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Hi all, I honestly don't know where to start. I can't say that I've never felt such extreme feelings before as I've battled PTSD for some time. I guess the difference being with the PTSD all I had to worry about is myself. Now with the HSV I'm constantly worried about everyone else. 

I was diagnosed in January, I was horribly ill. It started out with symptoms of a uti, that didn't worry me as it wasnt unusual for me to develop BV after sleeping with someone new. Then the fatigue and flu like symptoms set in, the burning whilst urinating. I kept going back to the doctors and with no visible sores they just kept testing my urine for uti's. A couple of days in I wound up at a women's hospital, it was here they decides to do an STD screening, though still with no visible sores they decided to go ahead and test me for HSV. With some antibiotics they sent me on my way in hopes that my uti would heal up and told me to call on the Friday for results, Friday came and I was still not any better.. I was worse! I called up and was informed that both chlamydia and gonorrhea tests were negative and they'd get back to me with the HSV results as soon as they came in. Ironically when I hung up the phone I turned to my friend relieved and said both negative and I'm not even worried about HSV, I must of been punished!

By Friday night the uti had spread to a kidney infection, I was in extreme pain. Back to the hospital I went, though this time to the general ER. Due to family history of kidney stones my illness was taken very seriously and I was attended tp straight away. More tests were done and my high heart rate and temperature kept rising, despite great efforts to keep them under control. I was admitted and a series of tests were being ran, I got next to nothing sleep and had a severe reaction to the antibiotics that they had pumping in my body. The next morning the ED doctor walked in, as per usual he asked for a play by play of the events leading up to what made me attend the ER. After hearing what I had to say he then looked at me and said we have the results from the other hospital, " you've tested positive for genital herpes". 

I can't explain the feeling I felt at that point, the only words I could manage to muster up was I want to die, I didn't understand. I didn't have these sores that I had learnt about, I had a uti, a kidney infection. Not genital herpes. I couldn't comprehend what he had just said. He then got a female nurse to help explain all about it, though I don't even remember a word she said. 

That was it, it was time to go home. I hardly spoke the whole way home, I got home to get in the shower, I still couldn't believe it. I had to look I had to see! And there they were two tiny ulcer like lesions. No nothing leading up to these ulcers, I mean I was in the doctors every second day getting check that week. Not one of them saw any blisters! I rushed back to the women's hospital this time to get a script for antivirals and have another pep talk with a word not being heard. I was more worried that my mum would wonder why it was taking me two hours at the pharmacy where I told her I was going. I had to tell someone.. Anyone.. I called up my niece, barely getting a word out I broke down crying for the first time since hearing the diagnosis.. She was really supportive, though herself had lots of questions, I mean I couldn't answer them as even though my body was present when the virus was being explained to me, I was not. 

Driving home I was auto pilot, I couldn't bare the thought of going home and have my parents ask me why I was different.. At this point I was like a zombie, I pulled over at the top of my street and balled my eyes out.. Picked up my phone and dialed my best friend.. when she answered she knew something was wrong, I kept saying things like please don't hate me. I won't be able to cope if you hate me, and out came those words those very words the doctor had said hours earlier.. Although I was distraught with the love and support she gave me through that phone call I was able to go home as I thought I would deal with it tomorrow.

I tried eating as I hadn't eaten in days but the thought of chewing the food made my stomach turn I didn't sleep that night or a few nights after that.. The next day though I was set to attend a friends child's birthday party.. It took all my might to get up and drive there, I wasn't even there half an hour before I had to leave. I couldn't bare the thought of people looking at me, I got away with leaving as I was ill with a kidney infection!.. Balling my eyes out on the way home I couldn't contain it, I pulled up into the drive way walked inside to where my mum was sitting.. She questioned why I had come home so early.. I couldn't contain it I had to tell her, as my mum is an older woman she didn't quite understand what it meant. Just that I had this virus for life and it was from sex, so she got to googling. Well of course that stupid scam website with the cure of eat this and drink that and it will be gone came up.. It took a lot of convincing to tell her otherwise! 

My dad arrived  shortly after and I was petrified of telling him as he is very old fashioned, to my surprise he was very supportive and loving.. It was a relief though it still didn't take that feeling away.. All I could think was herpes herpes herpes, if I was given a dollar for everytime my mind has said that we'd all be living in mansions. 

Since then I decided to tell two other friends and my sister.. I feel great that they all have supported me with love but that doesnt change the anxiety that has taken over me. Since being diagnosed I've become more aware that people are ill and people have skin conditions.. Of course all of these skin conditions are a result of me transmitting herpes to my loved ones.. NOT REALLY! But try telling my irrarional mind that when its spiralling out of control.. I have become more isolated and past feelings from the PTSD trauma has come back to haunt me. Even though I know I will be happy one day and I will live a normal life I can't help but feel disgusting and ashamed. I haven't slept without pants on since being diagnosed as I feel like my sheets will be dirty, I can't hold my friends baby without washing my hands one hundred times! My nightmare's have returned, i havent had a proper nights sleep in months. I can't help but feel like I don't want to live anymore.. 

You may think I'm beingsilly and please no negative comments, I am dealing with a process that is much bigger then HSV. I know I am not a walking contagion, I know that HSV doesn't define me and I know that this is just a skin condition. That doesnt stop the constant crying and the disgust that i feel. This is my nightmare.. The nightmare that I don't think I can process. 

