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Been in a 12year relationship with my partner and found out that i have ghsv1 2days ago

My partner has had coldsores when we first met but he says he never knew that this could be the cause of me getting ghsv1

at the moment i feel upset emotional and kinda dumb that i never knew this before and i guess he feels the same

my question is will i infect my children and what do i do to prevent them from getting this

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Do you already have children or are you talking about future ones?  If a woman has GHSV1 there is a chance of transmitting the virus to the baby during delivery, but it's my understanding that natural childbirth is still possibly if you do not have symptoms at the time of birth.  I have read accounts of women with GHSV1 successfully delivering without transmitting the virus.  Plus a Cesarean is always an option.

I never knew it before either!  I felt dumb and kinda frustrated at my parents and health teachers in school for not making the connection clear to me!  lol  I never had cold sores growing up so I was blissfully ignorant about them... and not having the virus already makes you more vulnerable to getting it genitally.  But it's so good that you have a long relationship with your partner and you can support each other through this.  I promise it will get easier.   

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There are thousands of accounts every day of women giving birth naturally who have herpes. Somewhere between 10-20% of babies born today are to mothers with genital herpes. About 1 in 10,000 will sadly be infected at birth. 9,999 will not be.

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      Hey @Lcj987 and welcome to the website. You can be sure that isn't HSV-2, looks nothing like it. It is much more likely to be folliculitis or inflamed fordyce spots.
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