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Hi new here. Have questions. Like how can you say its ok to date or have sex or even kiss someone if thats how hsv-1 is transmitted?   Specially with someone who doesnt have it doesnt make sense. Care to elaborate this?

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Basically, there are two parts to it: 

1. From the unaffected person's side, it becomes okay when the person who doesn't have it recognizes that there is intrinsic value in the relationship that exceeds the risk of acquiring HSV1 from the person that does have it. This is assuming both are fully informed as to what HSV1 infection can entail.

2. From the affected person's side, it becomes okay when they are comfortable with the unaffected person's acceptance of the risk that is involved in the activities that they choose to participate in.

That's just my opinion. There are many other answers that can get thrown out there, but ultimately I think that's what it comes down to at this point in time. Again, in my opinion, a person as a whole has way more to offer than just their HSV status. Sometimes this becomes apparent very early on in the relationship while in certain other cases, it takes longer.

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Thats a fair answer thank you.   Another question.this one really important.....How long is the standing periode in which the virus lasts...re on a straw, or cup, or on your clothes for it to be able to infect someone else??????? I really need a truthful answer to this my mental stability depends on it!!!!!!!

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I think it might be better to question why mental health would depend on the behaviour of just one of over 200 viruses that can infect humans.

As with all viruses, it is not a question of how long they live and in what conditions, but what are the pragmatic chances of transmission from different mechanisms (such as kissing, drinking from cups).

The answer for HSV is that there is only a pragmatic chance if skin to skin contact occurs. Anything else is zero or negligible at worse.

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The other Factor here is also about the person with whom you are sharing something with if 80% of the population have oral herpes there is a high chance that that other person will have it at any rate so the risk is really non existent

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