o tienen dinero o son atractivos pero si no les molestara fuera así no estuvieran aquí o pensando en curarse, 

Y sobre este post debería de hacerse una prueba de sangre al igual que machdub el dermatólogo y el infectologos me habían dicho que en una revisión visual no era herpes 

[Arabica]

1 hour ago, immeas said:

Heyy, I understand how you're feeling at this stage, I was there a year ago and had the dark time when my blood test came back positive for hsv2. It's normal to think the way like your chance of chasing dreams has been totally taken away but I have to tell you that it's not true. And yes, you can still get married and have children. At least my mom has both hsv 1 and 2 and now I'm here, typing, healthily.

Although the people at where you live put it in a difficult situation for your to cope with it. But there're many people in this site will listen to you and help you to get though this. Also, you must to know that there're many places in this world think that it's not a big deal like where I live. Don't give up your chance of finding it out. We're living in a big world and you got to see more about it. 

Thank you dear , i wish i lived in a community that accept what i have , now i have to struggle by myself, i don't even think i will ever have someone because i will always be worried of she doesn't accept it and tell everyone about it , this is why i feel my life has ended