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Ella Gisele Dupre

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I'm leaving for a business opportunity Monday to LA just so happens that the boss and i have a sexual connection and are on the same level with want we want out of each other. We haven't had sex but kissed etc. for a week now he has been texting every morning we talk several times a day generally related to business but there have been nudes sent the every so popular sexting and I know as soon as we see each other that's going to be what he wants to happen. Regardless I will obviously tell him before we become sexually active. My question is this; tell hi. I can't come Monday I have a family emergency due to the real facts which is I was diagnosed today and in an active outbreak wait until the outbreak is over go then before we do the nasty makes sure he knows. Basically bc we can't have sex should I said, he may not want to after I tell him anyway but at least if I am not in an outbreak and he does we can. Last maybe it can be a business deal and that's it leave the sex out of it, I'm going to LA there are plenty of people's there!!!??! I am having a nervous break down about this and the guy who had to of given it to me is denying the fact he knew he had it. Like excuse me are you fucking serious. You know if you have this shit, he a man grow some balls and tell the truth to however you desire sexually. Ok my rant is over I want this to just be a dream I'm in such pain it's so nasty. I am ready for it to heal!!! Please Amy advice will be greatly appreciated. 

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Hi @Ella Gisele Dupre and welcome to the website.

I think you are indicating that you have just found out that you have genital herpes. How did this happen? What testing did you have? 

It is imperative for so many reasons that you do not have sex during an outbreak or until you are fully healed. Until you know the real facts behind your genital issues, I suggest you tell your intended sexual partner something like 'that time of the month, no sexual activity at this time'.

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I would also consider whether sex with a work colleague is actually a good idea.  It could turn on you so it is worth considering how that will affect your career

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