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Hello, I very recently, unfortunately gave my partner oral herpes. We think it's genital herpes on her mouth. She's got the bumps/clusters and now it's starting to scab.

I'm wondering if we engage in (mouth to mouth, closed and open) kissing, can I get it.... worse?

Meaning - I have only noticed tingling, itching, stinging on my mouth but no noticeable bumps/clusters small or large, no pus or bleeding, etc. Or is it kind of like, the infection is what it is and I already have it/it can't 'pop up' in a new or different way...?


Thanks for your time.

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I'm still rather new at this, but I think (not sure at all, wait for better confirmation) that you can "re-catch" it elsewhere... like it can open up new nerves that the virus will travel down...

Like I said, not sure enough to be confident, but thats what I understand

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Unless you quite recently contracted hsv2 in the past couple months this is very, very unlikely. After a few months those antibodies you have that the igg tests for prevents you from getting the virus in a new place. Also, hsv2 orally is really rare in general. The chance you gave your partner oral hsv2 and then they gave it back to you is almost impossible, provided you do not have immune problems.

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shoonz - i know you can 're-catch' it in different spots/areas of the body (i've had it happen to me) but was simply wondering if my symptoms - which were one type of way (mild) - could suddenly turn into/closely resemble someone else's symptoms (severe) if they somehow accidentally shed/spread their infected cells on a spot i already get outbreaks.


jeffh - unlikely but not impossible... noted. i've had it (for certain with detectable outbreaks) for about a year (may have been no symptoms earlier than that) so it's not recent. like my reply to shoonz states - i already get outbreaks on my mouth but they're very mild and pretty undetectable to other people. so it's not new there, either, but i was stuck on whether it could go from bad to worse (mirror my partner).


thank you for your answers.


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No, that's not what I meant. What you described is so unlikely that it did not happen. You did not spread hsv2 to your partner orally who then gave it back to you orally even though you've had hsv2 genitally for months. If you are convinced you have oral herpes I would be tested for hsv1.

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Hi everyone I'm still trying to figure out if I have 1 or 2 since my blood tests keep coming back negative for both. I gave oral sex to a man who had a sore on his penis, he also rubbed my genitials with his penis. I developed tingling a few days later followed by fever and little lesions on BOTH my mouth and genitals. Could this be either HSV 1 or 2? Or is it most likely 1 since it gave me cold sores? Thank you 

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If there is contact with a nerve other than the one that is already infected it is very possible to transmit. So, yes, it is possible to infect someone in another location. However, If you are both on an antiviral this may prevent this.

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