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Hi guys, I really need some advice. Last weekend me and this guy I'm seeing had sex over the weekend, by Monday I was a little sore and started to show signs of a yeast infection; itchy, a little swelling and white odourless discharge. I took an oral pill and then ended up having sex again that night. The discharge went but itching still persisted, I went to see the nurse and she said I could have herpes as she saw a tiny cut, she took a swab and I am awaiting results. She said it could have been caused by friction but it also could be herpes. I am so terrified I have it as the itching did carry on for a few days. I have been sleeping with this guy since November but we have both slept with other people in between however, we are pretty much in a relationship now. The nurse said to hold back on telling him until we have the result and know 100%, if I have it how am I supposed to tell him!! I can't stop researching it and crying, I am in bits. I am so scared he's gonna end it and tell people about me, I'm also worried if I do have it I have passed it on to him because of the time we had sex. I am a university student and feel he will end it and tell everyone, please help. 

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27 minutes ago, Honeybee12 said:

Hi guys, I really need some advice. Last weekend me and this guy I'm seeing had sex over the weekend, by Monday I was a little sore and started to show signs of a yeast infection; itchy, a little swelling and white odourless discharge. I took an oral pill and then ended up having sex again that night. The discharge went but itching still persisted, I went to see the nurse and she said I could have herpes as she saw a tiny cut, she took a swab and I am awaiting results. She said it could have been caused by friction but it also could be herpes. I am so terrified I have it as the itching did carry on for a few days. I have been sleeping with this guy since November but we have both slept with other people in between however, we are pretty much in a relationship now. The nurse said to hold back on telling him until we have the result and know 100%, if I have it how am I supposed to tell him!! I can't stop researching it and crying, I am in bits. I am so scared he's gonna end it and tell people about me, I'm also worried if I do have it I have passed it on to him because of the time we had sex. I am a university student and feel he will end it and tell everyone, please help. 

Just wait for the result.it may be fungal infection , no need to worry. Even if u hv  u have herpes ,it is not a big deal.every1 here has herpes.it is just a skin condition.Just wait for 2020  for breakthrough.If u can afford u may visit st.kitts in april to get Dr.halford live hsv vaccine.Slowly over time u wl learn to fight.Just don't loose ur hope.Best of luck.

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I suppose so, it's just going to be so difficult telling him if I do have it and that I may have passed it to him. Thank you for the help and advice

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Hey @Honeybee12 and welcome to the website.

I think you do need to have a little patience here. The nurse is really getting ahead of herself here, but did do the wise thing and took a swab. Your symptoms are not overly suggestive of herpes so I think you do need to have a balanced perspective of what what your issues may be the result of.

Hopefully the swab result will be back very soon.

However now that you are in an exclusive relationship, (I assume it is unprotected?) it is time for mutual testing for STD/STIs.

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1 hour ago, Raj001 said:

Just wait for the result.it may be fungal infection , no need to worry. Even if u hv  u have herpes ,it is not a big deal.every1 here has herpes.it is just a skin condition.Just wait for 2020  for breakthrough.If u can afford u may visit st.kitts in april to get Dr.halford live hsv vaccine.Slowly over time u wl learn to fight.Just don't loose ur hope.Best of luck.

well who said his vaccine will come out in April? there's still no announcement for the vaccine and it's March 

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2 minutes ago, WilsoInAus said:

Hey @Honeybee12 and welcome to the website.

I think you do need to have a little patience here. The nurse is really getting ahead of herself here, but did do the wise thing and took a swab. Your symptoms are not overly suggestive of herpes so I think you do need to have a balanced perspective of what what your issues may be the result of.

Hopefully the swab result will be back very soon.

However now that you are in an exclusive relationship, (I assume it is unprotected?) it is time for mutual testing for STD/STIs.

I agree, just seems these past few days have dragged and I am getting myself really down about it all. The nurse said she would call on Wednesday with the result, although she said they can come back early so I might ring myself tomorrow. Yes it is, and I agree also 

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13 hours ago, Mister Hyder said:

well who said his vaccine will come out in April? there's still no announcement for the vaccine and it's March 

People were commenting on a thread about possible release of vax in april in st.kitts.There is no any official announcement.

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yeah so it's all fake .. had it been true it would have been announced officially.. it's March already and if they were enrolling people for the vaccine they would have done it by now.. just forget about the disease and live a life .. we don't have much option.. 

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Your comments @Mister Hyder 

16 minutes ago, Mister Hyder said:

yeah so it's all fake .. had it been true it would have been announced officially.. it's March already and if they were enrolling people for the vaccine they would have done it by now.. just forget about the disease and live a life .. we don't have much option.. 

dont belong here! Look at the topic. So annoying!! 

Please let us know your results
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i am telling u guys that  do not go near to  fornication, adultery...i am a victim of that result  is a incurable disease 

i ignored prophets words and holy books ..i though  that is a stupid words ...so i went with modern fucking culture .

the result  was a incurable disease.......now i belive that all prophets wear telling truth including our last prophet 

do not travel near to adultery...............if u go like that u will be tested with 100 of incurable diseases here and u will be enter in hell here after by prophet Muhammad (pbuh) in my case that is 100% true now dears 

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35 minutes ago, LillianPanos said:

Your comments @Mister Hyder 

dont belong here! Look at the topic. So annoying!! 

Please let us know your results
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what ? u think I'm lying? if they really wanted to get it out by April y hasn't any announcement made till now ? 

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PUT ON THE APPROPRIATE THREAD!!! that's all I am saying.. no more chatter on this thread about it...ciao.

Just now, Mister Hyder said:

what ? u think I'm lying? if they really wanted to get it out by April y hasn't any announcement made till now ? 

 

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So, the nurse rang me with my results today and they were negative! I am shocked as she seemed sure that it was herpes. She said they can sometimes come back as negative even if people have he virus. Now I'm unsure what to do, should I tell this guy I'm seeing I was tested and it was negative or just leave it? She said if anything like that happens again I must go straight back to clinic, which worries me as it makes me think she thinks I do have it.

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I would get a blood test to be 100%. I'm not sure where your from but stdcheck.com makes it really easy to get tested. You just go to a testing center, get your blood drawn, and results are emailed to you in a couple days.  I would hold off on telling the guy anything until you know for sure.  I think the smart thing would  be to suggest you both get tested for all std's including herpes before you carry on a relationship.  

A blood test will determine if you have HSV and what type it is.

"So who should have blood tests for herpes? This is still somewhat controversial, but here is a partial list of people who might want to get a blood test for herpes:

1. Anyone who has had a sexual partner in the past and wonders if they got herpes without developing symptoms.

2. Someone who has been diagnosed with herpes by visual exam alone and wants confi rmation of the diagnosis or wants to know if they have HSV 1 or HSV 2.

3. Someone who has had repeatedly (or singly) negative herpes PCR or cultures from suspicious skin changes.

4. Someone who has had repeated urinary tract infections but never grows out a bacteria on a urine culture. They may have herpes lesions in the urethra (herpetic urethritis).

5. Anyone who wants to get screened for sexually transmitted diseases. STD screens most often do not include a herpes test. You need to ask if herpes testing is included, and if not, request that it be added to a full STD screen. It is the most prevalent STD in the US today. "

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It was only really this nurses word that this was herpes and there's nothing to support that now. 

What I think is appropriate is mutual testing including HSV to continue unprotected sex. It's a mature thing to do, I'm sure he will see that.

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      @EssenceL25 there really isn't a question mark around the source, it's your latest partner. The median time from infection to an outbreak of lesions upon initial infection is 4 days.  The only thing that isn't certain is the type I suggest.
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