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staypositivelivelife

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Hello all Im in a bad spot well worse for my potential partner. I have had a long distance relationship with a wonderful woman we see each other for about a week every 8 or so weeks. We truly love each other and have fooled around(me doing stuff to her I'm hsv-2,I dont have outbreaks besides my initial one and not on suppressive therapy) I cant seem to bear the shame in disclosing I would love to spend my life with her but my heart sinks when she mentions children. I know I'm leading her on and it breaks my heart. Its wrong and I know it I'm truly lost she deserves better

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Me?  Now understand, I have OHSV1 so my disclosure might be different.  With the only girl I have been with since divorce, I was careless.  I should have tested prior.  We tested two days after...  I intentionally did not keep condoms at my place.  Figure it will give her time to cool down and reconsider in the car before sex the 1st time.  Cause I want her to be sure... I also make sure neither of us has had a drink.  I told her(before sex for 1st time) "hey, I get cold sores on my mouth.  70-80% of the population have it and I wanted you to know"  we should get tested together.  Then after testing, I told her that I wouldnt kiss during an ob, etc.

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40 minutes ago, Disc0rdant said:

Me?  Now understand, I have OHSV1 so my disclosure might be different.  With the only girl I have been with since divorce, I was careless.  I should have tested prior.  We tested two days after...  I intentionally did not keep condoms at my place.  Figure it will give her time to cool down and reconsider in the car before sex the 1st time.  Cause I want her to be sure... I also make sure neither of us has had a drink.  I told her(before sex for 1st time) "hey, I get cold sores on my mouth.  70-80% of the population have it and I wanted you to know"  we should get tested together.  Then after testing, I told her that I wouldnt kiss during an ob, etc.

yeah unfortunately my is in no way going to go that smoothly..but thank you

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10 hours ago, staypositivelivelife said:

yeah unfortunately my is in no way going to go that smoothly..but thank you

Well.  It can still go smoothly for you....  She was still paranoid during the whole 10 mos we were together.  Each person is different.  I am pretty sure that particular girl would reject the risk of hsv2 and anyone who had it.  Many are fine with it, many not.  Given what I read here, guessing 50/50.

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