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Thomas165

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Hello.

It's often difficult for me to put my emotions and feelings in to words so bear with me.

Over the past two months, I have dealt with guilt, remorse, regret, anger, sadness and extreme self loathing. I contracted HSV from a sex worker on January 12th, a decision which I now view as the worst I've ever made. I knew something was wrong within the next few days, with a discharge, tingling in my genitals and classic symptoms that occur during a first outbreak. I made the decision to get tested, at first for Gonorrhea and Chlamydia at a family planning clinic, then blood testing at the local hospital a few days later. Lo and behold, I tested negative for G and C, negative on HIV/AIDS, but positive for HSV 1/2. I've done plenty of reading on testing and will be getting an IGG type specific test to confirm what exactly I may have.

Some days are better than others. I have had very mild symptoms, at least I think so compared to reading other peoples stories about their outbreaks. I am taking daily Valtrex doses, along with Lysine and daily vitamins to help my immune system. The thing that bothers me most is my own thoughts. Constantly I am devaluing myself, calling myself an idiot, suicidal ideation, one major anxiety attack and in general a feeling of malaise. I don't really want to work but that isn't an option so I go through the motions of construction and bar tending. Many of my coworkers and friends have noticed a change in my behavior as usually I am a happy person, able to talk with anyone, and now have withdrawn into my own head, negative thoughts swirling around constantly. I've started seeing a counselor which I guess is a start, to talk about dwelling on the past, my self loathing and feeling alone and depressed.

I guess what I'm asking for is your help. I've read plenty of stories and posts on this website and others but please respond to this and let me know how you were and have felt after your diagnosis. What did you change about your life to start being happy again? How do I deal with this diagnosis? What are resources that I can use to help? What should I do?

Thank you in advance,

Neil

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Hey Neil, what up.

I had a very similar experience as yourself. It lasted much longer, almost 2 years, since I kind of overtook control of myself again. Nevertheless, at the beginning, I was dealing with an illness that was suppossed to last forever. But within one year later, I started to get informed and I saw all the new developments coming up.

First of all, if having symptoms reminds you too much of your current condition, just take antivirals to stop them. You can do that for years and it won´t damage you. Second, around 5-7 different vaccines are being worked on and are in a very advanced status, and more than one or two will have been released within the next 1-3 years. Then you have Crispr/Cas9, which can stop replication and even eliminate the virus. That´s gonna take longer, but no more than 5-10 years. 

Sure you´ll have your ups and downs and this is gonna be real bad for you for some time, but you must be aware that this won´t play a role in your life forever. Worst case scenario, several years. So try to learn how to be patient, work, think about things differently... But don´t go crazy, it won´t last forever.

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Your test result for herpes has revealed your status before sex with the CSW.

Was the test IgG for HSV1/2 combined or are there separate results?

Only a test in April compared to a correct text from January will reveal whether a HSV infection took place.

The sex was protected?

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