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I am a bit confused about a few things in my new 'potential' relationship, and I would really appreciate some advice.
I met this guy a month and a half ago, on tinder, which maybe doesn't sound promising, but he seems like a genuine guy and has shown a lot of interest in me. He has pursued me a lot and wants us to be open and talk to each other about everything. I feel I can trust him. (though I could be wrong)
I contracted gHSV1 last year this time. It was very traumatic. I already had a fear of stds, and after that I thought I'd be better off alone. I always told myself that before I disclosed to anyone, we would both get tested (before having sex), and then if he has HSV1, then it would make things a lot easier to either tell him, or keep it to myself.
But there are a few added complications surrounding this:
1) We are fooling around and I am afraid he might have and give me HSV2 or something much worse- my experience with HSV1 was sooo terrible, I still get fevers all the time, so if I had them both it would be physically a nightmare.
2) I am not sure if we are exlusive or official yet. I think he still uses tinder and has many pretty girls on instagram. (i've been hurt a lot in the past)
3) We fooled around a lot. nothing that would have put him at any risk (i was more worried about myself though), but I almost had sex with him one.. he might be angry about this.
I met a guy and we are dating more than a month. In what order do I talk about these things?
1) Are we exlusive?
2) Can you go get tested for everything inclusing HSV1 and HSV2?
3) I have GHSV1
4) I have a huge phobia of stds.
I think telling him everything at once will scare him. Any advice here?
I've been dating a guy for about three weeks. I really like him. We've gone on three dates, & we talk almost every day.
The last time we were together, things got physical & we made out. So now I'm wondering when I should tell him I have HSV-2.
The last guy I told threw it back in my face & said I was "lucky" he was even having sex with me. I don't want that experience again. How soon is too soon to tell this new guy? I know I definitely want to be honest and upfront and tell him before clothes come off. I need advice!
So I have not dated or anything since my HSV2 diagnoses... mainly for the fact that I didn't want to have to tell someone about my little problem. Well in the course of events over the past 3 months, I stumbled upon the most amazing guy I've ever met... literally just my luck that he comes along AFTER my diagnosis. I wasn't looking for anyone, I wasn't hoping to find someone I could potentially fall in love with but here we are & I am worrying myself into a tizzy thinking about how in the world I'm going to tell this person I care about that I have herpes & then what is his reaction going to be. I know he's serious about me & I was kind of hoping at this point I would have found something I would consider a dealbreaker, but this guy checks out 110%. I am terrified of being rejected and I am terrified of potentially driving away someone who literally could be my perfect match. Any advice is welcome, maybe a little pep talk is needed as well... I just need to get myself in the right frame of mind for this conversation.
I found this article this morning.
As you know there is a petition going that was recently posted to help get Dr. Halford in front of some important people to discuss his vaccine. Ok, I am in a research group and it has been said that the petition is going to the wrong person. The petition is going to Rational Vaccine instead of congress. I posted this in one of my groups hoping at least this would bring awareness to hsv. Whoever started the petition please have it forwarded to the right people. @passionatepisces