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I had a two week checkup today from my initial dx of HSVII. My doctor initially didn't want to have me on valtrex daily, but today he decided that he wanted to keep me on it across the board.
- does this mean I am less of a risk during sex?
- any particular side effects I should be concerned with while taking Valtrex?
I've recently been diagnosed with HSV 2. I never had an OB before so I don't know what to expect. This morning I woke up with a sore like this (picture attached). Is this a canker sore or cold sore. Its a tiny white sore. It's not on my lip but inside of it. It hurts like a canker sore but I never got one so close to my lip. I've been so paranoid lately and it's been stressing me out. I freak out over every little bump in my mouth. I'm scared to touch my mouth and lips because I'm scared of spreading it.
I just updated a clearer picture of the sores. I notice another tiny white bump next to it. I'm starting to think it is an OB.
I do not have HSV 1.
I was wondering if anybody on here experienced inside the mouth outbreaks with hsv 2? I tried researching but there's not a lot of material on it. I asked my doctor and she said its really rare but some people do have it. I'm freaking out because i always get canker sores inside my mouth and the docotor said that OB's can mimic cnaker sores. I got one of them swab but the test won't come back until next week. Can anybody tell me the difference between canker sores and herpes ob inside the mouth. How do they look? I was wondering if those who do have this, can you share your experience. Thank you!
I contracted HSV-2 from a friend last year with whom I was sleeping casually. He has since apologized, as he was not aware of his status. That part doesn't really matter. My first outbreak was in July 2016.
I am currently experiencing my second outbreak, and although it is only three days in, I really want to minimize the irritation as quickly as possible. I am currently still experiencing itchiness, but also some pain. I know all the standard relief agents, but my situation comes with a few problems :
1. I am unable to take salt baths twice a day, even though I'd like to. Our country has severe water restrictions and my family will be fined if I bath this often. I can take 1 a week, maximum. The rest of the time, I have to shower and keep it under 2 min.
2. I am unable to purchase any kind of medication or seek any professional help. My parents are very religious and very strict, and since our medical aid is listed under their name, any visit to the gynaecologist would show up under our bill and they'd ask a lot of questions.
3. My parents also keep track of my credit card, and I am therefore unable to seek any medical advice that isn't under our medical aid without them asking questions.
I have considered speaking to my parents about the virus, but I know that they will not understand and that it will cause huge problems in my family.
Due to this, I am also feeling very alone and stuck. And just want all of this to be over as soon as possible, so that I can get up and be the active person that I am again instead of pretending to be sick in bed just to avoid them finding out by the way I walk.
I have been using Bactroban cream a few times a day, as well as an anti-itch cream. But I only keep it on for a few minutes before dabbing dry again, as I've been told that lesions heal quicker when kept dry ?
Any tips or advice is greatly appreciated!
I haven't been on in a while as I've been busy with work and music and pursuing a career, but from what I've been reading - which seems to be stemming from a lot of fear and anxiety - I feel like it would help to tell my story, and that is one of complete transparency between me and friends, as well as sexual partners.
When I first contracted ghsv2, I - like many of you - thought my sex life was over. The first year was difficult, feeling like I would only be able to meet people online for the rest of my life. After a lot of thought, however, I began to realise that I could either begin living my life the way I wanted to live it, or crawl back into a dark hole and disappear.
I chose a regular life, and the way I did that was by focusing on improving myself rather than focusing on what others thought of me. I joined a new band, started a new job, and started meeting new people, and meeting people was how I discovered the easiest way to overcome herpes was by telling them on the first day the same way you'd tell someone you have a cold.
At first it wasn't as easy as I thought it'd be - but that's okay. Trying things for the first time are always awkward, but eventually it became the most mundane part of my conversations. I told close friends, family, then not so close friends, then sometimes people at work - I would talk about the community around it, talk about how rewarding it is to help newly diagnosed people on message boards by letting them know that this thing really isn't a big deal. I would talk about it like it was laundry that I needed to do when I got home. I realised almost immediately that the vast majority of people don't even blink when you say it, and even more people ask you questions about it, which - in my opinion - puts you in a powerful position to snuff out the awful stigma around herpes.
When it comes to sexual partners, I'll often wait for the moment before things get going before saying "hey, just so you know I get cold sores sometimes, so we should use a condom." This isn't meant to catch people off guard, it's just a way to express confidence in who you are as a person. By bringing it up as casually as possible, you take all power away from herpes by treating it the way it really is - a common, irrelevant virus. I have never been turned down because of herpes, but I have had people ask me questions about transmission, and I will always return to the same statement, which goes something like this: "Yep, no matter how many precautions you take there's always a risk - but that's true for everyone you'll ever meet in your entire life. At least with me, I know that I have it, which means I take precautions to keep people safe. It's so evasive that it's the same risk no matter who you sleep with."
I guess the reason I am writing this is because I want you guys to know that despite all the negativity, the fear, the self-doubt, the stress, the insecurity, the low self-esteem that comes with having herpes (it happens to all of us) just know that you are as beautiful of a person as you'll ever be and that herpes is as serious as you make it. One of my favourite comedians growing up was Eddie Izzard, a transvestite, who believes that if you tell people your secret, it's no longer a secret, and therefore has lost most of its negative meaning. There is nothing positive about "herpes" as people understand it, so create your own meaning and tell the world, because in my opinion, the only cure we'll ever have in this lifetime is self-confidence and open dialogue.