I'm sorry this post is so long. You may or may not have read it all, this post was more to get the burden of holding it inside off of my chest. If you read it right to the end, thank you. Any reply is much appreciated. 

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Very interesting circumstances and I am very sorry about the infections. I hope the treatment gets well on top of things shortly. 

The infections which of course you clearly have are in many senses independent of the herpes possibility and what symptoms it causes.

The point I would make is that I would be much more demanding as to the diagnosis. It is not clear what you tested positive for and from which test. A lot of your outlook can be influenced by the HSV type for example and you need this information.

Please return to the doctor and request a printout of all the HSV related tests you have had. This may include IgG testing, IgM testing and culture tests on a swab for example.

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I have gone through same 

dec 26 I cane to know I have hsv1 oral

my wife 9 months pregnancy got hsv1 genital

she had outbreak in 9 month 

we were so terrified

finaly got baby throug c section in Jan 


i was so tensed 

still parenting baby is not easy as I always fear transmisisng herpes to baby

but but but 

mere taking tension will not help anything 

I met 10 doctor all said no stress

i lost 6 pounds got vitamin deficiency checked blood sugar it's now pre diabetic 

so more stress more chances u will develope diabetic wchich is way bad then herpes

donot dig own grave by overstressing

i just got out of deprsssion 






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@WilsoInAus every thing has cleared up now after multiple courses of antibiotics and a course of antivirals. The positive result of HSV came from a swab in the opening of my vagina, I don't think that would be a false positive as I later had the lesions. The results of the uti and kidney infection came from multiple urine screening and kidney function tests. As far as I know its HSV-2, though I won't be happy until its confirm with the blood test that checks for antibodies. 

I definitely have HSV.

@Ak333 I read a little about this in another post! Whilst I don't have my own kids I am constantly around other people's children and that's a burden I couldn't bare.. I can't possibly imagine what you're going through! I think it will take time and a lot of self reassurance but you will get there, and the fear will become a past thought.

I am 100% certain that I have HSV. This post wasn't to question it, rather rant about the fact that I'm not coping. Though now I just have evenore anxiety about the replies. Thanks guys for replying, I really do appreciate it. Though I think I may need to delete as I thought this post would help me, instead I've just created myself more anxiety

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The swab confirms an infection and if they still have the sample they can type it with subsequent testing, annoying how most labs do not do this!! Good approach to get the IgG test in 12 weeks.

Also note that with genital herpes you can only transfer it to children 

Remember this is herpes and nothing more. It will not change any aspect of your dreams or plans for your future.

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    • FirstTimeUser
      @WilsoInAuswould appreciate your thoughts as have seen you comment quite a bit before!
    • Marlena
      Good morning. My name is Marlena and I come from Poland. Sorry, my English is average. For two years I have been in a relationship with a man, for a year and a half I have been struggling with intimate problems. On average, my intimate condition is getting worse every month. Then I feel itching, redness, swelling around the entrance to the vagina, small blisters (not always). Most often it is only red and swollen, itches and then disappears. This state lasts 3-4 days. I come from a small town, doctors don't know what it is. They say it's 'skin irritation'. They prescribe moisturizing creams with lactic acid, probiotics. It doesn't help. I did a blood test for HSV on my own, which is very expensive in Poland, but it does not separate HSV1 from HSV2. The doctor, when he shows these results, says that it's not herpes, but irritation. I would like to add that in the past I suffered from herpes on the lips, then it was a 'scab'. There has never been a scab in an intimate area. Sometimes there are blisters that last 1-2 days, but not always. So what do high blood test results mean? I would like to add that in Poland people do not talk about the HSV virus. It's just that sometimes someone has it on their lips and that's it. Results translation: IgM HSV 1/2: questionable IgG HSV 1/2: result above the measuring range https://files.fm/f/4cpu7uee4  
    • FirstTimeUser
      This is my first time posting here. Im generally pretty anxious when it comes to anything to do with health conditions etc. For context I have had jock itch and fungal infections previously on my buttcrack. I have had 0 new sexual partners and I am not concerned about my girlfriend cheating at all. 4 days ago my balls began itching and red pretty much all over, as you can see some general flakeyness and what looks to be a lesion I noticed on Monday when I checked them out. My partner and I do get cold sores from time to time so the anxious part of me is concerned this could be herpes, but at the same time could be some sort of fungal infection. My doctor cant see me until tomorrow so I just have to worry until then. There is no pain and nothing on the penis or anywhere else, just general itchiness. Any ideas if this is herpes or not?  
    • Jeremy Spokein
      Yes, but every married person who I found out about that has this waited 6-8 months into the relationship to disclose it. But maybe you're right. If I had told her 6-7 months in, she'd still have Googled it and flipped out, and maybe it would have been harder then. I don't know. I don't see myself going through this level of pain and rejection so easily next time. I really don't. I'm taking the meds. I use protection. It's been almost a decade since I've had it so I'm not worried about shedding or passing it on so easily. British studies confirm that the first 2 years are the most contagious and we're passed that. I'm just over this. I've never been in so much emotional pain in my life.
    • Possiblehypercon11
      @WilsoInAus would really appreciate your input please. Kinda freaking out lol. 
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