Jump to content
Connect Anonymously for Herpes Support.
Burdenofpain

Suppressive therapy only during sexy time?

Recommended Posts

Ever since I was diagnosed 4 years ago I avoided dating and sex. It's taken me 3 years to come to terms with my HSV 2 diagnosis. I have about 4 obs a year and have never been on a valtrex suppressive therapy. Only time I had valtrex was my first ob 4 years ago that my doctor gave me for 7 days. After that initial 7 day dose, I left my immune to boost since I was diagnosed and have not had valtrex since. I wasn't sexually active after my diagnosis so I figured no point to be on valtrex

Currently: I have met a wonderful man whom I have to eventually tell of my HSV burden. It would be a long distance relationship out of state where we can visit eachother when possible.

If I tell him and he is willing to accept the risks,I would like us to be intimate and protected.  I've never been on suppressive therapy and don't know if I want to because I  won't be seeing him everyday. I'm afraid to start therapy and my body becomes dependent. So if I ever get off therapy I'm screwed.

 My question is, I would like to be on some type of therapy when I visit him only. Is there a dosage procedure for this? For example if I visit him for 4 days,  do I prepare my body by taking valtrex a whole week before? Should i stay on it when i still see him?

 

So stinking lost, please help anyone

Edited by Burdenofpain
Typo

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

There really is no way to know for sure what would work best in this situation while greatly reducing the risk of transmission.

I know you don't want to be on daily suppressive therapy, but if I were you - I would be if you intend to have sexual relations with him and he himself is negative.  I'm sure you would feel horrible if, let's say you decided to just take it a week before being with him, use condoms, and it was still transmitted.  You might regret not taking it 2 weeks before seeing him or 3 weeks or 4 weeks, etc. (You get the idea).  I believe the best thing that should be discussed first is what is his sexual health history, too.  Has he been tested for everything, including HSV?  Then, you can give him information about the risk of transmission or research the info together, etc. 

From what I've read on here, the risk of transmission is lower for female to male if on daily suppressive therapy and condoms are used.  But, you should do your own reputable research.  Some long term couples have never transmitted the virus to their HSV negative partner (their partner has actually tested negative).  But, that is their experience.  It may not necessarily be yours.

Depending on where your OBs occur, it's important to let him know everything (obviously).  I saw one post from another member who told her partner he had to wear boxer shorts (plus a condom, of course). For me, personally, I do not have OBs in that area.  So, it is all dependent on your own personal OB experience.  

I myself would not want to put someone who was HSV- at higher risk just because I did not want to take daily suppressive therapy.  If I didn't and my partner understood the risks, that's a different matter.  But, many people on here did not receive enough information or were even deceived that they could not make an informed decision before being with an HSV+ person.  So, don't you think we should be more conscientious than those who were not? 

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Your absolutely correct and thank you for responding. I was getting worried my post got lost. 

I'll definitely see what his history is etc and see what he is comfortable with. If he decides to continue and be intimate then even more precautions will follow.

Since this is a long distance and there can be a month or two not being in physical contact with him that's why I thought about preparing with antivirals for the times I do see him. My body has fought this naturally and I just don't want to become dependent on anti virals to the point where if I stop I'll have constant obs. I usually only have 4 obs year. I hope you see where I'm coming from. But if this becomes more serious then a daily suppressive will have to be my final result.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I totally understand.  I prefer natural remedies myself or at least not needing to take medication.  However, I am new to this diagnosis (Jan.2017) and for now, daily suppressive therapy is what works best for me.  From the research I have done myself and other posts on here, even though you don't have an active OB, you could still be shedding.  And, as a result - transmit to your partner.  Please make sure you do further research on "viral shedding."  I think that is one of the major causes for transmission - the mistaken belief that just because you don't have an active OB, you cannot transmit the virus. 

Good luck with the disclosure, talk, and relationship!

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I want to do the natural therapy because of the side effects of valtrex. Is this a good way to go? I want more kids one day and how is that even possible now?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Suppressive medication will reduce the risk of transmission but the natural therapy is do not but if you are with someone and they are prepared to take the risk then having kids should not be a problem and you can still take antivirals at the same time whilst you were trying to conceive.  If you're not planning children and mediately the longer you have the virus and hopefully you will have less outbreaks therefore there is less risk of transmission.  And it also depends on the other person status that you will wait

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
On Saturday, February 18, 2017 at 3:34 PM, Burdenofpain said:

Your absolutely correct and thank you for responding. I was getting worried my post got lost. 

I'll definitely see what his history is etc and see what he is comfortable with. If he decides to continue and be intimate then even more precautions will follow.

Since this is a long distance and there can be a month or two not being in physical contact with him that's why I thought about preparing with antivirals for the times I do see him. My body has fought this naturally and I just don't want to become dependent on anti virals to the point where if I stop I'll have constant obs. I usually only have 4 obs year. I hope you see where I'm coming from. But if this becomes more serious then a daily suppressive will have to be my final result.

