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Just found out I'm pregnant/ can herpes harm my baby


Robin H

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I wasn't expecting this but I just found out I was pregnant by the guy that gave me herpes, I hate him and I don't want nothing to do with him but I feel like my baby is a blessing from god , can my baby catch HSV, will my baby have any birth defects, can acyclovir affect my baby, will my baby be okay??? Someone please tell me all you know because I'm so nervous and scared.

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Do you have genital or oral HSV?  Herpes won't harm your baby while it's developing inside you.  The risk exists when you deliver, where the baby could come into contact with the virus in the vaginal tract.  Depending on your situation, the doctor may decide to do a C section in order to prevent this from happening.  Antivirals should not have an effect on the fetus.

I encourage you to speak to a doctor soon to discuss your situation and to come up with a plan.  Make sure who ever is delivering your baby knows your diagnosis.

I also encourage you to look into family planning options.  Of course I can't understand your situation, but I encourage you to fully explore your options.  Having a baby with someone who you hate and have negative feelings towards doesn't sound like a very good situation to be in.

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I have genital HSV, and I feel better knowing that I can deliver a healthy baby , I hate him and don't want anything to do with him but Ima love my baby , he doesn't have to be around I only hate him cuz he gave me HSV 

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  • 4 weeks later...

I wouldn't worry about it the doctors know what to do in this situation. They have certain procedures they will do so your baby won't get it. You may have to sacrifice a section from your tummy. :(

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I would definitely discuss everything with your doctors. I had a child, and it scared me too. I ended up having a C-section and she is a beautiful healthy hsv-negative 2 year old. 

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I can also confidently confirm that herpes won't harm your developing foetus.  If you have an outbreak near the delivery time, they will do a c-section.  This happened to me, but I was glad as I was terrified of a natural birth in any case (I'm a low pain threshold chicken!).  As for taking the antivirals during your pregnancy, I would think carefully even if you have professional advice giving it the ok.  Strictly my own personal opinion, it is preferable not to take any kind of medication whatsoever unless there is some life threatening reason for doing so.  Particularly in the first trimester, but I think throughout.  I don't believe anything can be guaranteed 100% safe and that a bit of discomfort for a few months is a small price to pay for a healthy child.  Just ask someone whose mother took thalidomide during her pregnancy.  Best of luck!

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Most OB's will prescribe you acyclovir a few weeks before delivery to prevent an outbreak. The goal is to always prevent a C-section if possible, and delivering naturally you can still have an internal outbreak that you may not know about so taking the medication is highly recommended. If your child contracts HSV during delivery it is extremely life threatening and if your child is lucky enough to survive, often times they will have developmental delays. Not always, but it is very serious. Take your doctors advice and take the medication to prevent outbreak altogether. Also, just for anyone else reading this, if you contract HSV during the third trimester the baby is likely to get it as well. Which is why safe sex practices are especially important during pregnancy! HSV is no joke for newborns. 

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I lost my baby due to primary infection caught in first trimester. I lost him at 23 weeks. It went through my blood into him through the placenta. So be aware if you catch the first outbreak in pregnancy.  

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