My understanding is that you only have to take it 3 days prior and then I'll be asleep while you are spending time with that person.  I was on antivirals when I was saying someone and haven't had any outbreaks but my outbreaks prior to were minor anyway

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
23 minutes ago, Lisajd said:

My understanding is that you only have to take it 3 days prior and then I'll be asleep while you are spending time with that person.  I was on antivirals when I was saying someone and haven't had any outbreaks but my outbreaks prior to were minor anyway

I'm confused about this too...I don't have outbreaks now...if I do suppressive therapy what are the odds that I start having terrible outbreaks if I ever stop? 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Herpes Dating Web Site

    Guest, would you like to try dating another Herpster in your area?

    Search Now
  • Similar Content

    • Sassyhart
      By Sassyhart
      I was doing research on prevention of spreading herpes and came across the female condom. Now first let me state that I wouldn't ever condone keeping the diagnosis from a partner  nor having sex during an OB. But extra protection is always a plus. Does anyone knows of any scientific research on prevention of spreading or decrease likelihood with a femal condom? It is approved under the FDA but that doesn't mean anything. I know it's an internal condom and from the diagrams I've seen, it also forms a type of dental dam or external vaginal coverage over the lips. Any info would be welcome.
  • Newbies

  • Latest Buzz

    • Seeker1960
      I wouldn't jump to conclusions but herpes is a posibility. Herpes cannot be positively diagnosed visually. There are othwr condition that produce similar symptoms. Go to the Doctor and have tje blisters swabbws within 48 hrs. If they dry up and you swab you may get a false negative. Take a  blood test in 12 weeks
    • Tense
      Wow, sorry this sounds pretty crappy. I too have been recently seen because of an outbreak. I wouldn't care abo It having this but, my love of my life was gone for 6 months and  now wants me back. What do i do?? Don't know what to say to tell him. Will go on supporessincd therapy.  To be honest. Sounds like he has something anyway. The o.b doesn't have to present. Some may not have an o.b because they have a good immune system. I am proud of you for getting tested to begin with. He may be positive and  may never test for fear of the knowing he has it. The tingling in the face is yes shedding. I get that and then get one on my nose. It sucks. Sorry to hear about your problem with all this. I am here to listen. I am deeply depressed and at a major low but, talking to many here will help.   
    • hopeing
      Yes they are likely herpes, go see a doctor.
    • Tense
      No, no oral. I kissed him,gave him oral and grinded on his part. The Dr swabbed my cervix, not the sores. I had a bad burning sensation, red area, and then i got red pimple like sores That popped up on the 11th the pain and itch are finally going away. I have been on acyclovir 400 mg 3 times a day since the 11th.  I had my rectal Area a few days ago pop up with a bunch of white pustukes that hurt like hell. He had a cut on his lip which I  now think he was having an outbreak.   
    • jingle
      The positive hsv1 blood test means you probably have oral hsv1 from childhood. Do you know what the value was for the blood test for hsv2? The positive swab may mean you recently got infected with hsv2. What kind of swab was it? culture or PCR? What symptoms did you have that was swabbed? Do you have any estimate of when you would have been exposed with the virus? any days when you had a new partner or unprotected sex? You might want to wait at least 12 weeks, ideally 16 weeks (and in rare cases up to 24 weeks) to get another IgG blood test done for confirmation about hsv2. In the meanwhile, if it is definitely hsv2, you're right, valtrex is most effective if taken as soon as symptoms start, no more than a day after symptoms start. Your body will adjust with time and you will likely not need to take it all your life, although that are people who take valtrex daily and do just fine. It all depends on how well your immune system can keep the virus in check. Do you ever get cold sores on your lips? If you don't, inspite of having oral hsv1, your immune system has learnt to keep hsv1 in check, and will eventually learn to do the same for hsv2. There are many natural alternatives, please read through the natural remedies section on this forum, it's a good place to start. No 2 people are same when it comes to natural remedies (or even valtrex for that matter) so you'll need to experiment and see what works best for you. By the way, the fist outbreak is the worst, so it's possible you may not even have another outbreak or may have outbreaks very rarely. The first year is usually the most outbreaks. Good luck, and let us know if you have more questions.
    • Spider man
      Hmmm I'd say it's always a risk so she needs to be prepared just in case. But I would say as you taking the suppression give it about a Max of 5 days til it's fully in your system and don't get off of it. Only have sex her ovulation days. Restrain from sex if u feel any symptoms coming. If you haven't already you need to study your body if you are asymptomatic I'd just say suppression therapy and sex only on ovulation days is your best bet. The risk will always be there but their are successful discordant couples going 10-20 years strong. So as long as she is aware of the risk I'd say go for it
  • Trending

×